Post # 1
A certain thread has gotten me curious about this 🙂 do people generally buy moissanites just hoping nobody will realize it’s not a diamond, or are you proud to say you have a moissanite that’s not a diamond?
Post # 3
I’m proud to have a moissanite. I’m not trying to fool anyone. ^_^
Post # 4
I voted for the first option– but it’s not the entire story. Here is why I’m buying a moissanite:
1. yes, it looks like a diamond with lots of fire, but costs less and is still a high quality, hard stone – good enough to wear every day
2. although I like diamonds, I am increasingly worried about blood diamonds (as eco-chic mentioned in a different post, there is no way to 100% guarantee a diamond is totally conflict free – unless you get it second hand – and I’ve been hearing the same too)
3. moissanite was discovered on a meteorite! it’s a space ring!! made in a lab!! sheer awesomeness! this tickles my inner nerd.
when I get my moissanite band, I will actually volunteer to my friends what the stones are! they’re all eco-friendly and nerdy like me, I think they will approve.
Post # 5
@janie-janie: i love your reason number 3. I just giggled (in a good way) about the tickles the inner nerd comment.
Post # 6
The cost of a diamond was not necessarily prohibitive (a close relative is a jeweler and wholesaler), but it was still money that I’d rather put toward a down payment on a condo… Vancouver bees know what I’m talking about!
So I began researching other types of stones in order to consider the pros and cons of all the lower-priced options. After looking at stones of every color, I decided that a clear stone would still be the best choice for my personal tastes.
My criteria were: clear, firey, durable, ethical, $. CZs were out, due to their lack of durability (I had not come across Ashas yet). White sapphires are gorgeous, but I wanted something with more fire and sparkle. Lab-created diamonds are $$$!
Then along came moissanite: clear, intensely firey and brilliant, extremely hard and tough, ethical, and inexpensive. It was almost too good to be true. I spent days scouring the internet for everything I could find about the rock – its origins, its properties, what they look like in “real life.” It all checked out. So we went ahead and bought the ring sight-unseen and we couldn’t be more pleased with it!
Post # 7
I wanted a diamond ring, but I didn’t want to pay an absurd price for one. I just thought there must be a better way. Turns out there was. Moissanite is even more sparkly than a diamond, almost as durable and costs just a fraction of what a diamond does. Seemed like a no brainer to me.
We don’t tell anyone it’s not a diamond, no one has thought it isn’t one. I’m so happy with my moissy and my FI and I are proud together that we got something so nice that looks so expensive for such a good price. Because we didn’t spend 12 grand on a ring (like we could have), we put all that money on our mortgage and went on an all-inclusive vacation to Mexico… and still got an absolutely fabulous ring! We got our cake and ate it too.
Post # 8
I couldn’t fathom wearing something the price of a car on my hand. I felt like the money should go towards a home or savings for a future family.
Then someone told me that their ring was moissanite. Like @Jayce, I spend hours researching the internet.
What sealed the deal was an hour long documentary I watched on youtube about diamonds. Whether or not they were used to fund a war, they fund daily violence and extremely poor living conditions. At the end of the video, I was in tears; therefore, moissanite for me!!
Even though my band does have diamonds, my jeweler assured me they were recycled from trade-ins – which didn’t sit well with me at first, but I guess I’m OK with it now.
Post # 9
yeah, the cost thing. I am kicking myself so hard because I didn’t hear about moissanite before I bought my wedding ring. I set a budget of for the band, and couldn’t find anything I liked within that budget — note that I was not looking online at that time, I didn’t like that idea. then I found one that was good enough so I settled for it. after that I realized that maybe searching online was not such a bad idea after all.
since then, I found the perfect moissanite ring! I’ve agonized over whether I should allow myself to have two rings (can’t return the first one now, it’s too late). the sales guy quoted me $460!! you can’t beat that! I just got a really good tax refund, so I think I will go for it. I consider my tax refund to be my “fun money” that is for me and nobody else. the diamond band will look super awesome as a right hand ring. at least, that’s how I’m trying to justify it 🙂
Post # 10
@janie-janie: Go for it!! It’s something you’re going to be wearing every day for hopefully the rest of your life, it should be a ring you totally love!
Post # 11
We’re waiting to get engaged until we are better off financially, so the actual cost of a diamond wouldn’t be an issue — I’ve only ever wanted a half carat stone in a simple band anyway so it’s not like it would be exorbitant. However, I’m a thrifty person at heart and I’m not attached to having to have a diamond; I just want a colorless stone, any colorless stone, for the sole fact that I paint my nails a lot and don’t want my e-ring to clash with it (I already know this bothers me because I have a ring with green stones in it and I can only wear it when it compliments my nail polish, otherwise it looks weird to me). I don’t want a white sapphire because, for my tastes, they don’t sparkle enough, I don’t want opal or pearl because they’re too delicate, and I don’t want an asha or CZ or anything because I want something that’s a real gemstone. So, with that all combined…moissanite it is. And I can use the extra money we saved for my real passion: shopping! 🙂
I’m not going to tell every damn person who sees my ring that it’s a moissanite. If they ask directly, I’ll tell them. If not, I don’t see a reason to bring it up. There was a post somewhere on here, or the blog, or the BTD forums…that illustrates my point. She talked about how she had a moissanite ring and when she showed it to her coworkers (who didn’t know what it was) they all just oohed and aahed over it and she felt guilty and went into a whole spiel about how it was moissanite and why they chose it and almost got defensive…and after she was done there were just crickets in the room, and her coworkers all said, “Um…all you had to do was say ‘thanks’.”
Think of it this way: If a woman had a sterling silver ring instead of white gold/platinum, not many people would be able to tell the difference just by looking at it for 10 seconds when she showed them the ring. Is she expected to immediately tell everyone that it’s sterling silver? Is she a bad person for not saying anything?
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2015 - Garden of the Gods
I got moissanite because I felt it was the better alternative. More sparkle, more durable, less money. I never wanted a diamond in the first place though. Some people associate with the diamond’s reputation very strongly and can’t break ties with it, and I respect that.
I ended up picking out a fancy colored one because I didn’t want anyone to ASSUME it was a diamond. Although they still ask if it’s a green diamond…dweebies. I could NEVER afford a 1ct green diamond. 🙂
LOLLERSKATES and ROFLCOPTERS, people are silly.
I’m proud to wear moissy; it was a smart buy and I want everyone to know that there is a great alternative to spending mucho dinero on a diamond. 😉
Post # 13
@Kant: I know what you mean! what you choose to say or not say about your moissanite is definitely your decision. I think it comes down to what kind of people surround you.
like I said before, I’m surrounded by nerdy people, so they will be very interested in the stone. also, I live in Seattle– land of the alternative, crunchy and sensible. it’s typically not very “seattle” to get ruffled over gems. we’d rather spend our money on good rain coats, lol!
but if I was surrounded by people who would give me a hard time, I could see how you might want to and employ a don’t ask don’t tell policy– just so you don’t have to get any flak for it 🙂
Post # 14
@janie-janie: It’s not even that I’m worried about what people will say…I grew up being the “goth/hippie/nerd/alt” girl in the most stereotypically suburban neighborhood one can possibly imagine, and I’ve always been a sort of crunchy granola person (sounds like I belong in Seattle!), so I’m used to being judged for my actions/choices and I couldn’t care less. It’s just that, with certain things such as this, I just literally do not feel the need to bring it up. I see no point in doing so — I don’t offer up information about what material my bag is made out of, or what hair product I use, or anything, if I get compliments on those. If I had a green sapphire e-ring (which I contemplated for a long time but ultimately, the nail polish clashing won out) I wouldn’t say to everyone who sees the ring, “It’s a green sapphire!” I’d just let them look at it, say what they will, and move on. If they ask what stone it is, of course I’d tell them — same as with moissanite. But otherwise it just honestly doesn’t even occur to me to bring it up.
Post # 16
@janie-janie: Your Number 3 made me laugh! That’s EXACTLY what I told FH when he asked me why I had been looking at moissanite : )
I choose moissanite because:
- Our budget isn’t very forgiving and we have bigger expenses that we need to be saving for, like a house and grad school and a nice honeymoon.
- Like janie-janie said, it’s a friggin’ space rock! I’m a nerd, FH is a nerd, he fell in love with the idea when I told him that, rather than when I told him the price.
- I didn’t really want a diamond. I wanted another gemstone, but FH wanted it to be clear. Moissanite it is.
I don’t intend to try and pass my ring off as a diamond. I mean, I’m not going to shove my ring in everyone’s face (when I get her) and say “Oh look at my moissanite!!!!” But, if someone asks me, I’ll tell them that it’s not a diamond.