- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I am 19 FI is 20. We have known eachother since i was 14. We’ve dated on and off for 5 years. On (nonstop) for 2 1/2 years. We knew we wanted to spend our life together. Why not start now? The most common thing I get asked is, “are you sure you want to do this?” Yes. I have had over a year and a half since the wedding planning started. We have been living together for 8 months now. We are doing A-OKAY! I understand people are worried about us and love us… but why cant they be happy for us?Or how dare you insult me and ask “Do you even know what marriage is?” WTH kind of question is that????
Let me ask you this… Lets say in ten years from now we split up (I pray this never happens) did I “waste” any time? No. Absoutly not. I love spending time with my FI, I love being with him. So god forbid something happens and we part ways.. nothing is “wasted” We would have had a great life together and I would have enjoyed being with him.
It hurts me more than anything when people say things like this to me! What hurts the most, is random stangers are more supportive and kind then my own & Fi’s family! If you love us, you should stand by us no matter what we do. I get vocing your concern and all, but everytime we see you?? Asking us if the wedding is still on? Its like they want us to fail.
I know this is long already, but let me tell you a small back story about us.
My FI lost both of his parents when he was 9&10. His grandpa when he was 11. And his uncle when he was14. He was forced to grow up at a young age. Granted he isnt as mature as a 30 year old guy, but he is 100 times better than anyone our age.
My parents got divorced when I was 5 because my father had a drug problem and his son tried to kill me. My mom and I lived in crap houses in a drug area because that was all we could afford. I have bad health problems and was always worried about money. Therefor I never was a true “child” I had the mind set of a 20 year old when I was just 7. Then my mom married the worst mistake of her life. He cheated, meantly abused me and her, starved us, stole money, And my mom had another baby (my brother) with bad health problems. We were stuck. Fast forward- my EX stepdad put hands on my mom twice,me and my little brother all in the same month. We left. That meant my entire highschool years i watched my brother. Never did I do anything after school or hangout with friends.
Then my FI came along, He got my problems, depression and all. We were dating for a while and my mom had a stroke… only being 45. I had to take care of everything for awhile. The bringing us to the worst thing of all… I was taken advantage of by a male “friend”. My FI has been there for so much.
We both have been through so much… Just because we are young does not mean anything. we were forced to grow up.
Sorry this is so long… I have never told this to anyone, but I needed to vent. Please be nice.