Post # 1
This guy wasn’t even a “serious” (long) relationship….we dated for a few months and I did make the mistake of sleeping with him throughout the short amount of time we were together. He ended up breaking things off with me…guess you could say he just wasn’t that into me, which of course it hurt really bad at first, especially since we had slept together, but I got over it. We “spoke” to each other for a couple weeks after we split up and then we never talked again…he was a douche near the end & past the breakup. This was in the fall of 2011.
Fast forward to today, he’s married and I’m happily married, with a beautiful little girl. WHYYYY do I continue to have dreams about him? It’s not dreams like we’re out dating or I’m sad over him or anything…just dreams with him in them. Last night was the most recent I had one that he was working in this factory and his wife worked there too. For whatever reason I was there and I was afraid of running into him. In the past I’ve had dreams that he is at the same restaurant I’m at or one time I dreamt a bunch of us were in canoes in a swamp and I was struggling with my canoe and he never even offered to help me, when clearly everyone could see I was struggling and they were trying to help. They are very random…I can go months on end and not dream about him at all and then suddenly, I will have a dream about him. Everything I’ve read says I want him back or I miss him or whatever, but trust me when I say, I want NOTHING to do with him, nor do I want him back!!
I don’t understand it!? I’ve only had 2 serious relationships in my life…high school sweetheart through freshman year in college and another guy I dated for the last 2 years of college, into the police academy (together), and a year after we graduated. I NEVER dream about either one of them. I just don’t get it….
Post # 2
That’s funny because I felt like I was the only one having dreams about a guy I used to like! We didn’t even date. I am 28 and crushed hard on him in 8th grade. He asked me out, we went out once then separated after we graduated, went to different high schools, etc. Met up with him again through mutual friends in college, talked a little bit, flirted, went NO WHERE, then he fell off the map again. I am able to see what he’s up to now thanks to Facebook. He is engaged to a beautiful girl and I have been happily married for 7 months now. But I find myself having these crazy vivid dreams with him in it. In one of the dreams we even kissed and I felt so guilty and sad & immediately regretted it and I remember thinking in my dream “I love my husband! Why did I do this?! I don’t even want to be with *boy’s name*” In other dreams we are hugging or flirting or just hanging out but really close.
I can assure you- I do LOVE my husband and I don’t want anything romantic to do with what’s his name but I do think the dreams come from a could have/maybe would have thing and my brain wondering what if since we did fizzle out without ever really giving “us” a shot. He was the first guy I ever had puppy love for and idk if that ever really goes away?
ETA: I didn’t date much at all in high school, met my husband my senior year and ended up marrying him 11 years later ❤ I don’t have any exes so this was the closest thing to love I’ve had other than my DH.
Post # 3
KKML125 : I have random dreams about exes – mostly the flings – and crushes every now and then. I’ve given up trying to figure out why they happen. They were frequent before I got married and mostly seemed to be themed around letting go and saying goodbye – it was weird.
They’ll pop up every now and then still. I also had a dream about a co-worker the other day. The dream was romantic/sexual in nature & this is someone that I am in no way attracted to, not even a little bit. Dreams are weird. I’ve given up trying to figure out what they mean.
Love my husband. Don’t want to go anywere. Only want to be with him. But dreams are dreams. I assume he has dreams that involve other women as well but I don’t ask
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry bee. I have some FUCKED UP dreams sometimes…things I wouldn’t tell a soul IRL lol, but I don’t really think they mean anything.
Post # 5
I had about three or four consecutive dreams within two weeks or so about all of my exes around the time I got engaged. Each dream would revolve around one ex and crazy stuff happening. It was super weird and I felt weird dreaming about people I hadn’t given much thought to recently.
I looked into it and apparently, it’s your subconscious’ way of “letting go” of your exes and moving forward.
Post # 6
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one, haha! I’m sure my DH has dreams about other women too, but I don’t ask.
sarathemermaid : That sounds like it could be it, but that begs the question….if my dreams about him are my subconscious way of “letting go”, then why do I keep having them pop up randomly for the past 6 years?!
Post # 7
KKML125 : haha good question! I still dream about my exes even though it’s been quite a few years. Sometimes I feel like the brain is trying to dump old info to make room for the new too.