Why are RSVPs so difficult??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lauramae89:  Its annoying and rude of people to not RSVP. If you don’t have all the responses back by the end of next week, be prepared to make those phone calls! 🙁

Split them up between you and your FI so its not such a huge load of work.

 

Post # 4
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lauramae89:  Eesh! I’m sorry! I’m having the same issue. Not 100 people worth, but some of my family just didn’t know they had to rsvp.

Even though I sent them a rsvp card, with an envelope, pre-stamped.

What can I say? people are lazy/stupid?

Post # 5
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343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

RSVPs were the worst for me. We had so many people to contact, and one person sent in their RSVP two days ago (our wedding is in a week!). So needless to say, it’s a pain. But it all works out in the end, so don’t let it get to you too much 🙂

Post # 6
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yep having the same problem it sucks as our deadline is also the 1st September. We had to do everything a bit early as the venue wants all the details by mid September so we really can’t mess around. I am annoyed because we have 90 who still haven’t responded and they all had a save the date 10 months in advance and an invite so I am stressing completely. I know I have to wait till after the 1st but I know what I will be spending my week doing! Wait till after the date a few days and then make the calls. I’m giving people one chance with the phone calls and then I will assume they aren’t coming and turn them away if they think it is then acceptable to try to reply days before because we can’t do that to our venue. Harsh but a line has to be drawn. Hope you get people to respond. 

Post # 7
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2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@lauramae89:  same with me.  I am so freaking over it!  I sent out over 120 invites and I am still missing 46!!!! Due date is the same as yours!! Most of the peope are on my moms invite list so I am making her call all those people!  I have 98 people coming as of yesterday and I was expecting around 100-150.  I paid for their stamps on the RSVPs…USE THEM!!!!! ugh…all those unused stamps ($) just sitting there, wasted. 

Post # 8
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2115 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m dreading this… lol

Post # 9
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lauramae89:  I’m sorry you’re having troubles. RSVP’s were very easy for me, and perhaps its just the people I sent inites to and provided postage, I don’t know. We had only a handful of people to call. Granted, many RSVP’s came in about 4 days late, but we didn’t have near the volume most have. We invited 200 people.

I would split the list and start calling if the deadline is missed. I think e-mail RSVPs are quite a bit easier to forget about than paper RSVPs, but way easier to fill out.

Most people who RSVP are just lazy, and it sucks. When I get an RSVP, I fill it out immediately whether its a yes or no. It takes seriously 2 minutes to decide or I clip it to my calendar or front of my fridge.

Post # 10
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How disappointing!  We had very few guests who didn’t reply, but those who didn’t were mostly family, and our mothers took on the task of calling them.  You have so much to do already, I’m sure, so I’d definitely see if your parents or siblings can help with follow-up calls to family members.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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11712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had no trouble with my RSVPs – only a handful of calls to make, that took about half an hour between me, my mom, and my MIL.

Honestly, I forget to do online RSVPs.  I admit guilt on that one.  I don’t have the reminder of an envelope and a response card, and I just forget.  The invitation gets put away and isn’t sitting out on my counter like the response card would be.

Good luck!

 

Post # 12
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5997 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

A lot of people procrastinate. And I find that most people pefer mailed RSVPs. I literally had my friend tell me this morning that she has no problem with mailing an RSVP but for some reason, she can’t handle an email one (like for my bridal shower). She knows she needs to do it but her brain has this block on it. I think it’s the fact that the piece of paper stares you in the face until you mail it but email isn’t seen so it’s easy to push aside.

Post # 13
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

for online rsvps, it’s really good to email out a link to the RSVP site. That way it’s more like paper- ppl have something they can just click to RSVP while theyre already online instead of needing to remember to rsvp, remembering your site url, and going there.

Glosite.com even lets you send out real looking invites or reminders by email that arrive looking like they’re in envelopes and ppl can click on the e-invite and get taken automatically to the website for the RSVP. so cool and easy for guests who check email regularly 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m dreading having to call those who don’t get their RSVP’s back by our specified date. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult to write “yes”, or “no”, and with a cute note if they so choose, and mail it back!

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