Post # 1
I’m not anywhere near sending invites out but I’m already annoyed by this. I just dread what I’ll feel like when the time comes.
I went to drop off some stuff at a cousin’s house today and notice a wedding invite and RSVP card sitting on her table. lol Being in full wedding mode I picked up the invite and started looking it over. I happened to notice the reply date for the RSVP(May 25th) and asked if she actually planned on returning it. She replied, “Oh probably not, they know I’m coming anyway.”
I nearly lost my cool. I mean the RSVP was stamped, addresses, and everything/ Simply check yes or no and send it back. It would have taken 5 minutes and would have made the money the bride spent on invites/rsvp worth it and it makes her life so much easier to actually KNOW who is coming and who isn’t.
I told my cousin who was blatantly being rude and she had no idea who much stress that bride was under.
This just really bugs me. If you are kindly invited to a wedding where they are going to provide you with free entertainment, food, drink, etc. THEN SEND YOUR FRIGGIN RSVP BACK!
On a similar note, my best friend is getting married in October. We were talking the other day about one of her family members who refuses to RSVP yes or no to anything. She doesn’t feel she should be pressured to make some commitment to an event when she may or may not have to change her plans at the last minute to do something else.
Ugh I would sock that woman in the face and tell her I don’t feel I should be pressured to invite such a incomprehensible tool to my wedding when I may or may not have better, more polite people who could attend.
I truly just don’t understand how sending in an RSVP can be so hard for some people.
Post # 3
i know – I feel like saying if you turned up at my wedding without an RSVP you wouldn’t be catered for. That’s why there are RSVPs. Nods in agreement. I have a few people on my list who I’m intendeding on inviting if some family don’t turn up. NO RSVP no entry into the reception!
Post # 4
No idea. It’s just plain rude
Post # 5
I totally don’t get it either – I really felt like I was trying to sell people life insurance or a used car instead of having them RSVP to an awesome party & celebration!
I was even more peeved about the people that did RSVP but just didn’t come. To me, that is even worse because I’m still on the hook for paying for them.
Post # 6
Because people are difficult and rude. It’s infortunate but almost always true.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I think some people don’t want to commit, but honestly- what’s better than a friend’s wedding???
I’m planning on using this e-mail for non-rsvps, which was posted on another thread- think it’s perfect:
“Hi- Just wanted to check on your RSVP for our wedding on July 13th. We know how easy it is to let these dates get away from you, however we need to give our caterer a final number of guests. If we don’t hear back from you by (DATE), we’ll have to assume that you are unable to attend.”
I also don’t understand the no shows. If something comes up-call the bride or groom. Depending on how late it is, the couple can change the final catering number, or have someone else fill in-there are plenty of friends of the family we could invite.
Post # 8
To be honest i’m one of those non-rsvp’ers. **ducks and hides** Alot of mine come without a stamp. I NEVER have stamps-just like i NEVER have cash. So I’ll take the invite and put it in my bottomless everything bag, In hopes of getting a stamp, or actually seeing the person and give it to them in person. I’m completely air headed. It slips my mind. Same goes for the ones with stamps- it goes into my bottomless everything bag where I won’t remember it until 3 months later when i’m cleaning it out. I actually had NO IDEA why the RSVP’s were so IMPORTANT until I became engaged. Sorry!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
@rebwana: That is a great e-mail; so polite and friendly yet firm. Thank you for sharing!
Post # 10
@rebwana: Yes! I’m with @Fairy Penguin: Thanks for sharing! It will really help with super busy people and extremely unorganized people such as myself!
Post # 11
@2strapscool: thats bizarre. i’ve never heard of someone sending an RSVP without a stamp! that is rude haha
Post # 12
I have thought that maybe people don’t know that they have to RSVP. Like they don’t really know what goes into planning a wedding and all of that. That’s the only thing I can think of. Either that or they just don’t care.
Post # 13
@September29: I have gotten a few like that! I was like, aw man, now I have to go find stamps. I never have stamps.
Post # 14
Because they’re self-centered? They’re a$$holes? Clueless? All of the above, more like it.
We just had to twist my Maid/Matron of Honor and my fiance’s good friend to finally RSVP. They think we know telepathically, I dunno. And the funny thing is that the fiance’s friend RSVPed with her 3 children that she shares custody with. How would we have ‘known’ that she had them that weekend? People just do.not.think. Oh and it’s not about a stamp – we used an online RSVP site. They still refused to RSVP until we pretty much held a cyber gun to their head.
Post # 15
I can understand why someone would RSVP but not show up (though I think it’s rude except in certain situations like illness), but I am perplexed when I hear about people NOT RSVPing but then showing up (or RSVPing “no” but showing up). Do they expect there to be food for them?
No shows are one of my fears for my wedding. Unless someone has a really good excuse for not coming, I would be pretty upset. I’m not planning to order extra plates, so if extra people show up, then I guess they just won’t have a meal (that feels mean to write, but how are we supposed to know if people don’t tell us?).
Post # 16
op i totally agree. some people are just damn right rude! grrr!