(Closed) Why can't I shake these butterflies?? (long … sorry!)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

1) how old are you and he?

2) why did you need legal protection for *his* medical bills?

Post # 5
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sounds to me like he wants to get married because the world is feeling scary and chaotic for hin right now. I agree that getting married isn’t the right thing for you guys right now. Especially since he is feeling the need to do in then next 10 days. 

How do you tell him? You just have to say, “No, Not right now. I’m not ready.” and if he argues or tries to talk you into it, you repeat, “No, Not right now. I’m not ready.” 

Post # 7
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I like the ring exchange idea.

Post # 8
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@shanaynaynowJ:  so is everything ok with the relationship with his family? is it ok to know whey they were upset with him?


maybe a promise ring would work right now.

Post # 10
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@KoiKove:  I think you’re so right.

The fact that he’s pushing you to rush after 2 or 3 years of engagement shows that something weird’s going on, OP. It was my personal opinion that I shouldn’t get married until I was ready to fully support myself. It sounds like you feel the same way and you’re not there yet. You need to be honest with him and tell him – communication is so important in a marriage. If you two can’t talk about this, it’s another sign you’re not ready.

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