UPDATE: FI’s mom left his uncle a message saying she was upset that he felt he could just text her to say he’s not coming to the wedding… He never called back. Then I hear from FMIL that he called FI’s other aunt to ask her opinion. She told him to take his invitation out and see if it said “and guest” or “+1” which of course it didn’t, and she told him “well then that means you don’t have a guest!” Again, he gave the story about inviting her 3 months ago and her buying a new dress and rearranging her schedule. She told him to stop being selfish.
So then he texted FMILyesterday morning and just said “what are you guys doing?” and she wrote back and said “Working.” She called me and asked if she should call him back. I said, do whatever you want, you left him a message, so you should probably talk to him. So she called him back last night… She told me that she said to him “I understand you’re upset about not getting a date, but you need to understand that this day is not about you and what you want to do, it’s about the two of them, and they have a limited guest list as it is, you can’t just invite a date without asking them first if it’s okay if it’s not on your invitation…” so then he was like “well I invited her a long time ago” (which is BS by the way, we didn’t send the invitations until mid-July… and according to FMIL, he also had no clue of the date prior to getting the invitation… so don’t tell me you invited a date in May…), and she said that she said to him “well, that was foolish to invite a date before you knew whether or not you had one included on your invitation” and he hung up on her…?!?!?!
So this morning, FMIL texts me and says “conversation with uncle didn’t go well, maybe you guys can call him later.”
So I called FMIL because if FI’s going to call ANYONE (and he won’t. He’s fed up and the onus shouldn’t be on him to call uncle) he needs to know exactly what has been said, not just a paraphrase or summary…
FMIL also told me that she got into a big fight with FSIL last night, because after Uncle hung up on her, she was talking with FSIL who was like “I’m on Uncle’s side” (um, there are sides??) and blew up on FMIL, to which FMIL asked her why she was so jealous of her brother and why she couldn’t just be happy for us.
FMIL also told me this morning that obviously FSIL is still not over not being in the wedding, to which I responded that although it wasn’t a decision we made based on sibling’s behavior, that her behavior over the last year (cruel) has cemented further that we made the right decision.
Then I guess after FMIL got off the phone with FSIL, FSIL’s boyfriend texted FMIL and basically told her off saying he didn’t appreciate her telling FSIL she was jealous of her brother in not so many words…
Can’t they all just RSVP no and be done with it?!