Post # 1
I’ve noticed that whenever someone posts about people making mean comments towards their large rings, people always call jealousy on the posts. “They dont like it? Oh, they’re just jealous.”
Uh, no. I dont usually post on threads like those, because I dont generally like big rings. I just dont. Never have, never will. Even costume jewelry is a no for me. I just do not like big, blingy rings. This isnt a recent thing, even way before I ever even thought of getting engaged I didnt like it. I dont buy rings from JTV because I think most of them are too large and gaudy for my tastes. My fiance has several really big, in your face rings, and I just think they’re tacky. But I’m not jealous of them.
I’m not saying that all those people arent jealous, I dont know them to say if they are or arent. And I’m not saying its okay for them to make mean comments, because it isnt. But calling them jealous isnt right either. Maybe they honestly just dont like it and they dont know when to keep their mouths closed.
I dont really know why I’m even posting this. Just to get it off my chest, I suppose.
Post # 3
HA! I think the same thing all the time. It’s such a ridiculous conclusion to jump to.
Post # 4
In general(general “you” here), if you do not like something or it’s not your taste, you say something like “Well it’s not my style, but it definitely fits your personality” or “Wow that’s some ring!” People usually do not respond nastily or aggressively unless they are jealous, a generally nasty person, or for some reason pissed at the ring wearer. I like to believe that most people at least have a little bit of tact or a basic understanding of manners… but maybe that’s me being naive.
Post # 6
Also… I think people say “Oh so and so is just jealous!” Because it’s an easy thing to say to make the person who is offended feel better (whether it is actually true or not).
Post # 7
No kidding! Big rings look gaudy to me. So long as the person loves it is all that matters. But I could not love my modest diamond more! And some people find that ‘small’ or something to upgrade in the future. Again, so long as the person loves 🙂
Post # 8
I agree the jealousy thing is way overused. But I also agree with @Schatzie821: People usually do not respond nastily or aggressively unless they are jealous, a generally nasty person, or for some reason pissed at the ring wearer.
So I guess if I was covering all my bases, I would say “either they’re jealous, an ass hole, you’ve pissed them off previously, or are being obnoxious.”
Post # 9
I agree that we jump to jealousy pretty quickly! I generally over-compliment things I’m jealous of!
But I still can’t imagine being the AWFUL person that would ever look at someone’s e-ring and go “Yeah, that ring’s a travesty to my eyes and offensive to my soul.”
Post # 10
I’m a major lurker on the ring boards and when I see those kinds of threads and I don’t like the ring I refrain from commenting. It isn’t always jealousy.
Post # 11
@allyfally: I guess I will cower in this post because apparently if you ask for opinions about your ring and if it’s jealousy it can only be jealousy. Not the ring. Or you.
Post # 12
if anyone was talking smack about my things telling me:
1. i didnt deserve it
2. its horrid ugly
3. should have spent money elsewhere etc
why can’t they keep those opinions to themselves? All it is is hurtful and mean, even if they’re not jealous they’re a raging biotch thats for sure.
NEXT TIME I WONT TELL WHOEVER IT IS THEYRE JUST JEALOUS
I’ll say whoever is saying that to you is just a raging BIOTCH, i thought jealous was putting it nicely.
Post # 13
I agree, I have seen many posts (not just about rings) by bees saying so and so didn’t like their ring/venue/bridesmaid dresses whatever, and often the same poster will go on to say that that person must be jealous. It is not always other bees who call jealousy, more often than not it is the OP calling jealousy. IT IS NOT ALWAYS JEALOUSY, SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST DON’T LIKE YOUR RING/VENUE/BRIDESMAID DRESSES.
Post # 14
Everyone on this site always seems to jump to jealousy whenever someone has an unfavorable opinion of something .
Post # 15
I agree, that it’s not jealousy for everyone. I think big rings look tacky. Not all, but a lot of them. (I know, the dreaded ‘T’ word, but it’s true in my opinion).
Post # 16
Because it’s usually people who are jealous who make the passive-aggressive bitchy comments.
Generally people who don’t care (e.g. people who simply don’t like the ring) just won’t say anything unless they’re very mean-spirited. If I don’t like something, I generally don’t go out of my way to say something that I know will upset the person.
ETA: What she said: Schatzie821 🙂