Post # 1
So I know there have been a few people who got comments about being to young, but what about the whole “why are you getting married?” or “Why WOULD you want to get married?”. I’ve been getting this alot since the date is coming up slowly, and alot of it has been from people who have expressed before they are not happy in ther marriage or being single forever.
How do you deal with this question without getting rude, or personal attacks. I’ve been asked well over 15 times since being engaged, and well its getting frusterating. How would you deal with it? Or have you had too??
Post # 3
Wow! I have never had anyone ask me this!
Most of the women in my masters program are married or engaged. The people I work with are all married as well. So, maybe that makes a difference.
Post # 4
I was just talking to my therapist about this. I could stay with my FI forever, as un-wed partners. It’s because we will stand up, say our vows, and commit to them that I get married. She passed on this AWESOME article that I’ve been reading all morning. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201008/why-get-married-the-value-commitment
Post # 5
well i have a baby sooo people never ask since for them its obvious [my baby] lol, when in reality now a days couples dont get married just because they have a baby together lol, smh these people.
Post # 6
I’ve had divorced people (my parents are, but not them) ask me before about my decision to get married. I mostly just nod my head and sort of hear them. They ramble on about why would you, not believing in this and that.. And whatever, let them talk. It has no bearing on my decision and I mostly end up feeling bad that their lives haven’t gone in a positive direction in a way that they hoped.
Post # 7
I know what you mean, a guy (married guy) in my office recently said to me, “You two are so happy together, why would you want to ruin it by getting married?”
Post # 8
Yeah, I get that question too. I tell them it’s because I’m past the point where I’m all about the fun and games, I’m at a point where I want peace, quiet, and the comfort of a family with the love of my life. Most of the people who ask me are party kids, so they quickly shut up after they read between the lines (that they’re immature for even asking me that).
Post # 9
@star_dust: Same here. An I understand if they have been though a nasty divorce, or been hurt. But it doesnt mean its going to happen to everyone, and you shouldnt put a damper on someone else’s exciting time.
I usually just say because why not!