Post # 1
I am going to try to have a reasonable wedding…I am not your typical girl who wants the bect of everything…I just want to get married…especially since I have been with my FI for 9 years!…..10 when we get married….I having it simple…Friday night cathloic ceramony, NO MORE than 200 people at the reception..I would want less but I KNOW thats impossible….Plus I am only having 2 bridesmaids…
I just feel that I rather put all that money spent for a 1 day affair towards my house, or our future..
Does anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
ME, ME, ME! We actually bought our house first and put down just about 25%, we could have had some awesome wedding with that $$$….but call me crazy, I prefer a roof over my head. Hehe.
Even still I am DIY a lot of things, very minimal on flowers and having ceremony and reception on one site, 2 bridesmaids, 2 groomsmen and we’re still looking at about $25 for about 125 guests. ARGH!
It’s the business to be in…weddings…there is some big bucks in it!
Post # 4
Weddings are expensive because they are an industry that thrives on guilt-tripping women (and their families) into believing that their weddings and marriages will be diastrous if they don’t spring for the best of the best and the most expensive stuff there is. That means no DIY or anything that incorporates a modest or low budget at all. At the same time, they want people to believe that weddings are, by default, extremely complicated and intricate compared to a simple family gathering that uses the same elements. If you price a caterer, dj, flowers, venue, etc for a family reunion and then those same services for a wedding, a wedding is automatically 100% more expensive, mainly because they insist that a bride requires extra services and think she is absolutely off her rocker if she doesn’t want/need them or if she is extremely low-maintenance.
A couple options you can look into are just serving cake and coffee at a non-meal time. Or if a full meal is non-negotiable, call up your favorite local restaurant and have them cater since they will be much cheaper for the same amount of food, and you will already know what the quality is like.
Post # 5
like most have found out, you can phone a restaurant/venue and ask about having a private fuction and you get quoted $X amount of dollars but as soon as you say wedding its $X plus 50%… the wedding industry has lot to answer for!
we eloped but had a big family catered party at home after the event and even after upgrading our flights & accomodation etc we still saved $15K – and money spent on the house
i dont begrudge brides that spend $$$ on their day though – to each their own
Post # 6
As far as a restaurant goes, if all they are doing is providing the food, not the venue or anything else, then most don’t have seperate price lists for weddings. If they do, then look elsewhere since that isn’t commonly done, nor is there any reason for them to jack up the prices.
Post # 7
I always thought maybe people could get a better deal by not saying it’s for a wedding. You know setting everything up like it’a family reunion or something. lol
Post # 8
@lynnabby, while that is a good idea in theory, there are people who have done that and gotten burned by their vendors. The vendors say they were lied to. Due to the current recession, alot of businesses are much more willing to negotiate to get a sale to stay in business. It never hurts to negotiate and the worst they can do is say no. When you call for price quotes, you can ask for the differences in prices between a family gathering (which a wedding is so you aren’t being totally dishonest) and a wedding, and ask why the wedding prices are more expensive. Put your foot down if you have to. Either way, it’s better to be honest with your vendors and tell them specifically what you want and what you don’t and ask them if they are willing to knock off a few services or items that you don’t have any use for or you don’t want and see if they are willing to lower the price. They’ll treat you how you treat them.
Post # 9
@ember 78 I wouldn’t really do it, it just seems crazy that the prices are soooooo high for weddings. Most other events like anniversary parties, etc. seem much more reasonably priced. But no, I don’t recommend really lying to vendors or anyone else.
Post # 10
Yes, they are so expensive. My FH and I have agreed that we may be in the wrong industry, this is apparently where the money making is. We try to keep costs down, but we have given in here and there and we are now over budget.
Post # 11
As with most expensive things, the answer is simple: because they CAN be, and people will pay.
Post # 12
because people are greedy! This is the business to be in!
Post # 13
We use to be so bad with saving and since we got engaged we have been stabalizing our finances so much better, we will buy a house in a year after the wedding. Our wedding will have around 80 guests and costing around $10,000 maybe more but it only happens once in a lifetime so what the heck!