I think cheating is situational.
If you’re dating a guy and he cheats on you after 2 months, it’s probably safe to assume that he’s just a whore. Some men are like that. Even some ladies are like that, it’s usually because they aren’t interested in settling down with just 1 person.
For a couple that’s been together years, or married years, cheating can be from a number of things. The stress from a recent hardship on the relationship, feeling unappreciated or unloved, or even worse, if you start feeling ugly/dirty. Alot of times, they don’t want their marriage to end, they just want to feel love.
Somewhat horrible cheating story about my fi’s parents. His mom had breast cancer, and it was quite a battle. It was about a 4 year struggle, but they made it through. Apparently, fi’s father was a real trooper – doing all the house work, taking care of the kids, taking care of his sick wife, while maintaining a job. After she got better, he was EXTREMELY depressed. [I'm just going to assume that it was because of his absent love life for those 4 years]. He did end up cheating on her, but he didn’t want the marriage to end. And when she found out, he couldn’t remember why he did it.
They are still together, and they are working through it. I honestly don’t think his father would have cheated on his mother if it wasn’t for the hardship they went through. It wasn’t her fault, of course.
To answer your questions :
Have you cheated? Yes, but not on my fi. I’ve only ever cheated once.
Why did you cheat? I was living with my ex, and he got hurt and was on some heavy meds, he just wasn’t himself anymore. We used to go out for dinner every saturday, and bowling every tuesday. Thursday was movie night. He never wanted to do anything, ever. He would go to work and then sit on the couch until bedtime. After 6 months or so of this, I just gave up.
Have you done it more than once? I cheated on him once, then immediately came home, packed my things & left.
Did you feel guilty? If so when, was it during the act of cheating or after? I felt bad that I didn’t break up with him before hand.
Did you tell your SO (did you tell them the whole truth or part of it?) or did they find out another way? Like I said, it wasn’t my fi, it was my ex. I came home and told him.
That being said, I’ve been with fi for 4 years, and cheating has never crossed my mind. Sure, I might flirt a little here and there [im the flirty type], but I don’t ever do anything behind his back, or anything he doesn’t know about.