(Closed) Why can’t you just be happy?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

First: You’re not alone. I finished Undergrad in 3 years and got a “So now what are you going to do?”from my step-dad. (He is the equivalent of your mom I guess.)

I think it’s just a personality thing. None of us think the same way he does, so he feels misunderstood and we’re the “bad guys.” I’ve just stopped caring. If he’s going to be moody or judgmental we all collectively roll our eyes and keep going on with our plans. He was a stick in the mud about my wedding (still is. he thinks they are pointless wastes of money.) Meh. I’m an adult and will do what I want, sorry if it offends you for some unknown reason. :p

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sorry to hear that about your mom.  It sounds like the rest of your family is really great though; you’re lucky you have such great siblings and in-laws!

Post # 6
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@2PeasinaPod: Some parents just never get over the controlling aspect. It’s not that uncommon really, but it does suck! I always felt like I had to live up to some unknown expectation and eventually realized that nothing made him happy and that’s, unfortunately, his problem. It sucks because sometimes he’s totally cool and funny! But other times it can just be awkward..

 

Post # 7
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I totally feel you on the mother front. Mine is co-dependent, clingy and drives me absolutely crazy! I’m an only child and she isn’t married so guess who gets ALL the attention?! I try to keep her at a distance anymore. Her latest thing in the last year or two has been activing passive-aggresive towards me and my husband. Drives both of us nuts. I have confronted her on it, but she continues to do it. She’s needy and wants attention all the time. It’s gotten to the point where I can’t stand to talk to her anymore, whether in person or by phone. Oh, and my mom is NEVER happy. (as you mentioned about your mom) And she is always sure to let me know it too!  Argh!!!

So sorry you have to deal with a controlling mother, but like the pp said, you have great siblings!! That’s awesome. I hope you can figure out a way to deal with your mother and not let it get to you so much. I’m trying to work on that myself right now!! 🙂 

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