(Closed) why do people still have issues with my interracial marriage?

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

“why do people still have issues with my interracial marriage?”

Answer: Because they’re dumb.

Post # 4
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I hope you are thick skinned.  You are now getting a taste of the attitudes that minorites have been dealing with for years.  

By The Way, you will never know.  Like you said, it’s done behind your back, in secrecy, amongst themselves (as far as they know).  

Post # 5
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow! Seriously? This blows my mind!

I am not in an interratial relationship but I still can’t believe there are people out there who would balk at white and black people “mixing”… WTF!!!!!!

Post # 6
4824 posts
Honey bee

The same reason people have issues with gay marriages, or just being gay, with religious intolerance etc.

Sadly there will always be predudices for a long time to come.  

I call it ignorance and they defend it with any number of silly arguments.

Post # 7
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Really? Really! People!

Post # 8
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mr. Tattoo’s family (moms side) in the south make dumb comments like that. Like one time his aunt said, “No. I’m not allowing that n*gger to stay in my house! She can stay at a hotel alone.” Yeah…not invited to the wedding. The only people on his mom’s side that’s invited is his mom, her husband, two uncles, and his siblings. Everyone else can choke.

You become numb to it after a while.

Post # 9
38 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

You’d be surprised. Even people you wouldn’t expect say things like that when they think they’re comfortable with you.  My friend’s parents flipped out when she was dating a black guy.  They claimed they were just worried about how difficult it would be for her and what people would think, but I just don’t think they were thrilled with it personally.

I once knew a girl who married a white guy (she was asian), but had a discussion with a bunch of us about how she’d never have kids with her husband because she didn’t think it was a good idea to have a mixed kid.   

Post # 10
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The weirdest part of this post (to me) is that she would come right up to your dad and tell him that. How strange! I work with ladies like that, just trying to stir up trouble and not caring who gets hurt in the process.

There will always be racist people, most will be racist behind your back. But if it wasn’t for race, they would find something else terrible to say, just for the attention/drama.

Post # 11
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe it depends on the location but I haven’t seen any issues with interracial marriages. I’ve lived in two areas my life (suburbs of Philadelphia and now Seattle) and I’ve noticed people really don’t care.

Although, I guess it doesn’t really depend on location either.  There will still be people who are still stuck in that mindset.

Sorry, that someone said that about your wedding. I would be so pissed if I heard that about my wedding.  

Post # 12
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

…because they are ignorrant?

Post # 13
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s awful. Your dad sounds like an awesome guy though. What a close minded little shrew that woman is. And what would make her think your dad would agree with her?! That’s just terrible. Trust me, there are far more people who don’t notice what colour(s) couples are and just see happy people in love than people like her. Don’t let the bad ones bring you down.

Post # 14
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

People are mean and ignorant. Plain and simple. It’s sad that people let their minds be clouded by prejudice and hate. Often times they haven’t even really met and gotten to know a person of the group that they hate. It’s sad. Keep your  chin up, you have more love and class in you than that stupid lady has in her pinky toe.

Post # 15
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s terrible. Honestly, I don’t really get it either. That’s their biggest problem in life, considering it’s not even a problem? And to use words like “disgusting?” Really? Yeesh.

Post # 16
38 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

This didn’t happen to me, but this just popped into my head too.  I had a friend in college who had been dating this girl for a few years.  His family was totally cool with her and the relationship until one day they happened to meet her parents.  Well they are Mexican and his parents had no idea she was mexican (she’s very fair skinned, blue eyes) and instantly everything changed.  They insisted he end the relationship.  He didn’t, but just an example.  I have no idea why they had such a big issue with it, but it was shocking after so long.

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