Post # 1
Bees, having a bad night
Meet up with a friend I havent seen/talked to in 6 months. In that time, she has found a SO and they are moving in together in Jan. Have even preplanned their wedding!!! Ive been with SO 19 months, have another year before hes ready to move in with me, and no wedding timeline has been discussed
While talking with my friend, told her how Ive caught SO checking out jewlery stores. She asked if he has taken me in to look at rings. He hasnt. She tells me “sorry to tell you but hes not even thinking about it if he hasnt asked you what you like”
IS THIS TRUE???? We talk all the time about being together forever. Have had 2 wedding talks in a week (very small, once mentioning how we each want a beach wedding, once he said “when we get married can it be just you and I”). We have named our kids, and are researching dogs for when we move in together next year
Sorry Bees, but this one comment by a friend has me depressed now…..could really use some positive feedback
Post # 3
Your friend is wrong..,and not very supportive, it sounds like. Plus, 19 months isn’t an incredibly long time. Just because your friend is on the fast track in her new relationship does not mean yours is “wrong.” I had lots of friends meet, get engaged and get married before DH and I ever did. I still think ours is the best, shhh. 😉 <– I’m kidding, but I love how ours has moved along.
Relationships move at different paces depending on the people in them. It sounds like you guys are doing just fine. 🙂
Post # 4
Aww, hey, I wouldn’t worry about what she said. No one really knows a relationship looking in from the outside. If you feel confident about your future together, no need to worry what others say.
Post # 5
Ignore your friend. People are ready at different times. Some are ready when they’re in their twenties, others in their thirties; some after a few months others take years (my 33 year old SO is not ready after 2.5 years together). You’re relationship is no less valid than hers. I don’t know how old you are, but unless you need to get on the baby train, 19 months is nothing. There are Waitingbees on here who have been with their SOs 5+ years. You and I are just newbees!
Post # 6
@mrssoontobeh: I wouldnt let it bother you! She was rude for saying it like that. And my SO didn’t ask what I liked and he was already planning it. He is actively planning on proposing now..I keep finding hints( shhh!!) I would try to avoid friends like that. Don’t let it get to you!!
Post # 7
There is no possible way that your friend, whom you haven’t seen in six months, could have ANY idea what your SO is thinking. What she gave to you was her opinion, and her opinion only. Further, her opinion has no bearing whatsoever on what will happen between you and your FI. Try not to let her comment bother you.
Post # 9
My husband never mentioned a word… because he was in planning mode.
Post # 10
How does she know?! You said you haven’t seen/talked to her in six months..she’s just being rude for some reason.
No one knows except the two of you.
Post # 11
She’s wrong. One of my best friends was proposed to without any warning because her (now) husband picked out the ring on his own. Not everyone asks for preferences. I have the feeling that my SO wants to pick out a ring entirely on his own, too, and I have very good reason to believe that a proposal is coming in the next few months.
Post # 12
Thanks Ladies. I know Im looking waaayyyy too into her comment…I think I just wanted to be told otherwise 🙂 Another friend told me that he told her he wants it to be a surprise. So maybe he IS going to surprise me with the perfect ring….someday!
Post # 13
My SO is not the type to ask me what kind of ring i’d like. He will choose it himself although I have added my input without his asking 😉 I wouldnt worry about it dosen’t mean anything that he hasn’t asked you every man is different.
Post # 15
No it is not true! Everyone has different timelines, all guys are different, and yours is just taking his time and that is okay. She just found someone that moves fast and knows what he wants. If your SO talks about being together forever then you are set. That is so sweet and romantic of him to say. Also, enjoy the time you are dating rather than rushing it. Sorry about that girl 🙁
Post # 16
@mrssoontobeh: That’s exactly what my husband said about his proposal… which I botched a few times along the way and was completely clueless about (if he asks you to go to a nice dinner, don’t invite other people~ doh!) He really wanted to surprise me.