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I KNOW exactly what you mean! I cheated on my "diet" and felt terribly guilty afterwards. :( It was ONE MEAL out of months of rigorous workouts and healthy eating. We need to be more gracious to ourselves!
@delicious: Me too. I beat myself up for days for eating one eggroll and some fried rice. This sucks.
@Legallyblondiebride: Good question. Wish I had an answer.
I started "the diet" on Jan. 1 this year, but I know I'll go off it right after the wedding. It isn't sustainable. I just want to look really good in the pictures I'm paying several thousand dollars for!
And the feeling of "everyone does it for their wedding" just contributes to it. One of my BMs lost 30-40 lbs for her wedding two years ago (and has kept....some of it.. off)!
I feel the same way - minus the exercise part. I have been watching what I eat and will only have one drink when I go out, because there's so many calories in alcohol. In the end, I think it's worth it. I want to look the best I possibly can for my wedding day and honeymoon. I try not to think of it as doing it for one day, but I think of it as doing it for myself so I can look how I used to before I graduated college.
I have no idea why we do this, but I am slowly starting to fall into this trap as well.UGH.
I like to think that I'm making lifestyle changes with diet and exercise so that I have a healthier lifestyle in general. If I look awesome on my wedding day, then yippeeee- but I want to feel awesome and be fit (not skinny!) and live a long healthy life with my nearest and dearest. Don't look at it as a finite goal for ONE day, treat it like a lifestyle goal for your entire life- then you won't pack on the pounds after you say "I do"!!
@Faellie: Same here! The last two weddings I attended both brides had lost a ton of weight. One lost over 20 pounds and the other was even tinier than her normal size 2. But I agree...this is NOT sustainable! :P
I didn't want to look at my pictures and regret not doing more to look my best.
I stuffed my face for a solid month post-wedding.
I vow to be healthy and fit... wedding or no wedding. This is a MUCH LESS stressful way to look at it and makes it MORE LIKELY to continue after the wedding. I have seen many lovely ladies lose weight for the weight and gain it all back within the first few months of marriage. I refuse to do that, just like I refused to gain the freshman 15.
You are sexy at whatever weight if you are healthy. if you think of it that way, an egg roll every now in then isn't so bad.
@Legallyblondiebride: Wow, tinier than a size two?? I want to get back into my size 8 to 10 pants.. that's crazy!
It really does make me sad how many brides I see who are pushing themselves unnecessarily to achieve a certain look. Personally, I am obese and trying to lose weight/get healthy for more than just my wedding. I'm not sure I'll reach my goal by the wedding, but I'm okay with that. I think you should be focusing on living HEALTHY, not just losing weight to fit into a certain size/reduce a certain body part (you can't spot train anyway, so that's pointless).
Eat as many whole foods, fruits, veg, lean protein as you can. Find FUN things to do for exercise - join a Zumba class, go biking, learn how to ski - and just try to be more active in general (stairs vs. escalators, park in the back of the grocery parking lot). And from that you will be healthier and happier - no need to starve yourself, count every single calorie militantly, overexercise, etc.
"You are sexy at whatever weight if you are healthy. if you think of it that way, an egg roll every now in then isn't so bad."
Love it!!
Totally get what you mean. When I am sitting here hungry I think, "I can't wait until after the wedding where I can indulge". I hope to still keep working out after the wedding but I can't wait to eat some cheesy fries every once in a while.
Because I'm vain and I want to look the best I can in the photos. That's the sad truth. lol
I made it a point not to worry about weight when we were about to get married. I was a full time student with a full time job and planning a wedding. Trust me, there was NO time. However, now that we're married, DH and I have been eating healthy and going to the gym alot. I think eating healthy and counting calories and working out should be a lifestyle change, not just a "diet" :) Whether you get to your goal weight by the wedding or not, you're gonna look great AND your man will think you look amazing.
I'm actually glad I have an excuse to tone up. It motivates me to go to the gym after work. But I can see I'm the minority here. Don't throw stones at me! (haha)
@GroovyHippieChick: seriously!!!
I have lost a bunch of weight, which makes me feel great! but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel like "I'm supposed to" lose weight for THE wedding either!!
I feel like I wrote this post :)
I have been counting calories, yelling at the scale, and freaking out over how much time I have left before the big day.
I'm terrified that I am going to dislike how I look in my wedding pictures....
Even more so now that the stupid evil damn bloody scale says I jumped up 4 pounds!!!!
@b00kbug: Haha! I totally understand! FI has threatened to throw my scale away when I'm not home lol
Scales are evil.. I think we do it because we are pressured by society.. both to lose weight for our "big day," to look like the wedding models, and the girls on blogs.. And also because we get model thin girls shoved down our face every single day telling us we should look like that, then when we don't on a normal day we freak because everyone is going to be looking at us at our wedding. We MUST look like that.
I'm going to be totally honest here. Tried on my dress last weekend with my new Wrapor. All I can see is the underarm bulge. I'm obsessed - I can't think about anything else. My BM is telling me I'm insane but I see it!! It must be destroyed before the wedding!!
I agree with all the posters who said they are making changes for a healthy lifestyle, not to look a certain way for their wedding. I watched what I ate and did 30 Day Shred before my wedding but fell off the wagon afterwards. I wish I had just kept it up. I feel so much better, more energetic and more confident when I take care of my body. After four months of putting junk food with no nutrients in my system and sitting on my butt all day, I am back to the gym 5 days a week and eating balanced meals.
I would recommend taking it slow and finding the best routine for your body. Don't push yourself with workouts or diets that you wont be able to sustain long term.
Is it bad that instead of being motivated to get healthy forever, all I want is an egg roll and some fried rice?
@Lindsay12.31.2010: I have minature eggrolls that I eat when the craving hits. I think its like 150 calories for 3 so if I just eat one its not that bad. I can't help you with the fried rice though :)
I have a bad Buffalo Ranch Doritos addiction. When I get home with a big bag, I just divy it up into one serving zip lock bags. It worked well for me until DH came home one day and ate all of my individual servings...
I get stressed out if I diet, I get stressed out if I don't. Honestly, I'm sure you look fab and your FI wouldn't want to marry you if they didn't love you the way you are.
But we do beat ourselves up about it. We do drive ourselves to extremes in a vain attempt to look perfect for that one day and it is insane!
Right after I got engaged, which was in April 2011, I started trying to just get healthy in general. I stopped drinking soda. Starting snacking on fruit and veggies. But I'd be lying if losing weight wasn't part of the overall goal. I've lost about 11 pounds and would like to lose 9 more the wedding in May 2012. But I'm a serious food lover...who loves me some cheese, BBQ, Chick Fil A and everything. I love cookies and cake. I do let myself indulge every once in awhile, because if I didn't, I'd go crazy. And I know my fiance will love me no matter what, but I just want to look amazing on our wedding day.
I didn't do anything different to prepare for my wedding. I guess I could have gotten really skinny if I wanted to, but I didn't really care. I did my normal routine of eating decent and working out and I felt awesome on my wedding day and like "me."
I think of it more as a motivation to lose weight, but I don't go balls to the walls.
I am definitely falling into this trap now since I've been counting my calories. I feel guilty when I eat something I know I shouldn't have. Like today I had lunch at the Olive Garden, but that's going to be my main meal for the day which isn't good.. and I tell my DF "oh no I can't have that cookie/brownie/chocolate.. Yes I have to measure out how much rice I can eat.. No it is a big deal to have too much alcohol". But I am not depriving myself so I do cheat.
Bah.. Why do we do it? For me.. It's because all eyes are on us for the wedding. Everyone judges/looks at the bride.. What's her dress like? Her hair/makeup? We want to look our best since we are in the spot light.. and we think we will look better if we loose weight.. Plus I want to look good in my pictures, I had a bad dream one night that I had my wedding and was looking over my pictures and I was critizing it that I thought I looked fat.. :( Not good motivation..
Plus I'm going to Hawaii for the honeymoon and it would be nice to have some bathing suit pictures.. Usually I try and hide from the camera..
But yeah of course you have a healthy lifestyle but weddings are a good excuse to work out more and eat better/less.
Well, everyone is asking me if I am excersing and eating right in prep for our big day. Honestly I am not and I know I won't do it. If He asked me to marry him he loves me just the way I am =]
No need to add pressure where there is LOTS already.
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I confess: I have fallen into the rabbit hole. I have been counting calories like a madwoman and exercising like crazy to try to look good for One. Stupid. Day. Not saying that my wedding is stupid or anything, but seriously it's just one day.
Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way on our wedding? And why am I falling into this crap? ugh.