Why does it always have to be jealousy?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

HA!  I think the same thing all the time.  It’s such a ridiculous conclusion to jump to.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

In general(general “you” here), if you do not like something or it’s not your taste, you say something like “Well it’s not my style, but it definitely fits your personality” or “Wow that’s some ring!”  People usually do not respond nastily or aggressively unless they are jealous, a generally nasty person, or for some reason pissed at the ring wearer.  I like to believe that most people at least have a little bit of tact or a basic understanding of manners… but maybe that’s me being naive.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Also… I think people say “Oh so and so is just jealous!” Because it’s an easy thing to say to make the person who is offended feel better (whether it is actually true or not).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No kidding! Big rings look gaudy to me. So long as the person loves it is all that matters. But I could not love my modest diamond more! And some people find that ‘small’ or something to upgrade in the future. Again, so long as the person loves 🙂

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I agree the jealousy thing is way overused. But I also agree with @Schatzie821People usually do not respond nastily or aggressively unless they are jealous, a generally nasty person, or for some reason pissed at the ring wearer.

So I guess if I was covering all my bases, I would say “either they’re jealous, an ass hole, you’ve pissed them off previously, or are being obnoxious.”

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree that we jump to jealousy pretty quickly! I generally over-compliment things I’m jealous of!

But I still can’t imagine being the AWFUL person that would ever look at someone’s e-ring and go “Yeah, that ring’s a travesty to my eyes and offensive to my soul.”

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@allyfally:  +1 

I’m a major lurker on the ring boards and when I see those kinds of threads and I don’t like the ring I refrain from commenting. It isn’t always jealousy. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@allyfally:  I guess I will cower in this post because apparently if you ask for opinions about your ring and if it’s jealousy it can only be jealousy. Not the ring. Or you.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

if anyone was talking smack about my things telling me:

 

1. i didnt deserve it

 

2. its horrid ugly

 

3. should have spent money elsewhere etc

 

why can’t they keep those opinions to themselves? All it is is hurtful and mean, even if they’re not jealous they’re a raging biotch thats for sure.

NEXT TIME I WONT TELL WHOEVER IT IS THEYRE JUST JEALOUS

I’ll say whoever is saying that to you is just a raging BIOTCH, i thought jealous was putting it nicely.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I agree, I have seen many posts (not just about rings) by bees saying so and so didn’t like their ring/venue/bridesmaid dresses whatever, and often the same poster will go on to say that that person must be jealous. It is not always other bees who call jealousy, more often than not it is the OP calling jealousy. IT IS NOT ALWAYS JEALOUSY, SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST DON’T LIKE YOUR RING/VENUE/BRIDESMAID DRESSES.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Everyone on this site always seems to jump to jealousy whenever someone has an unfavorable opinion of something .

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree, that it’s not jealousy for everyone. I think big rings look tacky. Not all, but a lot of them. (I know, the dreaded ‘T’ word, but it’s true in my opinion). 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Because it’s usually people who are jealous who make the passive-aggressive bitchy comments.

Generally people who don’t care (e.g. people who simply don’t like the ring) just won’t say anything unless they’re very mean-spirited. If I don’t like something, I generally don’t go out of my way to say something that I know will upset the person.

ETA: What she said: Schatzie821 🙂

 

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