Post # 1
I am going crazy. I am trying to do my seating chart. Eight tables with eight people, seems easy enough right? Wrong. My mom and my FMIL dont get along, my aunt & grandpa doent get along. My grandma & grandpas new wife will be there.
So every time I try to put people together I get stuck, “these people dont like eachother”, “so and so dont get along” “so and so if got drunk would fight”, “This person doesnt know any of these people”
Its really annoying!!! Urg. Anyone else having these problems?
Post # 3
Haha, yup! Did our seating chart yesterday, and it took all day. Finally got a version that I think will work – fingers crossed that we don’t get thrown any curve balls!
Post # 4
@KCKnd2: Glad I’m not alone!
Post # 5
People are always going to complain no matter what. We worked really hard on our seating chart to put families and/or friends together and yet people still complained. Apparently they didn’t want to sit with their families but rather people they hardly ever saw.
/its a wedding, not a family reunion
Post # 6
just put them together. Dinner will be an hour – after that people get up and mingle and switch seats.
They can be civil to each other for one hour on one day.
Post # 7
@Treejewel19: Amen. A wedding not a family reunion.
Post # 8
Welcome to Grown-Up Town!
PopulationL Your Guests
Put them where you want to, if they can’t get along, that sucks, they’ll have a bad time and no one to blame for it but themselves…I mean, c’mon, it’s not cradle school!
Post # 9
@out4answers: , @Treejewel19: But that kind of ignores the fact that weddings are a type of family reunion.
I know, I know. It doesn’t make the seating chart thing any easier – I’m in the middle of it, too. But I do think that when people try to make that distinction, they lose sight of one of the very important functions that weddings serve. Yeah, it’s about the couple – but it’s also a major occasion for family bonding. And that’s important.
Post # 10
I became annoyed the other day when I got requests from FMIL as to who wants to sit with who. It was mostly about FMIL’s mom, but she did mention a few other people. I was then told after mentioning I had planned to sit parents and grandparents with each other, that it was her mom’s ONLY request to sit next to her brother and she wants to make her happy. I tried to explain I could sit her brother nearby at the next table, but apparently that’s not good enough.
Also, I guess this wasn’t going to be brought up until I mentioned something about the seating chart – so imagine my surprise if I had completed it and then was told.
So, anyways, I got a little bridezilla and said “fine, no seating charts. Have everyone sit where they want to. Let’s have my family sit on one side and yours on another. No problem at all. No mingling is totally cool with me. Segregation at it’s best.”
It still bothers me because this is a wedding and not a family reunion. It’s not like I’m going to separate the families all together, but whatever. I wasn’t aware his grandparents were paying for the wedding.
…Sorry, I don’t mean to sound harsh. It’s just frustrating.
Post # 11
@KCKnd2: A reunion of the families is a bonus of the wedding itself. If someone is concerned about spending time with long lost Aunt Carol they can visit with her before the wedding, after dinner or the next day. The wedding itself is not to facilitate the reunion, but merely a catalyst if you will. So requests for seating are just not appropriate. Does that make sense?
DH’s family had an uncle that no one wanted to sit with. Each aunt/uncle came up to me and said it wasn’t and I quote “their turn” to sit with him. In the end I was really annoyed by everyone’s behavior and put them all together at one table with that dreaded uncle. Since they wanted someone else to “suffer” they will all suffer. 😛
Post # 12
@out4answers: Can’t even think about it. Will probably put it off to the last minute and hate myself. Was forced to do some family wants on our guest list but neither Fi nor I are close to our family and they don’t know the other half of the couple. Most of our guests are our actual friends and immediate family. I’m just going to fling the rest together and let them sort it out. I too am of the mindset a wedding is not a family/college reuinion.
Post # 13
I just did mine yesterday. While it wasn’t torture, it wasn’t easy! The good news is there are only two people that I knew I cannot seat together. They are two tables apart. There is another guest (guy friend of mine) whose date has apparently made the rounds within our sports club, and one of her prior dates will be there. Fortunately, he will have a date too. So–hopefully not too much drama.
But to be sure, I was having some difficulty, so I posted the following on Facebook:
Can I just say that doing a table plan for an event is really effing hard?!?! I hope everyone is happy, but if you’re not — then go to the bar instead 🙂
And most people wholeheartedly agreed!