Why does daycare have to cost so much?!

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: What would you do?
    Option 1- family member : (26 votes)
    53 %
    Option 2- Quit my career to work my retail job : (5 votes)
    10 %
    Option 3- Keep trying to get a higher paying job (I'm always doing this as it is) : (18 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    1286 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @MissParrot:  I feel you! DH and I are currently in the same boat. Only I make about double what he does (Im a teacher with Masters plus 32). So me staying home is out of the question. But he works at a job he can switch to swing shift. We would have weekends off together. We have decided this is the best option for us once baby comes and I go back to work in October. We still need someone 3 hours per day but thats much better than 8-9 hours per day and I feel like the baby should be with one of us all but 15 hours per week. If you have the option of a family member take it. I would drive an hour or 2 a day to know my baby was in good hands and not in the hands of a stranger.

    Post # 4
    3009 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MissParrot:  this is your baby! Do you really want to find the bottom dollar option? People that are paid well are generally happier & in turn more motivated to take good care of your kid. 

    Now let’s look at math. My daycare is $228/wk. Divide by 37.5 hrs and you get $6 an hour. That’s really not that expensive. 

    Post # 5
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Could you save up prior to getting pregnant so that you can afford your job and daycare?

    Post # 7
    689 posts
    Busy bee

    Just keep in mind that while option 1 looks the best, your family may not be as gung ho about watching your kid all day every day. I’ve seen too many situations where things start off great but then pple get tired of it and tension starts…

    I suggest saving/paying down loans first so that way when the baby does come you aren’t very strapped for cash.

    Post # 8
    6632 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Actually if you do the math it isn’t that much per employee who works there. Most of the time it is less than what a lot of people make an hour.  While I agree the costs are high but you also have to realize these people/centers are working/ trying to earn a living just like you and I.  


    Post # 12
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1995

    1. We find a family member who would/could be willing to watch our kids for free or at a very low cost. 
    2. I quit my full time job (teaching) to stay at home with the kid, and work my retail job on nights and weekends.
    3. I get a higher paying full time job.


    Option 1 – of course is my favorite option, I wouldn’t have to sacrifice my job or career, and its doable my sister is currently a stay at home mom. I am sure we could manage to pay her a little bit as well, only down fall is that she lives an hour away from us.

    I’m wondering if your sister would feel the same way about your choice.  It sounds like you don’t want to pay her anything or a small amount.  Sounds like a good deal for you, but kids stll cost money while not in your care.  They eat meals and snacks, they need entertainment – toys, crafts, outings, etc., and hers may end up sick more often from exposure to other germs.  

    It sounds like your sister has made the choice to stay home with hers.  They may have sacrificed extra money by her not working or made other sacrifices for her to stay home.  I don’t think that is very fair to her.  Additional kids can really impact ones day and life.  I would really think this one over.  

    Post # 13
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Is there a possibility that you could work part time, either half days or a few days a week? Preschools can also be a good option for parents who work part-time. In BC, preschools are half days, so if you could make your work schedule around that, it would be less expensive than full time daycare. Another idea, are you eligible for government subsidies for any reason? That might help reduce the cost a bit.

    Post # 15
    5392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MissParrot:  The fact that your sister may not want to look after your kid/s aside, how would it work if she lives an hour away? Do you work locally, or near where she lives? Because otherwise, that will mean 4 hours of travelling every day; and I’m not convinced that would be practical (I may have misunderstood, so apologies if I have).

    Is there any way that you could go part-time, and work say 2 or 3 days a week? That way you get to keep your job, which you love, and which will also be good when your child is older and you are able to work full-time (as you won’t have been out of the job market), and then you could maybe arrange for a family member to look after your child 1 of the days, and put them in day care the other day. That to me seems like the ideal solution, if of course it is possible.

    Failing that, as you are a teacher, would there be a possibility of offering private home tuition? That way you are still teaching, in a way, and still ‘keeping your hand in’, but you could do it evenings and weekends when your FI is home and able to look after your child. It would also provide handy additional income.

    In short, of all your current options I would say that 2) is the most practical and feasible currently. However, it sounds like you wouldn’t be happy with that, in which case I think you need to find some kind of compromise as I’ve suggested above, or work at getting a higher paying job or saving more money before TTC.

    Post # 16
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I am not sure anyone has mentioned this or not. But I have a close friend who is a physical education teacher at an online school, so she works from home. She only physically goes to an office 1-2 days per month. Is that something that could be an option for you?

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