- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
I read a lot everywhere that “a bridesmaid’s only responsibility is showing up on the day of the wedding”. I see people give this ‘excuse’ a lot when people have a difficult bridesmaid to deal with, in particular one who seems to not care about anything.
This is technically true, but taking away the title of bridesmaid, what excuse would a friend have? I just get so sick of hearing this, because in my opinion, the bride has the right to be upset if her friend is acting like this big life changing event is no big deal. Is that such an unreasonable expectation? That her friend be supportive and show some interest? If you were having a baby, and your friend never ONCE asked how you were feeling, or mentioned anything at all about the baby, is that okay because this person shouldn’t need to be interested in your life? Not really.
Someone shared a meme on facebook which got me thinking about this. It said “No matter how ‘busy’ a person is, if they really care, they will always find the time for you”.
Nowhere in there does it say bridesmaid. But it seems like a lot of people in this world believe that if you’re a bridesmaid, it give you the right to ignore the bride and offer no signs of interest in the wedding because you’re only duty from the time you’re asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man until the wedding, is to show up on that day. You now have the right to be difficult.
I just don’t understand this line of thinking.