Post # 1
We are now at a time where almost all of our friends are having kids. We are happy for them, but at the same time are soooo happy to be child free. Even though we have been together for 10 1/2 years (married for 4 1/2 months), we are planning on waiting about 5-7 years for a few reasons…
–We are currently 25 and 27, we want to be around 30 and 32
–We want to travel more, we are planning a trip to Europe and an east coast road trip
–We want to save up more money (we just spent most of our savings on a house down payment)
Please feel free to share your reasons and/or timeline!
Post # 3
@bmo88: we decided to wait a little bit, but no pressure either way. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@bmo88: hey month twin!
We’re in our early 30s and definitely are at that age where many friends have kids. We both took a while to get into our careers (multiple and advanced degrees, etc), so we really want to both work for another couple years to save money. Especially since I’ll likely quit my job when I’m pregnant (wildlife biologist, travel 4 days a week, 6 months a year), and it’s a competitive field to find another. AND my husband is soooo not ready for kids yet, but he’s on board with our timeline.
So, we’ll probably wait for another year and half, at which point I’ll just have turned 33. We want 2 kids and I’m fine with trying to pop them out relatively quickly, so I’m hoping that I can give birth at 33-34 and 35-36 *knock on wood*. Not too worried about being an “old mom” – my mom was the same age when she had us and everything was great. I obviously just don’t want to wait TOO long because of fertility stuff, but I don’t have any reason to think there should be a problem with getting preggers in my mid-30s.
Anyway, that’s my story. We got kittens this fall so they’re keeping my baby itch at bay for now!
I think it’s smart of you guys to get in some adventures and save up money, and at your age, you really don’t have any rush.
Post # 5
@bmo88: Haha 5-7 years is what DH and I always say too!
We are still on the fence as to if we even want children, so that’s the biggest reason we aren’t TTC right now.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I just turned 30 and we just got married so while there is a bit of a time crunch, we would like to enjoy being married for a year or two before adding a child to the mix. Some friends moved their wedding date from 2014 to 2015 so we had to have the baby talk earlier than we had expected to accommodate their wedding and our baby making plans. We have a working agreement in place now for when we plan to start TTC (sometime in 2015).
In the meantime, I want to lose weight and get into better shape before TTC. We also want to take an extended trip to Europe and a few smaller trips to major U.S. cities like New Orleans, Las Vegas, and D.C. We just want to enjoy being a young married couple for a few years, just us.
Post # 7
@Little_Nut88: We are on the fence at times as we’ll! Some days we love the CBC life and don’t ever want to give it up, other days I have baby fever.
@lolot: Sounds like a good timeline! Your career sounds fascinating, but also quite time intensive. DH has finished his masters, but I have another year until I finish mine grad degree (which I have taken time off from). I likely won’t change career fields after I graduate, but DH is looking to find a new position in his field.
Post # 8
@bmo88: I’m 24 and he’s 26 and like.. Literally ALL our friends have kids. Some have 3 or 4 and even 5. We’re waiting because we want to be paying off a house and in stable jobs before we consider it. We’d also like to get married first. We’re engage now but the wedding will probably be summer of 2015 so I suspect we’ll start shortly after.
Post # 9
We’re waiting. Neither of us is ready yet; we have a lot more saving to do, a lot more traveling to do, and a lot more sleeping in to do!! As of right now, the plan is to TTC around our 3 year anniversary, in summer 2015. We have a few family weddings coming up before that and I don’t want to be pregnant for them. We’re also planning a major home remodel in the summer of 2015, and I don’t want to have to deal with that and kids at the same time. So far, DH is on board! I think he’ll be ready when I say it’s time (according to the few talks we’ve had).
Post # 10
We’re planning to start TTC August 2015. We wanted to be married for one year before we started and I wanted to be finished with my master’s program before we had a baby. It’s going to be hard to wait but I know it’s for the best. We’ll probably buy a new car for me and possibly buy a bigger house around that time too. We knew we definitely wanted to have a kid before 25 and 3 before we’re 30.
Post # 11
We have only just got married and we didnt live together nor have sex until after we got married so we would like to enjoy our time together before any children came along. In my ideal world we would start trying in 2016, the year that I turn 30 and my husband will finish being 30.
We also want some work done to the house – a new kitchen/extension and my DH would prefer there not be a baby in the house whilst building work is going on. But if it didn’t happen before we want to TTC then I don’t think it would effect it too much, besides, it’s 2 years away!
Post # 12
@FromA2B2013: Sounds like a solid plan, 2 years isn’t too far off either.
Post # 13
We want to get another dog and a house first, save more money and make more money and pay off the car before getting married. The top reason is that we’re simply not ready. We’re 28 and 30. Maybe in 5 years.
Post # 14
Our timeline is a lot shorter than most on here!
I’m 28, DH is 31….none of our friends really have kids, but family members (siblings and cousins) do. I have baby rabies, but I find it comes in waves for me….we have a trip down south planned for next month, and I’m loving our DINK lifestyle right now….I’m willing to make the sacrifices we will need to when we have kids, but sometimes I feel like I’m only about 90% ready for that.
Right now we’re waiting on my job…it’s a contract, which may or may not be renewed in the summer, so we’re waiting until I either get permanant, or find something else (I started looking in mid-December). We’re also planning to buy a house in the spring, and I’d like to at least be relatively far along in that process before we start trying….
The other thing is I find the idea of TTC stressful. I want a kid, but the whole process of checking my cervical mucus and body temperature, and only having sex in certain positions at certain times….does not sound like fun.
Post # 15
We just got married in October. We are almost 32 (me) and 35 (him). I want to have a child before I’m 35 so that I don’t have to deal with the extra tests and risks of a “geriatric” pregnancy, but other than that we’re happy to wait a while. We are about 1-2 years away from buying a home. Where we currently live is way too small for a baby – we barely fit the two of us. We have barely started saving for retirement, we are paying off some student debt, and we don’t have that great paying jobs. Before we TTC we’d like to be in a house with a second bedroom and make sure we have enough income to pay for a baby along with our bills and savings goals. That should all be possible in the next few years, but not today. Oh, and we just got married and want to enjoy being married, being a unit of just the two of us, before we add someone else into the mix. It’ll happen, just not quite yet.
Post # 16
I’m 29, he’s 36. We’re waiting til next Jan to start TTC. I graduate from my MBA program in Spring 2015 so any earlier and I risk going into labor at graduation. We’re also getting a puppy in Feb 2014 in the hopes that he will be mostly trained by the time we’re ready for baby. We bought a house a year ago so hoping to get some more remodeling done before baby.