Post # 1
A friend of mine graduated from college last spring. It was a really big deal for her; she’s fought some pretty awful demons in her life, but she’s grown a lot, and she finally managed to get her bachelor’s degree while in her 40s, working full time, and caring for her kid, too. She was really, really proud of herself for managing it, and rightfully so. She mentioned a couple times how badly she wanted a class ring to commemorate her achievement, but then said later that she and her husband had decided that sadly, they just couldn’t afford it right now.
Another girl in the same group then created a Facebook group to try and raise money to buy the graduating friend a ring as a big surprise for her. Perfect! Tons of people donated, myself included. The graduate is a good person who bends over backwards to help her many friends. Earlier this year, her husband was an incredible help to me and Darling Husband when we worked on a massive project, and we really couldn’t have done it without them.
Anyway, the girl collecting money told everyone she would give the graduate the money in mid-May. I didn’t hear anything else, but I thought I had just missed the update.
Well, it turns out now that the graduate just found out about this fundraising a few weeks ago… and she never got any money. The other girl took several hundred dollars from people and never gave it up. I knew that this girl was crazy and not the nicest person, but I really never thought she would steal the money. I can’t believe it.
I’m so upset right now. The graduate is such a good person, and she really deserved that ring, which is why so many people donated. She’s heartbroken and angry, and I’m sure it’s just casting a shadow over her big achievement. I really wish I could make things right. If I could, I would drive over to the graduate’s house tonight and just leave an anonymous note with all the money she needs to buy her ring, but I can’t afford that right now. I can’t even get back the money I previously donated and then give it to the right person (I donated through PayPal, but that was back in March or April). I can’t believe someone would do this.
I wish people weren’t so awful sometimes. 🙁
Post # 3
@GreenEyedMoon: That’s insane. How did you give her the $, paypal or cash? Can everyone dispute the transactions if paid with paypal?
Post # 4
@sweetdee522: PayPal (for me, at least), but I paid back in March or April. I think it’s been too long now to dispute.
Post # 5
Oh, wow, that’s horrible. I’ve also heard of people faking an illness like cancer to get money falsely. I believe in karma so they’ll eventually get what’s coming to them.
I’m so, so sorry that happened to you and your friend! Very sad and appalling that someone would do that.
Have you or anyone who knows the thief considered confronting her? Or maybe calling the police to see if there’s a way to press charges against her?
Post # 6
Wow. I can’t believe the things some people do sometimes. I agree with Sunfure though, anyway anyone can press charges or something?
Post # 7
That is horrible!! I would be SOOO upset!!
I ask myself this same question often. I feel like I ask myself this question more and more….
Post # 8
You might want to think about filing a police report – it’s fraud. The group is presumably still viewable on FB, so there is evidence she was collecting money for this purpose, and those of you who paid through Paypal or a personal cheque will have proof of funds paid to her. Honestly, I would file a report.
Post # 9
Report her to the police.
ETA: And print everything you can from your computer off of facebook or whatever before it gets deleted to use as proof.
Post # 10
@GreenEyedMoon: Wow, I hope that with some pressure from those who donated will come clean and get the ring! That is awful.
Post # 11
@Sunfire: I didn’t even think about calling the cops. I wonder if that’s possible. Can any legal bees advise? Would there be any grounds?
As for confronting the thief, the graduate’s husband has been calling them every few weeks for a couple months because he wanted to order the ring, and the thief kept saying she’d mail it, she’d mail it, she’d mail it… No dice. Finally, the husband broke the news to the graduate. Since then, the graduate has called the other girl (who is ignoring her calls), and as of this morning, the graduate finally posted on the thief’s Facebook wall and the thief’s husband’s Facebook wall that she needs to cough up the cash.
Yes, I know that sounds horrible and dramatic, and the graduate isn’t normally one who starts drama at ALL. I think she just felt like she was out of options.
I would confront the thief, but I don’t actually know how to contact her except through Facebook.
Karma will definitely bite the thief in the ass, though. This is a very large, very tight-knit community that donated, and she’s managed to piss off a lot of people who all know each other. She and her husband will be blacklisted from their favorite events (or, at least, the social aspects of them. They can show up, but no one will talk to them).
Post # 12
🙁 That’s pretty cold-hearted. I hope there is a way everyone can come together and solve this.
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That is awful. I also vote for reporting her to the police. Like PP said, make sure to print everything you can about it as soon as possible. This girl will probably cough up the money once she finds out the police are involved.
Post # 15
@GreenEyedMoon: Call the police and say you’d like to report a theft and fraud. They’ll take it from there. Make as many copies of evidence and gather as many witnesses as possible.
Or the victim could take her to small claims court to get the money back, as well. If everyone knows what happened this person is eventually going to have to pay the money back to those she stole it from. Please don’t let her get away with this. She’s counting on that. Doubtful this is her first scam.
Thought: She may already have a criminal record and could get put in jail over this as well as having to pay restitution. This could give you leverage against her to pressure her into giving the money back so as not to face maximum punishment; maybe she’s on probation – if you’re lucky.
Post # 16
Are you in Texas? I’m assuming so because it says Dallas next to your name. If so, here’s the penal law:
(1) “Deception” means:
(E) promising performance that is likely to affect the judgment of another in the transaction and that the actor does not intend to perform or knows will not be performed, except that failure to perform the promise in issue without other evidence of intent or knowledge is not sufficient proof that the actor did not intend to perform or knew the promise would not be performed.