Post # 1
Little bit of a rant / rather bemused at the same time – why do people feel entitled to comment on my weight in relation to the wedding?! Has anyone else had this happen?
I’ve had a number of people, well meaning and usually very kind people I might add, comment that I’ve got plenty of time to get the weight off before the wedding, or that it’ll just drop off, or what kind of diet I’m planning on doing. I understand that they presume that all brides diet for the big day…. but these are people who see me regularly (co-workers, family friends) and obviously haven’t seen my weight change much over the past 5 years. It’s all very strange. I reply by saying I’m happy with my weight, I’m healthy and happy and I plan on being the best me I can be on the day and that doesn’t include shedding half my body weight in 3 months!! Also, my fiance loves me just the way I am 🙂
For reference, I’m a size 10 US I think (size 14 NZ) so whilst not a skinny minnie, not in danger of my weight affecting my health either.
Post # 3
I think the ads for wedding dresses don’t help our cause either. Brides are portrayed as very thin, long and lean in most catalogs and boutiques therefore we average to plus size ladies should of course dream of being the same.
I have yet to meet a bride who didn’t diet before he wedding (myself excluded…I did no such thing). The pressure of being photographed and preserved for years sometimes drives us ladies to try to obtain that “perfect” look.
I’m sorry people are overstepping boundaries and I hope you don’t take it too personally. I am of the opinion that a woman’s weight is NEVER an appropriate topic of discussion.
Post # 4
I really haven’t gotten this just yet but it’s funny how much people think their opinions matter in relation to your wedding. Most of the time I listen and smile, then do whatever the hell I want. But still, what a close topic.
Post # 5
I would NEVER assume anyone is planning to shed weight, for any occasion. I guess it’s never dawned on them that you’re happy at your weight.
Post # 6
That is rude and weird at the same time. I’m glad you are not taking it to heart…people are strange sometimes.
Post # 7
This has got to be one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever heard. It hasn’t happened to me much, but I do recall a recent moment where I ordered a salad, and someone said, “Oh are you on a diet for your wedding?” And I wasn’t so confused that I don’t even know what I said. It was probably something dumb like, “No. I’m just eating food like I always do.” I have zero intention of doing anything different between now and my wedding. People are weird 🙂
Post # 8
Wow. I cannot believe that people in your life, especially co-workers and friends, would make such statements to you!
You are beautiful. You will be a stunning bride!
Post # 9
What? Rude. You look great! I didn’t diet before my wedding, although I did try to drink more water.
Post # 10
Size 10 is not “big” by any means, so I don’t know WHERE anyone would get the idea that you need to lose weight. You look fantastic, and I’m not just saying that “to make you feel better.”
I guess people assume that because it’s a wedding, the bride automatically wants to lose “x” amount of weight, which isn’t always the case. What rude people.
I’m sorry people are assholes. You are lovely.
Post # 11
I did not diet for my wedding and it never crossed my mind to do so! I am same weight I have been for years and I don’t want to look like a totally different person who lost an unmaintainable amount of weight just for my wedding day. For the record, I am a size 10 as well and I think you and I both are pretty hot.
Post # 12
First off ….you look great!!
I agree with PP, people offer up all kinds of “usefull” things while you’re wedding planning…. people are nuts! lol
Post # 13
Its super weird and rude and unfortunately, alarmingly common. People just assume all brides will shed weight for their wedding. I’m a US 2/4, and I got the same remarks.
Post # 14
I’ve gotten this too. I think it’s very odd considpounds I would be underweight if I lost 5 pounds. You should just ignore them. It’s better to be healthy and happy than skinny and unhealthy.
Post # 15
I think it’s because of the dang publicity.. It’s like everywhere you see wedding magazines and the models wearing bridal gowns and the “bride” is always super fit and thin.. But that’s a wrong idea! THat makes people think that we should look like that..
They just don’t think that by saying things like that they make you feel uncomfortable…
My MIL used to tell me that and she was pushing me to loose weight, I lost about 2 dress sizesbecause of that, but now I like the way I look and feel and even tho she keeps on pushing me to loose more weight, I just don’t listen to her.. If you like the way you look and you feel good about it,just ignore the rest! You are very pretty! You don’t have to feel bad :/
Post # 16
You are beautiful, and you look great.