Post # 1
So i dont know about the rest of you ladies. but that statment makes me want to go on a homicidal rampage….how rude irritating and disrespectful for people to make that statement! recently got this from the mother of a dear friend of mine. she is a wonderful woman. do not get me wrong.but my lord…how rude…so i figured id see how you ladies handle it, and if you have any advice fielding that line with out getting really angry and wanting to punch things!
thanks for the support!
Post # 3
Never! I can’t imagine someone saying that to me. I don’t even know how I’d reply.
Post # 4
I used to hate that statement and heard it often as FI were together 5 years before he proposed. Rage explosion.
Post # 5
I just say back ‘why buy a car before you test drive it’ lol.
Post # 6
I hate that expression. I heard it a few times (all from the same person).. FI & I were together for 7 years before he proposed. I just pretended I didn’t hear her say it. I honestly couldn’t believe it even came out of her mouth.
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Post # 8
I hate this statement because it reduces women to the level of property.
One, women should never be compared to cows, not even metaphorically.
Two, no, my marriage isn’t comparable to me being purchased by anyone. It is a two-way agreement that we have BOTH decided on, not an “oh, I guess I’ll decide to eat a turkey sandwich” kind of decision.
Three, sex is not my only redeeming quality, and it isn’t the only reason someone would want to marry me. What about my devotion, companionship, intelligence, humor, etc.? Putting sex on this ridiculous pedestal cheapens all these other, much more lasting and deeper qualities I have.
Any man can find a prostitute or a one night stand. A lucky man finds a companion.
Post # 9
I get it a lot from my grandfather who has become really blunt, rude and sometimes quite hurtful over the years. He told me that if I already had sex and since FH and I were living together he’d never marry me because he already had a sex slave…. Yeah. Real charming fellow.
I don’t say anything to him about it because there’s no point, it would send him into a tizzy and I just don’t have the energy to deal with that. But if it were anyone else I’d probably use @HappilyEverAfter54 ‘s line. Haha.
Post # 10
Never, although a friend of mine got that comment from some random person and in her case it was the truth. Although, it really was none of that random person’s business.
I was surprised I never got it, well…actually no I am not. I have a bad temper and have been told I get this “look” when someone is pissing me off.
I mean, I was with my husband 3 years before we got married. Sleeping with him and such. I actually slept with him on the third date and we have been like rabbits ever since….. I moved in with him during the 3rd year and then we got engaged for 2 years. Marriage has always been on his mind, I was the one that was hesitant. Probably because I was in my early 20s, wasn’t sure where my life was going type of thing. So, I think it varies with each relationship, but I don’t think it is anyone’s business and the whole cow thing I find to be insulting…
Post # 11
My cousin used to say that to me back when DH and I first started dating. It didn’t really bother me then since I didn’t have marriage on the brain but had she said that in recent years, I probably would have had a problem with it.
Post # 12
i am still in shock that i hear this as much as i do…esp since when i heard it…she made a leap that even michael jordan would miss…by talking to me about my recently passing my RN boards and about nurse practioner school, then to my new couches, and my recent stent in the er, and then to my new car, to suddenly…well hes not gonna marry you cuz (insert above statement here) WTF! how do u get that out of i just bought a new car, am feeling much better, love my couches,got accepted into the program officially since i have my state board results….seriously.
@LizLemon: I LOVE YOU FOR THIS! this is how i feel, who on gods green earth thoguht comparing anyone to a cow to be bought and sold was amoron…and secondly i agree if he had only been with me for sex he probably wouldnt have waited a year and a half for me…love love love
@HappilyEverAfter54: love love love love love this…im gonna have to try it out!
Post # 13
Hah, before I left for college my dad told me I should “try the pants on before you buy.” Love that man!
I got so freaking tired of hearing that saying that we turned it into our save the date (well, most of them, the older relatives got a more traditional one). The saying still bugs the shit out of me when spoken in true seriousness, but it was kind of fun to use it and make fun of it. And we used it as if both of us were the cows :p
Post # 14
@LizLemon: I think I love you for this.
ETA: Oops! Looks like someone beat me to it!
Post # 15
Brodie: My Grandmother always used to say “why buy the cow, when you can get the sex for free”.
T.S. Quint: She said that?
Brodie: All the time, before she became a lesbian on her 60th Birthday, but that’s besides the point.
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