(Closed) Why can’t I have the song I want?

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I am guessing that there are about a million people who could say "that was my ceremony music" for Cannon in D, as the reason it feels like a wedding to you is because it is so popular and timeless.

Do what makes you happy.

If your FMIL brings it up again, why not say "good thing I have excellent taste, just like my FSIL" and then not discuss it again.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2007

Shoot – I’d say about 75% of brides walk down the aisle to Cannon in D!  Or at least have that song at some point during the processional/wedding ceremony.  Your FSIL has no ‘rights’ over it.  It’s not like it was some unique song that she chose.  It will not seem like you are copying at all.  I say go with it!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

what?? gurl please –  you CAN have the song you want!! do what makes you happy sister!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I agree that its a lovely choice, and one of the bridal standards.  Now, if your FSIL had chosen something unique or extraordinary, I could see how you might be seen to be "copying" her if you made the same choice.  But she didn’t!  Saying you can’t have that song because she had it is like saying you can’t have cake at the reception because she had that too.  Go ahead and explain to your FMIL that everybody uses that song, and so will you. 

Alternatively, you could tell FMIL that you have decided since that song has already been used, you’re going to walk down the aisle to The Chicken Polka.  See if that changes her mind!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Wait, so if you play a song at your wedding it becomes yours?!?!  Awesome!

Seriously, if she thinks she owns Canon in D, she’s got a billion brides she needs to send a cease and desist order.  Play the song you want.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

i second that! why on earth does the song make it someone else’s.. how many times i’ve been to weddings and that song’s been played which is also my ultimate favorite.  since i won’t have any aisle walk per se, i am mixing it up by playing a different version of Canon in D sung a cappela by a choir.  it’s beautiful and unique to me bc I’ve sung in choirs most of my life and just love it.  use the music! it’s ridiculous.. no one has copywrites on that except for Pachelbel!

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Oh my gosh that is so ridiculous that your FSIL thinks that she has proprietary rights over one of the most popular wedding processional songs ever.

If she uses that insane logic, she shouldn’t have used it either, as I’m sure that some one that FSIL knows got married before her and used that song. You should tell her that she set a bad example for you by "stealing" somebody else’s song. So it is ultimately her fault 😉

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

It is YOUR wedding.  Enough said.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

What does FSIL say? If she has no problem with it, go for it. Even if she does have a problem with it, go for it. That’s what I’m walking down to! This is YOUR moment and you want it for sentimental reasons. Just do it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with everone else!  It seems like your FMIL has the problem with it and not your FSIL.  Check with FSIL and see what she says.  If it becomes too much of an issue, have you tried the song Jesu Joy of a Man’s Desiring?  I think its a popular wedding choice as well!  Good luck!

Post # 13
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Has FMIL ever been to a wedding beside her daughters? Woman needs a reality check. I think you should be the one to bring it.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

umm, yeah. If your FSIL had walked down to something unconventional – I see it being weird if you did to the same song.

But Canon in D is not unconventional – for a reason, it’s beautiful and classic!

If your FMIL wants proof that it’s like the most popular wedding song ever, play her the Friends where Ross + Emily get married – maybe they stole it from your FSIL too

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Is anyone else having serious deja vu?  I could swear I read this same post, except that FSIL was "calling" Canon in D before she was planning her wedding.

If Canon is what you want, use Canon in D.  But please, for the love of all things wedding, spell it correctly.  

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