Post # 1
go this one on another daily read: Fiance Interested in Someone Else
I seriously don’t even understand why this girl wants to be with him when he says he wants to be with someone else?
My friend had a similar situation but she was not engaged but she totally wanted to be with her ex-bf even though he told her up front that he wanted to be with someone else. I kept telling her she needed to move on but she just couldn’t and she would blame the other girl but not her ex-bf. it was so frustrating to me at the time because it was like I couldn’t get through to her…. and at the end he choose to be with the other girl so my friend was devasted after just hanging on for a year listening to his bs.
Post # 3
Oh wow thats so brutal! I think the person answered it correctly though…some girls just fall hard i guess….I am sure she will read this one day and be like “what the HECK was a i thinking” *laugh*
Post # 4
i think i have had those “what the heck was I thinking” moments in my life but never like this.
i really feel sorry for girls that have to essentially “beg” the guy to be with them when these guys aren’t even worth their time
Post # 5
because they have low self-esteem.
Post # 6
thats crazy…my FI’s mom went through the same thing, having an affair for years and when he told her he was going to marry someone else, she still wanted to carry on the affair…this went on from the late 70’s till about 3 years ago. 40 years following a man who not only didnt want to be with you publicly, but marry someone else…SMH
Post # 7
I used to have a best friend who was constantly in horrible relationships, like this and much worse for the 4 years we were best friends. Each day was a new drama, and it was so exhausting picking up the broken pieces every week just to have it happen all over again.
One of the previous posters is exactly right: low self esteem. We are no longer friends but from what I understand she hasn’t changed a bit.
Post # 8
Tha’s awful. I think almost every girl has one of these crazy experiences and then actually realizes (hopefully) that they are worth more than to continue being with these guys. I was fooling round for a guy for about a whole year and then I found out on Valentine’s Day through facebook that that he asked this girl he had been seeing for about a month to be his gf..I also had class with this guy and lets say that for the following three months I gave him the evil I, met my current SO and have been happy ever since because I am now with someone worth while
Post # 9
these situations are so sad to me. to think that someone is so oblivious. i mean her ex is telling her that he is with someone else and even LOVES someone else and she still does not get the hint. i would be sad and upset but as soon as i found out he was even flirting/messing around with someone else it would be over.
ppl do hold on to the past, and it is hard not to sometimes. I have problems frogetting the past (more negative things than positive though b/c my past was sad but my present is great) so i guess i sometimes do the same thing but in the reverse?
anywho..i hope she took that ladies advice…
Post # 10
I think it takes a lot of courage to sort of break the status quo and get out of an emotionally comfortable (and probably for the guy… physically comfortable) relationship. A lack of selfesteem definitely plays a role.
Post # 11
errr ouch.. and talk about sad situation.
Post # 12
I dated a guy like that when I was young… first love I guess you could say. Although I let him break my heart way too many times it did teach me a valuable lesson: never love someone more than they are capable of loving you and if they can’t be faithful they really aren’t interested.
Makes me realize how lucky I am now to have hubby… I couldn’t imagine actually being engaged to someone like that though.
Post # 13
I feel really bad for her – I think we’ve all been in situations, romantic or otherwise, where we were too close emotionally to think objectively anymore. Hopefully she listens to the advice she was given.
Post # 14
ya I agree with the low self esteem
there are those girls who will stay with a guy or try to get back with them even if the guy tells them straight that they like someone else
and there are those girls who choose to believe the sweet talking despite the facts.
Post # 15
I think part of it is the idea that they can change the person, give them one more chance. The time they invested is worth it in their mind until they realize their significant other won’t change and doesn’t want to.
Post # 16
I was in a situation like that, ( thankfully not engaged) and I still dont know what I was thinking, I hope at best she gets a life lesson out of this.