Why are weddings so damn expensive?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@jadlnc:  I can understand the frustration I feel it too. I am still spending 9K on my wedding which to you probably sounds ridiculous. I want a wedding with my family and friends and I want to marry him in front of the people that mean a lot to me that is just how some people are. When I first started planning I did not want to spend mroe than 5K that quickly turned into 7K which quickly turned into 15K which before I put my foot down I was looking at spending 25 FREAKING THOUSAND DOLLARS on a WEDDING…1 Day. I  put my foot down and we are still having an amazing day for less than half with 160 guests, an open bar, and a buffet. I have jumped through every single hoop and hired a lot of “frendors” and I finally have the price tag to where I want it.

Post # 4
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2878 posts
Sugar bee

I totally share your frustration. At first I thought we could easily (and I’ll never stress this word enough) get the perfect, simple and intimate wedding for 3K budget. That was before we started looking at prices, and venue and food ruined everything. The cheapest venue/caterer we’ve found was 4K to begin with, and that does not include alcohol (which is a MUST in my area/circle/family, a dry wedding won’t do). I’m totally discouraged, and I’ve done everything to keep my budget low, including buying a pre-owned dress, using make-up samples instead of paying new products or hiring a MUA, no flowers, no cake, dollar-store centerpieces, using our e-rings as w-rings, etc. My budget is now at 5,2K.

It makes no sense how crazy expensive it is. No wonder the average wedding is around 15K in Canada, and 12K in Québec. You can hardly do it under 8-10K and we don’t have a weather that allows much possibilities when it comes to outdoor weddings either. May and June have very cool evenings ; July is usually rainy, May through early August there are tons of mosquitoes (and I can’t imagine spending the ceremony and reception having all insects on me, because I attract them like honey. And I don,t want to smell like Off! either !) and August is pretty much the only month that offers warm weather, sunny days and warm evenings, so that means 4 to 6 weekends out of the whole year if we’re lucky enough to have a warm early September. But that’s a ”non-issue” because we do not know anyone we could have a backyard wedding in so that brings us back to expensive venues.

We’ll probably have to postpone, unfortunately. Oud debts (loans) and buying a house are our priority and we can’t double or triple our budget again. 

Post # 5
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Agreed. We have the money but there’s a ton of stuff I’d rather spend it on!!! We’re trying to stay under $2,000 too.

Post # 7
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it just all depends on what you are going for.

Obviously, you won’t have a big ballroom wedding with hundreds of guests on $2000.. but a morning ceremony and brunch after? Totally!

I have decent [although considered small budget on the bee] of 22k with everything [pre parties and honeymoon included] – originally our budget was 5k.. but i quickly realized i wasn’t going to get the wedding I wanted for that amount.

I don’t want an over the top wedding, but I do want to be able to invite all of my family & friends.. have a great dinner and a night of dancing/partying.

No matter how I tried to pinch pennies, 5k just wasn’t going to cut it. We did have to work some things around in our budget, and we are spending less money on things we would like to have the wedding we would love.

I hope you do find a compromise that works for you! Whether it be having a more simple wedding, or upping your budget.

Post # 8
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252 posts
Helper bee

@jadlnc:  

 

I can’t say I have anything productive to contribute, but your title made me think of this!

Post # 10
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252 posts
Helper bee

@jadlnc:  They are, its rediculous how expensive they can be. For funsies DH and I had a personal wedding-sting operation. We stumbled on to our plan when DH and I were calling caterers to get a quote, and when I called a place I was always saying “Wedding” but DH felt it sounded arrogant and said “big event”, well, he and I crossed wires somewhere and called 2 of the same places. When he and I went to compare notes our prices for these two places were WAY off. One was $8 per plate difference the other was a whopping $14!

So, of course, I thought one of us had to be quoted wrongly, so we called the two places up, and I explained what happened and asked for the correct quote, and they said “oh well if it’s for a wedding, then this is our price.” When asked why, they both said “Because those are our wedding prices.” and wouldn’t elaborate further. Everything was exactly the same, down from the food to the servers to the hours required to prep and clean up, except for the price.

After that, DH and I would call different places, and he would look for a quote for a “big event” and I, our wedding. I’d say 9/10 times the prices were different (except for florists). We never called any of these places back to reveal our “sting” but it was something DH and I found interesting.

Post # 12
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252 posts
Helper bee

@jadlnc:  Oh I totally agree, wherever you can save costs, I say go for it. 

 

(I am still addicted to your ring and am very very very sad because I still can’t find a RHR, earrings, or pendant  that has as stunning a look as the stone in your ring.)

Post # 13
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Because people are willing to pay ridiculous amounts of money.

Post # 16
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252 posts
Helper bee

@jadlnc:  Oh I see! Yes, I’ve been looking online because there was a larger selection than in stores around here. That is great news though, as I had told DH to “never mind” trying to acquire one for me… but now I can hopefully find one that works! The pictures are still lovely, even though you had to take so many! 😛

(Okay, done thread jacking!)

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