Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)
I have been engaged since July and am still floating on cloud nine from the whole proposal. I have received a diamond and it fits me perfectly… its 5/8ct round on a band with smaller diamonds….. i like the fact it’s a smaller stone because I never have to take it off- and with work- it doesnt get in the way ( i wear gloves).
So…. although I admire the larger rings….. I am happy with mine….it also makes me smile to know this is the first piece of jewelry my hunny has ever bought a girl. He picked out the diamond and then the band by himself and the proposal was a surprise to me. He’s my best friend and my ring means so much.
However it is commented on by people I work with…etc…. I know it’s it’s a good stone ( with the budget I knew he had….I prefer quality over a larger ugly stone) but OTHERS say “oh…that’s nice…it’s cute…are you going to upgrade?” They think just becasue it is small it was cheap…. and that’s not the case. How can I make them understand that without telling them what it cost?
The salesperson at the jewelry store where I was looking at bands even told me I should upgrade to a larger stone. I know she’s trying to sell me something bigger …but she isn’t helping me buy a band when she is commenting on how my ring isn’t up to par with the others she has in the store.
Jeeze- why can’t people just say congratualtions? I just don’t understand why ring size is so important..I read several posts about large stone brides who want even bigger.
I know those brides are just thinking “oh she’s just jealous” but really I’m not…. this ring is such a small detail of the whole picture…so I think it’s understandable that I think it’s not as important as the marriage itself. Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
yep I got it’s “cute” about every single time LOL. wouldn’t have minded a bigger rock, but I’m happy with what I got.
Post # 4
@langel86: I agree that people seem to place too much importance on the ring. If you’re happy with it, that’s all that matters.
Post # 5
Honestly, some people are just rude and lack social skills. Ignore them and enjoy your ring. 🙂
Post # 6
That’s awful. I would never, ever say those kinds of things to anybody! While I admire and appreciate large diamonds, they’re not my personal style and I would never have wanted one. People need to realize that not everybody’s tastes are the same. Some people like big and sparkly, and some people like classic and understated jewelry. It doesn’t make any of it any less beautiful. Just do your best to remember that and those people will get easier to ignore. 🙂
Post # 7
@jcent: agreed! A ring is a special symbol of the love shared between two people…if people focus on the size of the rock rather than what that “rock” symbolizes, then shame on them!
Post # 8
Wow, they are just rude….no other explanation for that!!
Post # 9
@langel86: I’m sorry you’ve gone through all this! I have the same size diamond as you and I have yet to encounter any snark. But this makes me apprehensive that a time will come when I will.
Post # 10
I honestly hate the “let’s see the ring” and it isn’t because I’m ashamed… I just don’t like endulging people like that. If you want to see rings go to a jewlery shop.
Post # 11
People are idiots. Enjoy your ring hun. You love your ring for more than just the stats on it. Unfortunately, society has made the whole wedding/marriage thing a huge production where we have to have a certain size ring with a huge wedding that will accommodate everyone, even people you haven’t spoke to in years! And then you MUST buy a house afterwards because that is the thing to do! Lol. Sorry, I’m venting now….lol
But seriously, enjoy your ring that your hunny gave you because its symbolic for much more than just the size of it! And that’s what counts! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
Post # 12
I cannot imagine people making such insensitive comments about someone else’s ring. That is just beyond my comprehension. I’m sorry that you’ve been subjected to those thoughtless words.
Post # 13
because we live in a filter free disposable/upgradable society these days and people have lost the simple art of being polite
im sorry their comments are making you feel this way but remind yourself you have a quality stone and it makes both you and your Fiance happy so enjoy!
Post # 14
I would never in a million years say something that insensitive to someone. I don’t understand why people can’t just be gracious and say congratulations, then move on. Ignore them and be happy, because you have every reason to be!
Post # 15
I’m sorry people have been so ude to you! I have a very similar ring in size and style. Like you, I admire larger rings but I’m just honestly not a fan of them for myself
Post # 16
That sucks that people have been so rude about it. I don’t think a lot of people understand that a lot of smaller stones are much better quality and just as expensive as larger stones. I actually really like smaller stones. Most huge rings are just too over the top for me.