Why are people so lazy about RSVP's. Lol (vent)

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
2252 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My FI’s community and family do the same thing. We just went to a wedding 2 weeks ago where almost 100 people showed up at the wedding, that didn’t rsvp. 100 people!!!!! 

I already told FMIL she is in calling duty. by the rsvp date I’m having her calle very person that didn’t send an rsvp. I refuse to have that happen to me!!!! 

Good luck girl 🙂

Post # 3
3990 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

DisneyKb:  Yeah, we had a few who forgot to RSVP. Happens all the time. I just had to get in contact with them ASAP and ask whether they were coming, which can be slightly uncomfortable (but hey, they did forget to RSVP). What’s funny is once one of those people is hosting an event, they will complain about lack of RSVPs too. Crazy. 

Post # 4
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

I just threw my sister a shower and out of 70 people EIGHT rsvpd. The rest I had to ask the week of or just never heard from at all.

Post # 5
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

DisneyKb:  Do you want to know the first thing that popped into my head when I read your subject…AMEN SISTER! lol  I don’t understand why people are so hesitant to send them back.  I’m not asking for a pint of blood or your social security number.  I just want to know if I have to buy you food and drinks!  I also have everything filled out and all that is needed to be sent back is a post card.  I have had people ask me if they need to mail it back.  My response?  If I spent money on a stamp, you better but that thing in the mailbox lol. 

Post # 7
171 posts
Blushing bee

DisneyKb:  Exactly this!  I had so many people ask that too, and also the, “well, I’m coming of course.”  My response: I have to be able to keep track of RSVPs, and we spent the time and money to send them WITH postage already.  There’s one box to check and a place for names, people, it isn’t rocket science.  ARGH!!!

I will say, one cute friend who forgot then text me in a tizzy after the due date totally didn’t notice the stamp and put the RSVP postcard in an envelope with another stamp to return.  It was amusing and I joked with her a little about it when it was received.

Post # 9
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If people tell you they are coming, why do you need them to return the postcard?

Post # 10
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

ARGHHHHH I am going through the same thing at the moment, it is stressing me out like crazy that people just do not seem to get how important it is to send it back.

To the above comment, its important as it is a written response that they have agreed to come.

Post # 12
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

merpitymerp:  Because a lot of people will tell you they’re coming, then bail because it doesn’t feel “official” to them since they never sent the RSVP back. That happened to a good amount of my friends at their weddings. “Oh yeah, sure I’ll be there” isn’t good enough for me when I’m paying buco bucks for my guests, but that is just me.

Post # 13
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


merpitymerp:  it’s the principle. If someone takes the time to make the RSVP card and pay for the postage to put on it, the least you can do is check a box and put it in the mailbox. It’s just common courtesy so send back the RSVP within the deadline.

Post # 14
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

we definitely have some procrastinators on our guest list!  no one in my bridal party has sent in their RSVPs, even though I know they are coming.  its pretty funny.  thankfully our venue doesn’t need final head count until middle of August, so we still have some time.  but its crazy!  to be honest, this is probably some sort of karmic payback for all the times I’ve procrastinated on RSVPing to weddings.  definitely won’t be doing that again!

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