(Closed) Why did you pick your wedding day so close to my daughters birthday??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood

Not me personally, no.  Then again, we haven’t officially chosen our date yet.

But I was out to lunch with a friend and I mentioned to her that my best friend (a woman my friend doesn’t know) recently got engaged and is getting married in April 2014.  My friend, who isn’t engaged yet, said “well that’s when I want to have my wedding.  She better not choose my date!”

Ridiculous.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow, really? You get birthdays and anniversaries every year but only one wedding day! They should either suck it up or just not go. No need to complain to you about it.

My SO and I spent my most recent birthday at his grandmother’s funeral. Some things are just more important, you know?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh, gee. How insensitive of you to pick your wedding date around your neice’s birthday. Sorry, invalid protest.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I’ve been on the other end of this (wedding actually ON my birthday), and… I got cake TWICE IN ONE DAY!  I called it a victory and an excuse to eat like a pig.  Whoo!  One other plus:  it’s easy to remember when to wish them a happy anniversary.

Anyway, if your uncle’s panties are in such a twist (and I’m assuming his daughter is pretty young, otherwise who cares that much about birthdays?), maybe give her a shout out at your wedding.  Bam she gets some attention.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My best friend is pregnant and due in early November, one of our other friends was supposed to get engaged in October (her SO told us) and my friend’s first reaction was “Well, she better not get engaged the day I go into labor.” Like, really?! Some people are just extremely self centered (especially if they are hormonal haha).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Phew! I clicked on this thread thinking that you were asking that question, OP. Glad thats not the case, and thankfully I did not get this nutjob reaction.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How about this:

Co-worker (snarkily): Gee, it’s so inconvenient that you picked your wedding to be on my anniversary.

You: Well, fortunately you’re not invited so it really shouldn’t impede your plans.

I had an uncle ask why we chose a Friday, not as in, “Oh, interesting, what made you pick Friday?” but more, “A Friday?!? Why’d you pick a Friday?!”.  My very short response was, “It works better for us.”  Y’know, us…..the people getting married.

What is WRONG with people? Don’t like it? Don’t come, I’ll understand.  But don’t complain to me about it, that’s just plain rude.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

One of FI’s friends was PUMPED that our wedding will be on his birthday. I have to say, that would probably be my reaction. You mean that, on my birthday, I get to drink and eat and celebrate something with 150 people? Woo-hoo!

On the other hand, my sister-in-law is both turning 30 on 9/24 and has her fifth anniversary with my brother on 9/8. My bachelorette party was either going to be 9/22 or 9/8, and we chose the 8th so my brother could have a party for my SIL the other weekend. She told my MOH she couldn’t come on the 8th because it was her anniversary. I mean, COME ON! You can’t, like, have an anniversary breakfast or something? I chose to not worry about it, though. Her loss!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Okay, I’ve only been married just over a month, but I can’t think of a BETTER way to celebrate our wedding anniversary than at someone else’s wedding-that would be fantastic. Well, we could go to Paris and that would be better, but considering how most couples just go out to dinner on their anniversaries, your co-worker should shut it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

Can you imagine if you had to consider people’s birthdays and anniversaries when picking your date? That’s insane!

We got a comment from Mr Toadstool’s aunt, they’re teachers, so she asked why we chose a date so close to the end of the semester but still on school schedule, it was a genuine concern since they’re OOTs and are coming for the holidays mere weeks after our wedding, but the venue was already payed for when we told the family and our dat’s special, so no changes.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@cdncinnamongirl:  hahaha I may have literally laughed out loud at the response to co-worker. : ) 

My wedding is ON the best man’s birthday. I asked him if he cared before we picked it–he seems pretty happy about it haha. 

My mom has gotten a weird response to my date, though. One of her close friends just couldn’t wrap her mind around the fact that I chose July 6th.. “Why July…why not May or August??” ummm…because many of the important parties involved…my mom, dad, myself, FI, FI’s mom, his sister, and much of the bridal party have school obligations, whether it is as a teacher or a college student. In May, we are still in school. In August, we are about to go back.  I wanted June, but there are other family weddings the same month. Thus, July. Suck it up–it’s great if you can make it, but your absence will not make the day stop and I won’t be offended. Also–although this may be too specific– her conflict is not birthdays…mom suspects it is because of the salmon season in Alaska? Go figure…… I love this woman and her family and want them there–but honestly, am I to please everyone but myself??? haha sorry, I threw in  my little rant. Point is–don’t worry about it. Weddings make people nuts for some reason. Congratulations–October is a great month! 

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i have a set of 5 year old twins and my grandmother who will be celebrating their birthdays on my wedding day!

if i had chosen our runner-up date, it would have been my cousin’s bday.

you can’t avoid everything!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

@cdncinnamongirl:  Hahaha that’s a good one.

 

My cousin got married the day before his mom’s birthday, at midnight they played happy birthday for her, a huge party with everyone she knows, she was ecstatic.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our wedding was the day before my BIL’s birthday.  He got a hangover for his birthday.  🙂  My parents got married on my Grandpa’s birthday.  Easy to remember! 

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