Post # 1
This is just a question and I am hoping nobody gets all upset about it. But I dont get it, if someone wants to wear a CZ from walmart why do so many women feel the need to judge? To be clear I have a diamond as my engagment ring. But I do bridal shows and depending on the area and what the extent of the decorating involved I wear alternitive stones. I enjoy being able to switch it up without my pocket going empty. I have a moissy from JC, and a few different cz styles that I love! I personally am not bothered if someone says something to me about it but I wonder if it is a “status” thing? I guess I just dont understand why some women get so upset if someone else prefers a cheaper version of it. I have also seen some women instantly judge when they find out someone bought a ring at a pawn shop? Why does it matter so much?
Post # 3
I won’t make assumptions about why people are they way they are or why people feel obligated to put people down. My view is that everyone has bias and make judgements about things. I know I do. The trick is keeping these to yourself most of the time. People need to be given the freedom and opportunity to make their own decisions and do things their own way! Afterall, how BORING would life be if we were all the same? Something I keep in the back of my mind when interacting with people is a quote I once read from the Dalai Lama, “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”
Life is too short to be cruel and having a closed mind will only decrease your chances of genuine happiness and satisfaction. IMO.
Post # 4
I personally don’t care what other people wear, but I would like a diamond. To me it’s been pounded into my head that a diamond is an investment and to me it would symbolize an investment on my partner’s end to me. Especially considering how my SO is very money conscious. For him to spend 2K or whatever on jewelry for me would just absolutely FLOOR ME!
Post # 5
It doesn’t matter to me if people wear CZs. Their ring, their choice. Life is too short to judge such petty things.
Post # 6
I don’t think *most* people care, they just have their own personal preferences. It’s the rude people who make comments. And they should be ignored. 😉 I think all jewelry has beauty in them.
Post # 7
I think it would only annoy people if they are wearing a CZ and trying to pass it off as a diamond?
Post # 8
I personally don’t care what people wear. Ashas, diamonds, moissanite, natural gemstones, created gemstones, glass, cut stones, rough stones. I actually do not assign more value to one over the other and do not know why others do and feel it is their right to denigrate others’ jewelry choices. I also don’t consider any stone a “fake” anything. It just is what it is. I also know people who own wedding sets of all kinds, diamonds, CZ, rare coloured sapphires, created rubies, and mix it up with some of each on a regular basis and I will say some of their CZ/Asha/created stone jewelery blows their diamonds out of the water (and they even often prefer it!)
At the end of the day it is just a piece of jewelry and up to the wearer to assign whatever meaning they desire to it. I do not believe that a diamond ring “makes” a relationship anymore than a piece of glass does. My relationship – and my marriage – is not defined by the rings I wear, or don’t wear and I don’t presume (or at least hope not) anyone else’s is either.
Post # 10
I don’t care if it’s not a diamond, that’s totally cool. It somewhat irks me if they try to pass it off as one though… although at the end of the day that’s on them and it doesn’t change my life. lol
Post # 11
Its not just our peers that make these judgements, as I learned one day while shopping at a well known jewelry store with my husband.
i had been eyeing a rather expensive semi mount for some time. The day we went in to purchase it, we looked at all shapes and sizes of diamonds,but i really wanted a ceylon sapphire. As soon as the salesman learned this, they started treating us like we were wasting their time (too poor to afford a diamond). Unfortunately, Jared was the only place that had this particular mount, so wehad to buy it there….
you should have seen the look on his face when it came time to pay, and my husband whipped out $30,000 in bank banded $100 bills. (He had been saving for ages for this ring). All of the sudden, they were trying to sell us every matchy matchy piece under the sun. My husband politely told them that we would consider those items, PURCHASED ELSEWHERE, due to their treatment of us during the purchase of the ring.
I guess they just didnt understand that some of us want a gemstone/diamond alternative for the look, not necessarily because of the lower cost.
besides….. A certain princess has a sapphire as her wedding ring, and it just happened to belong to her late mother in law 😉
Post # 12
I think that girls who don’t have diamonds get judged just as much as girls who do have diamonds (obviously for different reasons). Seems like it’s one of those things that you just can’t win on. I think it’s better to just enjoy our rings for what they are and leave it at that.
Post # 13
I think it is personal preference. To each their own. If girls like rocking their CZ, good for them! Those that love moissys, good for them also, diamond girls, good for them! What people have on their fingers doesn’t affect me at all.
What I have on my finger affects me.
Post # 14
I think it’s totally cool if you want to rock different kinds of stones, whether they are cheap or expensive!
Post # 15
I don’t care what other people wear, but for me, I don’t like fake or knock off ANYTHING. Purses, costume jewelry etc.
Post # 16
@Swizzle: I’ve never really understood this. Maybe other people have much different conversations than I do, but I have never once in my life heard someone ask “is it real?” about someone’s ring. Actually, the idea of asking sounds kinda rude to me. So the only way they’d be “trying to pass it off as real” is if they actually went around saying “don’t you love my big diamond ring?” which sounds super immature and sillly……
So, I guess what I’m saying is, the only situations in which I could even imagine it coming up are either rude or immature. Both of which I’d ignore.