Post # 1
I really didn’t think I was going to be confusing everyone so much!
I sent out Save the Dates, and now I have people RSVPing on our wedding website, calling me, and when I went out this weekend I had someone ask me how they are supposed to RSVP. Are Save the Dates that new? I guess I don’t know. Our’s even say (rather boldly) Formal Invitation to Follow.
Have any of you experienced an issue with this?
Post # 3
I’d heard lots of bees say this too! We didn’t have this problem though… It’s funny because they are so clear! 🙂 ha!
Post # 4
I think it’s partly a generational thing, Save the Dates are still sort of a newer concept. My friend’s grandparents were so confused by them, they wondered why she and her fiance were sending out invitations over 6 months in advance! I think as long as it says, “formal invitation to follow”, people should figure it out!
Post # 5
My husband thought they were invitations even though we discussed it!
Post # 7
Our guests didnt think they were invitations, but we did have a few people RSVP on our website right after the save the date. Honestly I think people are probably just RSVPing on the website because they have the option to do so and if they know they are definitely coming or not coming then why not tell you early? That way you dont have to wait months and months for an actual card to be sent back.
Post # 9
We sent out STD magnets so we didn’t hear of anyone thinking they were the actual invites.
Post # 10
not yet, but we only sent out save the dates to a few key people (like our moms) and were really clear about them ‘just being a rreminder’ (ours also say ‘formal invitation to follow’ to dispell confusion).
Post # 11
Well Save-The-Date Cards are a relatively new thing. In fact, with the exception of my own wedding, I have not received Save-The-Date Cards for like the last dozen or so weddings I have attended. Our Save-The-Date Cards were obvious that they were not invitations as I had them done as business cards and simply tossed them in with the Christmas cards months before the wedding.
Post # 12
only some of our our older guests think they were the invites. it’s definitely a generational thing.
Post # 13
We’ve had people ask us right after we received the STD whether we’re going or not – they still sent an invitation with an RSVP card but I guess wanted a head count early. Actually I think all the recent weddings I’ve been to I’ve received some phone call or email saying did you get the STD, do you think you guys can come? I just chalk it up to people excited about the wedding, but it does make it confusing knowing when you’re supposed to respond and if you’ve technically already responded.
Post # 14
As the PP said it is a realtively new thing, in fact I never heard of them until joined Wedding bee, all weddings ever been invited to were just the actual invites. I know if I had done STD’s people in my area would have been confused also.
Post # 15
Yup. No one has tried to RSVP, but tons of guests think it’s our official invitation… even though it says SAVE THE DATE – FORMAL INVITATION TO FOLLOW. I guess they’ll get it when they receive the actual invite?
Post # 16
Save the Dates are definitely only 5 years old or so at this point, I have good friends who got married in 2002 and we were just talking about this, how they weren’t even heard of back then. So I can see where older generations may get confused — though I do think it’s funny! 🙂