Why are men so stubborn?!?

posted 2 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

People are stubborn, not just men. I know lots of people who don’t go to the doctor, either because they don’t think there is anything wrong so why bother, or because they’re scared there is something wrong and want to avoid bad news.

You probably can’t do anything- he’s a grown adult and you’re not his mother. It’s a conclusion he’ll have to come to on his own.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I can’t remember the last time I went to a general physician. I don’t have any reason to go. *shrug* IF something is wrong, I’ll go. But unless I have a reason, I’m not going to pay a co-pay and my gas just for some dude to tell me I’m okay.

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Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t go to the doctor if nothings wrong either. I wouldn’t ask him to go until there was actually a reason to. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

MiJeS1104:  My sister has the same problem with her DH. 

It has gotten to the point where she simply books his appointments for him on days that she knows he is off work. And then she makes sure she has that day off of work, too.

On the day of the appointment as he’s getting ready to go out the door to do something fun, she corrals him and tells him guess what, we’re going to Dr. XYZ.

It might sound extreme and yes, it’s a pain for her to do all of that, but it gets him to the doctor. Even if her DH is grumbling the whole way.  

She also makes sure she has plenty of life insurance on him, since he uses tobacco and has high cholesterol from too much red meat, and doesn’t have any plans to give either of them up anytime soon despite his doctors’ advice. And I agree.

I don’t mean to be blunt, but if your DH’s health is at risk due to bad habits, and he’s not taking it seriously, you need to make sure you’re covered if tragedy should strike and something should happen to him. Nobody ever thinks it will happen to them, especially if they’re young. But I’ve seen it happen several times in my immediate family where husbands died young, and their widows were saved by substantial life insurance policies. If you’re young, it should be fairly affordable. 

And as a side note: it absolutely IS important to go to the doctor for check-ups, even if you are looking and feeling fine. My DH is the picture of good health; he looks fantastic and is physically active. During his annual physical a few weeks ago, the doctor discovered a major artery blockage by listening to the pulse in his neck arteries. An MRI was ordered and they found the vein is 66% blocked off, putting him at risk for stroke. We are now taking steps to correct the problem through diet modification, meds and possibly surgery. The point being, if my DH hadn’t gone for his annual physical, we would have remained completely ignorant of the situation and it could have gotten worse! 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

MiJeS1104:  Is he feeling OK? It’s good to go for a yearly physical but some people consider it a waste if they feel healthy. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MiJeS1104:  I don’t go unless there is something wring. I know many other women who don’t (nothing to do with sex). It usually stems from other family members having constant doctors visits.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MiJeS1104:  I have also seen many doctor screw ups too. I would rather watch my health on my own and avoid doctors.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

MiJeS1104:  ITA that it is related to upbringing.

I wouldn’t drive a car endlessly and never take it for a routine tune-up or inspection, just because it wasn’t making any weird sounds or having any noticeable issues.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

BelliniChic:  If you’re not healthy, it’s not very affordable, even when young.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

AB Bride: Well, I would disagree with you in a general sense. Unless you’re talking about a highly specific personal situation that I’m not aware of.

In a general sense, I think that “affordable” is a relative term in a society where many people generally put a higher priority on paying for cable TV packages and new car payments than on saving for the future or making sure their loved ones are provided for if something should happen. And that includes thinking about life insurance before you develop a disease. 

And that if you have financial responsibilities to a spouse and children, and if you know that if lightning struck and you kicked the bucket, that you would leave them homeless and facing foreclosure, it would seem to me that you couldn’t afford not to take out life insurance on yourself.  

I guess I should point out the obvious here and add that of course I realize some people have congenital, lifelong diseases and my general comments wouldn’t apply to their highly specific and unusual circumstances. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

BelliniChic:  I’ve looked into it, for me, it makes more sense to just save money than to have life insurance.

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