Post # 1
So, this came up in another thread I just posted on, but I’m genuinely SUPER curious about this. Soooo many women worry that whatever wedding dress they pick out will look dated down the road. Imo, ALL dresses look dated 20 years later. ALL ALL ALL. Fashion is always changing. Even if you go with a classic lace dress, the cut and style just keeps changing. Personally, I feel like the dress is just a representative of who you were at that time in your life and what society was like at the time, so why do you want to hide that? It’s history! Maybe it will look silly in a few years, or maybe your daughter won’t want to wear it (but even if it were “in style” she probably still wouldn’t), but I don’t know. Is there something I’m missing? I truly just don’t get it.
Post # 3
I don’t get it either… I’m pretty sure whatever you pick now (“classic” “trendy” or whatever), wedding dresses will look different enough anyway in 1 or 2 generations. Nothing wrong with looking like you are “of your time.”
Post # 4
I agree. I think a lot of people have peer pressure from the society we live in now – we’re always being told that there’s a classic look that will never go out of style and I think we all try to achieve that which is why lots of people worry their dress will look dated in 5, 10 or 15 years. In reality you’re right, fashions come in and out of style all the time. What might be dated in 15 years may come back into fashion in 20 years, what matters is do YOU feel good in the dress? Do YOU like the dress? Everything else is irrelevant IMO.
Post # 5
I didn’t worry about it too much, but a classic dress will still be beautiful years later. Over Christmas I found this old family photo (my mom was the MOH) and I thought, “Wow! Any modest contemporary bride would LOVE this wedding gown!”
Post # 6
I kinda disagree. I realize that fashion changes, but a lot of it is cyclical. Things come back into style and trends recur from time to time. I do think there are dresses that 20,30 and even 50 years later still look stylish. People still point to Grace Kelly or Jacqueline Kennedy’s dresses as inspirations. There are also dresses that SCREAM certain decades, like the super poofy 80’s dresses with shoulder pads. I definitely wanted to find a dress that I didn’t think would scream a certain decade when I looked at it, so I wouldn’t mind looking at it for the next 50 years.
Post # 7
I agree – I think it’s less that I wore that my wedding will be dated and more that I worry that my wedding will be a huge fashion mistake by me at a later point(like.. the huge sleeves of the eighties). My fiance and I have been watching Mad Men lately, and I’d KILL for some of the dresses and outfits on the show – sure, they’d look a little retro now, but it wouldn’t be like I was wearing an off the shoulder oversized sweatshirt with crimped hair and legwarmers….
I think part of the charm of a wedding is that it does have the “feeling” of the year it occured. It’s like a mini-time capsule. I just want a dress that I won’t look back on and regret.
Post # 8
^ what she said. But there is some charm of being from the era. Like my mother and all my friends’ mothers wore the exact same dress. Long sheer sleeves with the lace cuff. Lace collar choker. etc. etc. It is cute I think but no woman wants to think she looked like everyone else.
Post # 9
I don’t get it at all either. No matter what you wear (or that someone else wears), it will look dated in a period of time but that doesn’t stop people from wearing it. You never hear anyone saying “oh god! I can’t possibly be caught dead in that because it’ll look dated next year or 10yrs from now!” about the clothing they wear on a daily basis so why is that said all the time for wedding dresses? Makes no sense whatsoever.
I completely agree with littlemissmoo that peer pressure has alot to do with it. Peer pressure accounts for the fact that strapless dresses are currently the norm, or one could even argue they’re the majority since other styles are very hard to find, even though many women don’t like them for one reason or another but feel that there is no other alternative. If you look back at history (any decade really in the 20th century), strapless dresses for weddings (or anything else) didn’t come about until the late 1990s. Yes there were a handful around in the 1950s but with nowhere near the popularity that they have now. Sleeves and straps have been around much longer but people think they’re too dated. I don’t understand how they could be since strapless is a brand new trend that really doesn’t work for alot of women. If you use the same argument for everyday clothes, why are sleeves perfectly acceptable in that situation but are scandalous according to so many people for wedding dresses? Again, the logic behind it makes no sense.
While retro styles are popular right now due to Mad Men and the surge of vintage weddings mainly only found online rather than real life, they do look dated and there’s no getting around that since those are not the current styles worn by the masses. A bride should wear whatever makes her look and feel great but is it really that important that it not look dated? Her guests certainly won’t be thinking that her dress is a disaster for that reason, nor will they care, as they will think she looks great in whatever she has on, end of story.
Post # 10
I don’t care about what it will be considered like in 20, 30, 40 years. What I care about is how I feel in the dress now. = )
Post # 11
I had this debate when dress shopping. I was torn between what I considered a very “classic” looking dress that I thought was very pretty, and a more trendy ruffly dress that I love, but realize people will probably look at in 10-20 years and say “wow, that’s sooo 2010”. In the end I went with the trendier dress. My mom wore the sheer lace long sleeve, high neck dress back in 1981, and I think it’s great to see dresses that are of their time.
Post # 12
The cyclical nature of trends goes all ways I think—the 60s and Mad Men are in now, but 10 years ago they weren’t. Some 80s fashion is coming back into style. In another 20 years, 90s fashion will probably be cool again and brides who got married in the 90s will have their pictures and dresses touted as so classic or worthy of emulation.
My dress will go out of style, but someday it will come back in! It doesn’t really bother me. I just wanted a wedding dress I loved. I figure if someday I regret this dress I can always lobby for a vow renewal ceremony. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I don’t think about it too much, but I’d like to think that I will always look back at my wedding pictures and feel like we were fashionable… which I know won’t be the case. 🙂
Post # 14
My mom wore the enormous ’80s sleeves, and when I saw her wedding pictures I had to stifle a laugh. She looked like Glinda the Good Witch! Every decade has some kind of temporary insanity about fashion, and then 5 years later, there’s a collective “what were we thinking?” I think people are just afraid that their dress will be an Iconic Cliche of Bad Taste that kind of exemplifies the worst trend of the decade. And I get that… I don’t want my grandkids rolling on the floor in 50 years when I show them our wedding pictures… but there’s no real way to avoid it, so we’ll just all have to live with it.