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not yet, but considering that I have to have our final guest count 3 weeks out and cannot change it after that, I'd be TO'd and want to send them each a bill for the money i'll have to shell out even though they are going to be no shows!! How inconsiderate!!
The same thing happened to us... although most people didn't have the courtesy to un-RSVP, they just didn't show up. People are so rude.
Thank goodness I didn't have this problem...maybe because I had a small wedding, who knows? I was terrified that something like this would happen, and I'm sorry it's happening to you. It does seem extremely rude.
same thing happened to us! a couple's babysitter fell through, someone's having surgery, someone else doesn't have a ride (coming from out of state). we just gave our caterer the final count last week and this week all these people who said yes are now no's--we could've saved some money!
That sounds weird. I can't believe people un-rsvp or don't just show up! I'm scared of this now!
I think we only had 4 no-shows, and two of them were a couple we were all surprised that they said they'd be there. I had several people tell me to tell the caterer we'd have fewer people than we were expecting but I didn't listen. (The other two called to tell me they were really sick, and they called pre-ceremony so I knew as soon as they did.)
I haven't had this problem yet but we just mailed out our invites on Tuesday. So we'll see.
about 18months ago my friend (the bride) and i was walking to the car to go to the church and her phone was ringing with people saying they werent coming to the reception - no real excuse just "we cant make it".
considering my husband and her other bridesmaids husband wasnt invited (my hubyb didnt care but the other bridesmaid was very peeved off by the lack of invite) so she could fit more people into her invite list i thought how rude to accept and then not show (unless there was a real reason, ie sickness, accident ect)
I guess the people who end up inviting their second-cousin's sister's fiance's friend will fill the seats for the no-shows. I know--weird, but sometimes, it happens.
I don't understand it. We have a large number of out-of-town invites I have a bad feeling this is going to happen to us too.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Is there a possiblity to snag some in-town friends who were sadly left off the guest list to fill the empty spots? I know that no one likes to be on the "B-list"/feel like "seconds" (I know I'd feel a twinge of resentment for thirty seconds), but everyone loves a party & if you explain that you initially REALLY wanted to invite them but felt pressured to invite your second cousin & her husband (you can make this part up, the new invites will never know) who have now "rudely fallen through", you LOVE for them to attend, then maybe they'll help solve your empty space problem & you'll have more friends at the party.
I hope your wedding day goes much better...Good Luck!
We had a couple of last minute cancellations, and then one couple who didn't bother to call at all!
Luckily we had wedding crashers who made up for it, so we were only down a net of 1.
It doesn't matter in the end, but man can it make you crazy in the run-up.
I feel for you!
That's really weird. We haven't had this problem. We had people months ago tell us they were going to come and we had them down, but when we sent the formal invitations they at least told us no then.
People are very strange about RSVP'ing to events. I am planning my sister's bach party and shower and really have to chase people to get them to respond.
I think ESPECIALLY people who are not married or in the process of planning their own weddings are bad about this. I would at least be happy that they told you ahead of time instead of just not showing! You can always invite people from your B list!
This drove me crazy in the week leading up to my wedding, too. We had two couples cancel at the last minute with legit excuses, one person rudely cancel with no legit excuse or apology, and three people not show up at all! It was hard not to feel hurt by the cancellations, but I tried to emotionally detach myself from any negative news and focus my energy on rearranging table set-ups and renumbering place cards. Though I can't deny it was definitely an added stress an already busy week! Two days before the wedding, I met my girls for a mani/pedi and was able to laugh off the stress and focus on the fun again! :)
That is terrible. I would never invite/include these people in any future activity. I think this is the danger when people start inviting over a 100 people to their weddings. I mean, are people really that close to that many people? My aunt postponed her vacation to NY when she found out it conflicted with our wedding (she really didn't want to miss it). The people who un-RSVP'd for your wedding are just plain rude!
We haven't had this problem yet. I have had a prev. co-worker let me know ahead of time that he may have to change his RSVP because things are tough with losing his job back in January and still no job lined up. This I truly understand.
My final count has to be in next week for my Sept. 5 wedding, so I know I would be a little disappointed if others back out after saying Yes. I guess it is normal to feel this way.
@Poli2b - Yes, people can be close to over 100 people. My guest list was at 140 and that only included my immediate family, aunts, uncles and first cousins... My family is really close. Our family picnics have normally at least 100 or more people who attend and that isn't even half of the family. Our list ballooned to about 290 (adults and kids) and we weren't even able to invite most of my Mom's side.
Doctorgirl I don't think I've ever heard someone say "thank goodness we had wedding crashers" before! haha. Love it!
I am having this problem too, but for us, people have been saying no and then changing their RSVP to yes- um, 2.5 weeks before the wedding!!! WTF?? Is there a point when I can say, actually, you said no, and you're no longer able to attend because it's too late??
And what about the people who just never respond at all, and mysteriously do not answer their phone or emails?
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I have several people who RSVP'ed yes and now are cancelling a week before. What's the point in even sending the damn thing in if something better is going to come along.
I had someone cancel today that told me that she doesn't go to weddings and funerals EVER. This is really something she could have said to me before she told me that she and a guest would be attending.
Is anyone else having this problem?