Why do men have to fix everything themselves?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@minniemluv:  my husband really enjoys DIY type stuff even if he’s not sure what he’s doing. i think it goes to the heart of men’s psychology – see the problem, try to fix the problem. And they get so proud of themselves when they do! 

i agree with you, id much rather just pay a professional and know it will be done right

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@minniemluv:  Because men feel the need to provide for us. DH does this ALL the time, but to be fair he’s totally the type that can get away with doing it. He’s a great handyman and do-it-yourselfer. We rent as well, but maybe let him try to fix it to feel good. If it starts looking bad, then call the plumber and let them take care of it. Chalk any things that your DH might mess up to a part of the problem. Honestly, plumbing isn’t that hard so I’ll bet he could do it!  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@minniemluv:  Baahaahaa. Gotta love boys. I fixed my own bathroom sink, but also had trouble getting the parts back together without leaking (in my defense they were ancient and cheap parts) and I know about plumber’s tape. So before I made things worse I just called my landlord to come fix it. Boys need to learn how to ask for help when they’re in over their heads!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@minniemluv:  Always the issue with rentals. Cheap as possible. My landlord paints EVERYTHING flat bone white, including the woodwork. And he won’t replace anything unless it’s  seriously broken beyond repair. I am allowed to paint if I want (at least! but it comes out of my pocket). I also replaced the vinyl kitchen floor at my own expense because he doesn’t care if it’s ugly and I do! But then I’ve lived here 5 years and don’t plan on leaving any time soon, so I think I’ll get my money’s worth out of it.

ETA: I also replaced the bathroom 1980’s lights, the kitchen and bath faucets and the back door light. I’m not getting nice stuff though, usually just what is cheapest at Home Depot.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Tape?  New gasket?  

My husband and I are totally DIYers.  For one, no one will care for our house like we do and care to do the best job possible. We’ve had a really shitty experience with contactors.   2, labor is darn expensive.  And 3, it’s the info age, you can learn like everything you need to know on YouTube.  Lol.  This is our first house and we’ve done plumbing, lighting, tile, drywall, doors, windows, replaced siding, trim, framing, roofing….  There’s nothing we feel like we can’t tackle.  

For a rental though, unless he just likes the experience, I would’ve just let someone else deal with it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

My guy is the opposite – he always wants to get a professional to do the work – and it drives me crazy! Mostly because I know how to do all of the home improvement type stuff (my dad is a contractor and I basically grew up on the construction site and in remodeled homes)… But my BF doesn’t seem to believe that I’m capable. It makes me angry because he insists on getting a professional, but then complains about the cost. *sigh*

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ugh.  This is a problem between DH & I.  He fixes things very well, but what drives me crazy is the mess that usually ensues and the fact that he ends up getting frustrated because it doesn’t go as smoothly as he would like.  Eventually it all gets fixed, but sometimes I want to call a professional just to save us the annoyance! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Why must women perpetuate unflattering gender stereotypes?

Sounds like you could probably fix your leak with a bit of teflon tape. Good for your husband for trying to fix a small problem. You’ll be happy he knows how to fix a sink when you own yourown house. Do you know how much a plummer costs?

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@minniemluv:  Your husband sounds like me.  I am the fit it person.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@minniemluv:  I think my tone is very appropriate given your original post, since we’re asking rhetorical questions… Let’s not exagerate; unless this leak goes on for weeks you don’t need to worry about mold for a little while. Most superficial plumbing problems are very easily fixable by a non-plumber and this, IMO, is one of them.

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