Why did you chose not to register for gifts?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: No Registry
    was hoping for cash/checks as gifts : (11 votes)
    34 %
    did not need anything : (15 votes)
    47 %
    did not want anything : (6 votes)
    19 %
    did not know what to register for : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1287 posts
    Bumble bee

    We aren’t registering because we are 39, I came from a divorce and got half of everything, FI had his own stuff. We already have doubles of things once we moved in together. We don’t need anymore stuff.  We “might” register just for a few things, to “upgrade” a few things that we currently have. But that’s still floating around as an idea. This is something that we don’t really care about or think that it’s a MUST HAVE.  We’d rather spread the word on monetary gifts so we can put the money towards our house – like for remodeling, new windows, we need new doors….etc.. 

     

    Post # 4
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    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @rickhurst35:  We are in a similar position. We have lots of stuff but we are keen to upgrade our stuff. I would love matching sets of drinks glasses & new pans…but doubt we’ll have a very full registry.

    I honestly just want our family & friends to have an enjoyable day.

    Post # 5
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    9652 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We already lived together for a while before we got married and we had everything we needed. We had a small DW and that was another reason we didn’t. We actually told everyone their presence was all that we wanted……we just wanted to have a good time and spend time with everyone! With it being a DW.we didn’t want our guests to spend anything else since they already had to pay for their expenses to come to the wedding. We still had a few give us cash thou.

    Post # 6
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    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We already live together in a small place and are planning on moving out of state a year after the wedding.  We could really use the money, over gifts we will just have to pay to transport, however our families are quite traditionalists and think it is rude to not have a registry.  We mostly registered for kitchen appliances (either ones we don’t have or upgrades) because I love baking and we both love cooking together.  We also registered for china (though not a very expensive set) because it is one of those things that you would probably never buy yourself.  We love the items on our registries, but cash would definitely be more useful at this point in our lives.  However, we just want people to come and enjoy the wedding.  I don’t want to make people feel like we are asking them for money if they can’t afford it or don’t feel comfortable giving cash and would prefer a gift.    

    Post # 7
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    4639 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Because we don’t want gifts. Or money. We want to get married and throw an awesome party.

    Our families are pressuring us to set one up though, my mom suggested registering at Tiffany for a few small-ish items (crystal stemware, barware, etc.) so at least people have the option to get us something we’d use and like. We’re still not sold though.

    I don’t like registeries at all. I find most people’s are completely tasteless and a blatant gift grab (handtowels that cost $5.. luggage..). It just seems ridiculous to me, buy those things yourself!

    Post # 8
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    95 posts
    Worker bee

    We aren’t going to register – we’re in our 40s, both previously married, and had to purge tons of duplicates when we moved in together. If anyone feels compelled to spend some money, we will recommend a donation to Susan G. Komen in memory of FI’s late wife. And I’m with kayl on throwing an awesome party!!

    Post # 9
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    We chose not to because we have absolutely everything we need for our home. Also, 50% of the wedding guests were coming from overseas, and the rest (my side) had been to my first wedding and gotten me gifts then. We didn’t want them to go out of their way to give us anything when they had already payed so much for travel and such. We did end up getting a lot of cash, though, which we used on our honeymoon!

    Post # 10
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    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I don’t want to register, but my mom and sister are adamant we do so. We’re having a DW though and there is no way I’m dragging a bunch of gifts on a plane or shipping them back to Canada. So I’m putting on our wedding website that if anyone wants to get us a wrapped gift, they need to ship it to our home address.

    Post # 11
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    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Different answers than the poll!

    We didn’t register because having a DW so that means people are already paying for hotel/travel expenses if they do make it

    their presence is present enough!

    EDIT: I would love to register, cause I love everything in bed bath & beyond lol… but my obsession with the store and the 20% off coupons that come in the mail for me are enough to slowly build my home with all the things I need without having to register

    Post # 12
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    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @californiabride2013:  We didn’t register b/c we are planning to move halfway across country by summer 2014. We already have most of the apartment/house stuff we need thanks to living together before marriage, and we have way too much stuff as it is. Getting additional stuff in the form of wedding gifts would be a nightmare.

    Post # 13
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    147 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Because we hate “stuff”

    We are very practical people who live in a very small house at the moment. if we don’t/won’t use it, we don’t have it.

    And typically if there IS something we want, we just buy it for ourselves.

    FI also got married only about seven years ago previously and somehow ended up with tons of the last round wedding gifts.

    We honestly never use any of it, which solidifies that we don’t wish to register. We jst ended up throwing away a lot of the gadgets.

    Post # 14
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    1500 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    A) My culture (Chinese) is traditional for giving money

    B) We hate stuff and also had a destination wedding so did not want to have to carry anything back

    C) We live in a tiny ass apartment in NYC that wouldn’t fit anything

     

    Post # 15
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We didn’t register because, although I know many people expect it, I just have a really weird feeling about giving people a list of things to buy us. For some reason I would feel greedy telling people what presents they should give us.

    Post # 16
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    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Both of us had complete households and we had to give away/trash/donate a ton of stuff when we started living together. Like we have two or three of almost everything. The last thing we need is more stuff! And we do not want cash either. Any money we receive will be donated to our favorite charities.

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