Why Do Women Compare their Engagement Rings with Others'?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Good question! I do this too, and my ring is fairly substantial. I’ve always been interested in jewelry, though, so I think I have always noticed what other women have… long before I got my ring. I think it’s human nature to compare. Not necessarily to think “oh I have to one-up her” or “hers is better” but just comparison for curiosity sake as well.

I actually tend to notice earrings and shoes and cars a lot, but then I am a fairly materialistic person. I don’t consider this a bad thing. I try not to brag. I live within my means. I just happen to really like things that cost money lol.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@wrkbrk:  Because our culture uses it as one of the most important status symbols.  It’s ingrained in us from a very early age.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@wrkbrk:  I don’t compare my ring, but I can still relate because I definitely do compare my body. I often think, wow she is so skinny, or I wish my legs looked like hers. I think it’s just human nature but I do my best to avoid that thinking.

I could care less about a ring, but I sure do care about my body :-

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

The first time I got engaged he got me a very pretty but not that expensive ring. It was 0.5ctw and the diamond quality was not the greatest. At first I loved it and was always looking at the sparkle… then as time went on I would  get comments about it being small/cheap/promise ring size, etc. and it made me super self-conscious. That was when I started comparing my ring to other rings and feeling like mine wasn’t good enough.

Now that I’m engaged again I do find myself checking out other women’s rings, I’m not necessarily comparing them to mine but just looking out of curiosity.

 

@canarydiamond:  Your post made me smile. I’m the same way, I like nice things and I definitely check out cars! My fiance and I both drive nice cars and he works in the industry so it’s a part of our life.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

@MrsPanda99:  I do this with hair. I had extensions for years and took them out last year and I think that maybe they were a security blanket for me. I compare my hair to other women’s hair all the time and then I feel like crap about mine.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@wrkbrk:  it’s because all engagement rings mean the same thing, so of course you’re gonna compare them. It’s a natural thought.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

of course they (we) do! The mear existance of these ring threads is based on our deep seeded desire to compare our rings to other womens rings and invite others to do so!

Its not a bad thing by anymeans… especially if it is for the purpose of celebrating and supporting both the womens and their partners choice to ‘seal the deal’ on their life long promise of commitment to each other. 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I think it’s just human nature.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

@wrkbrk:  It’s a 1ct amorique cut solitaire (basically cushion but with more sparkle I guess). I love it!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Engagement rings are expensive, therefore the typical rules of “conspicuous consumption” apply (aka, consumption intended to be noticed by others).

 

This is the same reason that every thread that talks about diamonds vs. diamond alternatives blows up.  

 

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