Why can't people RSVP on time?!!??!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Omg I just went through the same thing for my engament party, its Beyond irritating! Like you I’m now officially nervous for the wedding invite rsvp’s, but you better believe whoever dsnt RSVP on time will be getting a phone call from me personaLy and It won’t be overly friendly! Lol it’s basic manners, and one of the first things any of my future children will learn about. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

People don’t usually RSVP to showers do they? I’ve never had an invite for a shower requiring an RSVP. Maybe some people do but I wouldn’t be concerned about people not RSVPing because they may not know that they would even need to, I’ve always only seen “Regrets Only” for showers and other parties. I’m sure most will RSVP to the wedding!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

My daughter recently had her bridal shower, in a restaurant, with a per person charge. We had e-mailed or texted the date, to all the invited guests, as soon as the venue was booked – last November. The bottom of the invitation read “The favor of your response is requested by April 5th, 2014.” About 10% didn’t respond at all and 10% responded no. Not good …

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

MrsN14: I’ve never been to a shower that didn’t request an RSVP. Typically an inviation will let the guests know whether or not to RSVP. If nothing was put on the the invitation regarding an RSVP, of course they wouldn’t RSVP. Most shower invites I’ve seen have said: please RSVP by __ by contacting __. My shower has a per person charge so RSVP’s were imperative. 

weatherbug: We’re waiting on half of our wedding RSVP’s. Its annoying. We still have time before the deadline, but really how hard is it to check yes or no. No hard feelings, I promise! haha

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

weatherbug:  I went thru the something for my engagement party a few people had RSVP and I was pulling my hair out I don’t get married until next year I am so scared about the RSVP.

Post # 8
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Get used to it for when your wedding invitations go out – so many people are slack with this! I had to chase up quite a few.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

For my bridal shower we had 29 rsvp’s. The tables were set for 32. There were so many people that didn’t rsvp that showed up that we had to bring in a whole new table! It made me angry bc it just looked like we were idiots & didn’t know how to plan right! People are just inconsiderate! 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh don’t even get me started!!!! This is the bane of my life. Took weeks to get hens rsvps and then wedding. I turned into a crazy lady sending texts every other week for “gentle reminders”.. People are so rude and I think they wait to see their options? I’m not impressed by people.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You shouldn’t be following up on the shower attendees — the hostess should.  It would seem very strange to me if I received a text from the bride about that.

Regardless, RSVPs are a tough thing.  They sound so easy, and they are so easily forgotten.  The job of the host is to ensure responses, so she should be following up now.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

JiminyCricket:  Agreed.  The bride shouldn’t be following up about shower invites, the host should.

How awkward would it be to follow up, essentially saying “Hi, will you be bringing me a gift?”

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

andielovesj:  JiminyCricket:  +1. I’d feel so awkward asking for rsvps to my own shower or bach party. I wouldn’t ask. Seems so odd. I also don’t get why the host would be essentially tattling to the bride about ppl who forgot to RSVP, especially on the date they’re due. why wouldnt she just call the late ppl to find out or send an email?

sometimes bees take forgotten or late rsvps so personally or make it seem much ruder than it is. Why not just think someone forgot and touch base to find out? 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

weatherbug:  It’s super annoying! My wedding RSVp deadline was yesterday and I’m still missing RSVPs for 22 out of the 85 invites that we sent. Two of the BM’s responded on the last day and I’m still missing the best man! I mean, I know they’re coming, but can you please tell me what you’re eating?!?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We asked for our wedding RSVPs by the end of April, to date we’ve gotten about 60% returned… Which I consider not too bad! I think we should all take this to heart as shining proof of just how little our wedding plans matter to everyone but ourselves. Sad but true!!!

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