Post # 1
Still… disappointment continues. Got engaged on 7/30/10… family is so not into it :(, not even my own sis who hasn’t congratuled me, hasn’t wanted to see the ring, and the real stinger was we were all at a family picnic… and even then!!, she didn’t even ask to see the ring… I am so sick and sad.
but then again I’m not. I’m 48yo, been in therapy for a while due to some family dysfunction, and I realized tonight… that deep down I think I thought maybe ‘my’ wedding could pull it off, could make it all right, could make all what has happened in the past good… no so. Not even my wedding can do that.
… and so it is. I decided tonight Fiance and I will have our church wedding or something very nice in a backyard with flowers and a beautiful dress and it will be beautiful. I decided tonight for the reception, we are just going to have one flipping big party. Not sure where, but I think that’s the best idea. This way we can invite all our friends, all of my extended family for a cheaper cost and then more people can come. I realized I do not want to have a hall reception where I only invite close family people who aren’t excited anyway, what’s the point?
So there you have it.. not even my own wedding could make my sis come out of her own fog… for years I have chased a relationship with her. I love her and want a relationship with her.. but it’s apparent that is not a two say street. It’s too bad it took my own engagement to really see that… I would never do that to her, and didn’t for her wedding some 20years ago. She is now divorced, and whatever she is going through, I’m sorry… does not excuse her ignorance that she has placed to this important event to me… I am saddened, but I now see the truth.
Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
I’m sorry. Some people will never understand what a blessing family can be. You are the lucky one.
Post # 4
I’m really sorry about all of that. It’s rough when your family doesn’t support you like you need sometimes. When I got engaged FI’s family took us all out to dinner and a hockey game. My family barely said congrats. Instead my mom took it as the time to tell me I needed to move back home.
Post # 5
I’m sorry your family cannot give you the support you are looking for. Some people aren’t capable of giving of themselves to others. I’m glad that you realize that you can have a special wedding celebration that includes people who care about you and support you. Sometimes we need to create “family” in a non-traditional way.
Congratulations on your engagement, and I wish you all the best as you plan your wedding.
Post # 6
Also congrats on your engagement!!
Post # 7
Honey I have a sister who hasn’t spoken to me for 21 years and I haven’t a clue why. She didn’t even attend my daughter’s funeral. She didn’t invite me to her kids’ weddings. I am sorry your sister isn’t into your wedding and isn’t into building a decent relationship but some people are just like that. That’s one of the reasons I love my friends and even my in-laws who welcomed me with open arms.
I turned 50 the day after our wedding and we had a lovely time.We had a garden ceremony followed by a simple reception of light refreshments and cake. Then the next day we had a huge casual pig roast at a picnic grounds we rented for the day. My brother was the only blood relative there but I was BLISSFULLY happy. Feel free to visit our wedding web site if you need ideas! And CONGRATULATIONS! Be proud of YOUR progress and this new chapter in your life!