Post # 1
Okay I have been stressing over finding something to walk down the isle to for months. MIL suggesting all this stuff, and none of it even remotely does anything for me.
I really want to, and have wanted to for about 5 years, wanted to walk down the isle to Cannon in D as many many people do. It sounds like a wedding to me, none of the CLair De Lune and all others that never really pick up or sound like "me"
Well I’ve gotten the response of "Well that was FSIL’s" from FMIL each time I bring it up, as if to say "you can’t use that because she did" so I keep looking. All the while going back to Cannon in D.
I’m really kinda ticked off, and I don’t know if I should force the subject or just keep looking. FSIL was married 5 years ago, no one is going to remember, plus her’s was played on teh Harp and mine would be onthe piano – but every time "Well that was FSIL’s you see"
I don’t get it. Am I crossing a boundary in the sands of wedding regulations or something by wanting something else…???
(And yes I choose this even after Rob Pavaronian jokes about it in his stand up bit, (click to watch it) if you’ve not seen it disregard my comment here – but my dad and I think it’s too funny and this would be anawesome song to walk down to both because I love it and because it’s a funny memory to my dad and I.)
Post # 3
I am guessing that there are about a million people who could say "that was my ceremony music" for Cannon in D, as the reason it feels like a wedding to you is because it is so popular and timeless.
Do what makes you happy.
If your FMIL brings it up again, why not say "good thing I have excellent taste, just like my FSIL" and then not discuss it again.
Post # 4
Shoot – I’d say about 75% of brides walk down the aisle to Cannon in D! Or at least have that song at some point during the processional/wedding ceremony. Your FSIL has no ‘rights’ over it. It’s not like it was some unique song that she chose. It will not seem like you are copying at all. I say go with it!
Post # 6
I agree that its a lovely choice, and one of the bridal standards. Now, if your FSIL had chosen something unique or extraordinary, I could see how you might be seen to be "copying" her if you made the same choice. But she didn’t! Saying you can’t have that song because she had it is like saying you can’t have cake at the reception because she had that too. Go ahead and explain to your FMIL that everybody uses that song, and so will you.
Alternatively, you could tell FMIL that you have decided since that song has already been used, you’re going to walk down the aisle to The Chicken Polka. See if that changes her mind!
Post # 7
Wait, so if you play a song at your wedding it becomes yours?!?! Awesome!
Seriously, if she thinks she owns Canon in D, she’s got a billion brides she needs to send a cease and desist order. Play the song you want.
Post # 8
i second that! why on earth does the song make it someone else’s.. how many times i’ve been to weddings and that song’s been played which is also my ultimate favorite. since i won’t have any aisle walk per se, i am mixing it up by playing a different version of Canon in D sung a cappela by a choir. it’s beautiful and unique to me bc I’ve sung in choirs most of my life and just love it. use the music! it’s ridiculous.. no one has copywrites on that except for Pachelbel!
Post # 9
Oh my gosh that is so ridiculous that your FSIL thinks that she has proprietary rights over one of the most popular wedding processional songs ever.
If she uses that insane logic, she shouldn’t have used it either, as I’m sure that some one that FSIL knows got married before her and used that song. You should tell her that she set a bad example for you by "stealing" somebody else’s song. So it is ultimately her fault 😉
Post # 10
It is YOUR wedding. Enough said.
Post # 11
What does FSIL say? If she has no problem with it, go for it. Even if she does have a problem with it, go for it. That’s what I’m walking down to! This is YOUR moment and you want it for sentimental reasons. Just do it!
Post # 12
I agree with everone else! It seems like your FMIL has the problem with it and not your FSIL. Check with FSIL and see what she says. If it becomes too much of an issue, have you tried the song Jesu Joy of a Man’s Desiring? I think its a popular wedding choice as well! Good luck!
Post # 13
Has FMIL ever been to a wedding beside her daughters? Woman needs a reality check. I think you should be the one to bring it.
Post # 14
Suzanno – I laughed out loud so hard when I read your comment, I snorted! OMG – too funny!
Post # 15
umm, yeah. If your FSIL had walked down to something unconventional – I see it being weird if you did to the same song.
But Canon in D is not unconventional – for a reason, it’s beautiful and classic!
If your FMIL wants proof that it’s like the most popular wedding song ever, play her the Friends where Ross + Emily get married – maybe they stole it from your FSIL too
Post # 16
Is anyone else having serious deja vu? I could swear I read this same post, except that FSIL was "calling" Canon in D before she was planning her wedding.
If Canon is what you want, use Canon in D. But please, for the love of all things wedding, spell it correctly.