Post # 1
My boyfriend and I just got engaged a few weeks ago. We’ve been going around and telling his family that we’re engaged and the first thing that comes out of their mouths are "Are you pregnant?" I feel this is really rude. I’m not over weight. I am 5’7" at 135 pounds. I also notice some of his friend ask me the same thing too when I tell them this. Is something going on that I’m missing?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t let this bother you too much. Some people are just rude and you just need to let comments like these roll right off you.
Post # 4
That was actually the first thing my Dad asked — I think he was trying to make a joke because he was so surprised. It also had to do with how I phrased it, which was "I’m getting married!" instead of "I’m engaged!". It sounded like there was an urgency to it.
Anyway, I agree it’s rude. I guess people just don’t know how to respond (as if "Congratulations!" was so hard!)
Post # 5
are you really young? Have you only been dating for a little while?your wedding isn’t that soon so it’s not like it’s next week… lol some people have no class. I’d just say "no, are you?"
Post # 6
haha i like the no, are you comment! but the only reason i can think of is if they are suprised and think it’s kinda out of the blue, but they definitely shouldn’t be saying that outloud!!
Post # 7
Vistagirl asked the exact questions I was going to query you about… Either way it is just plain rude!!
Post # 8
Yay another St Louis bride!!!!
I got that question a few times (mostly jokingly since we’d been together 4 years) and my response was always, "aw hell nah" or "are you kidding me?" or something really obvious like that. Because uh, you can’t get preggers when your FI is in Iraq so I felt it was a more inappropriate question than usual. Once i said, "over my dead body" because the lady who asked me this was peeving me big time. I mostly said that because SHE got married b/c she got pregnant….yeah i did it to be rude and make a little dig, but hey, if you’re going to ask ME that, i have the right to throw it back….
People just think that’s OK to ask nowadays…wtf. You just have to come up wtih a good comeback
OH another one of my favorites is, "no i just had some pie for breakfast, but thanks!" I used to get this Q a lot, can you tell? When i was 17 someone asked me if i was preggers while i was a lifeguard, hahaha!
Post # 9
blech- me too. then after the wedding get ready for "so when are you going to have a baby?"
Post # 10
That is rude!
I got a comment from one girl that I barely knew "well there is always divorce." She is lucky I didn’t get up and smack her across the table. She sent me an apology email the next day but I didn’t respond and haven’t spoken to her since.
Post # 11
I got this too, on several occasions. I just let it run off my back, but you’re right, it is rude. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!
Post # 12
Oh yeah after the wedding it gets worse. We were told if we want Easter baskets we better "get procreating" in order to cash in on special treatment.
I just turned 23. Nice, eh?
Post # 13
I’ve gotten this a LOT… first when I became engaged, and then even more after we moved our wedding date up. It’s like saying "Oh, the only reason people get married anymore is because the girl gets pregnant." And it’s really none of their business if you are or not!
Post # 14
We got this too and fuess what, got pregnant 3 weeks beofre the wedding! (althoguh I didn’t find out until the honeymoon)
You may want to do some investigating though… if only his family who is asking this, maybe there was a previous situtation where it was pressured marriage due to a pregnancy… if so, its not you, its the stupid family.
Post # 15
How long have you guys been going out? Maybe that has to do something with it. I keep getting the when are we going to have grandchildren speech. We are not even married yet and they are already asking. Parents I tell you…wow!!
Post # 16
I had someone at work ask me this , talk about RUDE! Then again it was the same guy that told me I looked like a "deer in a headlight" in my photos going down the aisle.