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Why are you having a church wedding ceremony?

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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    There are a lot of brides having church weddings around the hive, and I thought it would be fun to share why we made this choice. I had a church wedding (Catholic) because that faith is personally important to my husband and I, and if you want a Catholic wedding you have it inside a church. Some people were surprised we had a church wedding and not something outside in a garden somewhere (our families are not really religious, and those that are, they're Episcopalian). I think I would have done something outdoors if I could have (in some Christian faiths you can have a wedding outdoors with no problems, but not in Catholicism, alas). I'm hoping for a garden wedding for our vow renewal someday (already planning it!).

    Why did you decide to have your ceremony in a church (or other house of worship)? What meaning does having the ceremony inside the actual building have to you? Did your family or friends influence your choice?

     
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    msgiraffe    May 2011   Chicago

    I grew up in my church (since age 7 I think) so I knew I wanted my pastor to marry us - in or out of our church.

    I always dreamed of getting married outside, but we're planning to get married in my church. My parents are paying for most of the wedding, and their only request was for us to get married inside the church. I don't mind it if it'll make my parents happy. I'm kind of excited because I was confirmed there when I was 13 so it's neat because I feel like I have 'history' there.

     
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    Samisomsam    March 13, 2010   Longview, WA

    I grew up in the church we are getting married in and the pastor that dedicated me as a baby is going to marry us!!

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    It was very important to my parents and grandmother that we do so.  Since they are paying, they had a big say in it. 

     
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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    My FI and I would have never met if not for the church we attend. We have always gone to church and we love the Lord, and our wedding day will be one of expression of love not only toward each other, but of the commitment we are making to each other and to God. It's a celebration of what God has done for us, and the blessings we have recieved from Him. We are so happy that we can honor God with our lives, and we picked a church we used to go to as children, but the pastor of the church we belong to now, is marrying us.

    That being said I think we could have honored God anywhere with our ceremony, but I like the idea of a little white church and that's exactly what ours is!

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    We did our wedding outdoors but we are having a ceremony in a Catholic church later, probably by the end of this year.  It is important to DH's family that we get married in a Catholic church.  I am not Catholic but I am doing it for him so it can be recognized in the church.

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    We would have loved to marry in our church as it is also his familys  but they would not let us because we lived togethor and we have to live seperate for 6 mths while going through premarital counseling. Baptist...:0 It is important to us and his family and our faith is a strong foundation of our relationship.  Also, I did not want to get married in any other church by any other pastor but our church is a tad too big for our ceremony preference. It seats about a 1000. Yikes. So even though we did not get married in a church or have a religous ceremony outdoors, our faith was present with the opening prayer done by his dad and a blessing read by my neice.

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    Lol, I would add another factor in my decision was that I did not want to worry about rain on my wedding day. Having an indoor ceremony took a lot of weight off my mind!

     
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    gingerlex    June 25, 2011   UK

    Church has been a foundation of my and my bfs lives throughout. We never 'found God' because he wasn't lost to us! We're not the most active of church-goers sadly at the moment as our sunday mornings are often spent asleep from travelling to see each other, but I like to think that when we're living together we can start attending together (we're Church of England). Plus the church I have in mind my parents and grandparents were married in (as well as there being a beautiful service for my late grandpa).

     
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    LovestheBear    July 2011  

    I grew up attending a beautiful church.  It's the oldest church in my hometown, and it's a great big, white, New England style church.  It holds so many memories for me, and I can't wait to add my wedding day to that.  It's also important to me to have a religious ceremony--so what better place than the church I was confirmed in?

     
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    missrain    January 2, 2010   Austin

    We both grew up in the church and it has been the foundation of our individual lives as well as our relationship. While we don't feel it is necessary to marry in a church, we both really like the idea of standing up together in aplace of worship.

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    @Chelsea: both the weather and my relgious beliefs played large roles.  My wedding day ended up being 89 and very humid so I was glad to have it indoors, and we were married in my husband's and my college church which I am a member of.  It was very important to me to have a more formal ceremony which the church lent itself to.

     
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    soon2bewed925       California

    We're getting married in the church where I grew up this August 8th (in a few weeks!) with only our immediate families, then having a bigger outdoor wedding next year with all of our friends & family.

     
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    NishP27    6/26/2010   South Carolina

    I'm with Chelsea, we were going to have an outdoor wedding (I'm a Christian), but all of the planning and prep it takes and renting chairs and the whole nine, I didn't want to worry about what the weather would be like in late June!!   I so wanted it to be outside and for it to be an evening of candlelight(which would have been the theme)...We initially wanted an evening wedding 7pm...but the church we chose to get married is beautiful as well so...I'm fine with the 4pm instead.  In my belief God doesn't care where we utter our vows, He moreso would want us to honor them and the one we spoke the vows to!!! 

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    I grew up in the church from day well, 5 when I got let out of the hospital. So between that and the fact that my boyfriend is an ordained minister serving a church... yeah, it's kinda important to us!

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    I've always dreamed of getting married in the church where we're getting married. My parents were married there, I was baptized there, I was confirmed there, my parents had their 25th wedding anniversary renewal there, my baccalaureate for both highschool and college graduations was/will be there. I haven't gone regularly since I was in highschool (graduated in 2003), but it's so beautiful. Also, it means a lot to my parents. :)

    I also love the reverence of a church wedding.

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    My church, and the church family in particular, mean a lot to me! After my family experienced the spiritual death of one church, the new church truly opened their doors to us and welcomed us as part of their tight-knit community. It's important to me that we start our lives with the witness of that church family. It's just a bonus that the church is beautiful and, as a member/youth group leader/choir director, they would grant me use of the church with a great big bow wrapped around it, haha!

     
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    Dragonsus    December 19, 2009   Lexington KY

    because we're getting married in North Carolina and I grew up in Oregon, I passed on having a church wedding.  It just didn't make sense to get married somewhere I know no one and have no connections to the church I'd get married in.  i am having a pastor I know officiate the ceremony after my Fiance's grandmother threw a fit because we weren't getting married in a church, so I compromised and had a pastor rather than the magistrate that I was originally planning on.  So if it is a place and a service that means  something to you, it is VERY important to incorporate it into your wedding, but just remember that it's not about the building!  The words are important too!

     
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    Starbit    April 24, 2010   Scotland

    I am a Christian but could have seen myself choosing to get married elsewhere if it hadn't been for how ideal the church is.

    It's the chapel at the university both my FH and I attended and it's really, really lovely, and really local too : I'm doing my postgrad there right now. Also, I know it would mean a lot to my grandmother too, and that she's going to love the organ music. Also, we're going for a really classic, vintage feel and having it in a church works in well with that.

     
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    luckyyou    March 20, 2010   Philadelphia, PA

    We're getting married in the church my parents got married in. My uncle and my fiance's aunt also were married there, so it's nice that it has a connection to both sides! His family is also very religious, so there wasn't really any debating it.

     
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    bamm    June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010   Seoul

    I'm Orthodox Christian (the rest of my family is Protestant or Catholic) while my FI is a lapsed Catholic with Catholic and Buddhist family members.  It was going to cause problems to have an Orthodox ceremony as the main wedding since his family and coworkers would feel 'uncomfortable' going to an unfamiliar ceremony (we live in Korea, so we need to be even more mindful of such things).  Nobody else in my family is Orthodox, and the churches I attended in Canada were at my universities which are far from my hometown.  Therefore, we are having a traditional wedding in Korea and a Canadian outdoor wedding near my hometown.  However, it is still very important for me to be married in the church, not only because I can't be a full communing member without a chruch wedding (taking communion/becoming a full godparent etc), but because it is also important for me to have our marriage blessed by a priest.  So anyway, in addition to the two 'big' weddings we are having a small church ceremony after Liturgy near our first wedding date.  It's so complicated to have so many ceremonies...but there are a lot of traditions and people to keep happy! 

     
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    Stacy Marie    July 24, 2010  

    We're getting married in a church because I feel that our relationship is sacred, and I think that we can honor that by being married in a church.  Plus, our church is open and affirming and very reflective of my fiance's and my values....and it is HOT in St Louis in July!

     

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