- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
I’ve been feeling what I call pre wedding blues lately. And I feel as though Ive taken out on the “bee” a little bit. So I first want to apologize to any “bees” out there if I offended anyone with my straight forward advice. I mean well. Really I do.
My latest encounter that contributed to my “wedding blues” was my aunt. I’ll give you a little back ground. Shes about 38 years old and has 3 young kids that are very I mean very mis-behaved. She, her husband, their kids and my grandparents (Who sadly lost their beautiful ranch house on 22 acres of land that they built and pretty much paid cash for to forclosure because of gambling addictions) And now my grandmother is pretty much raising these kids while my aunt spends most of her time in her bedroom smokeing and eating junk food. My uncle makes good money. I’d say around $24 dollars an hour which Is not a whole heck of alot but enough since I’m pretty sure his mother bought their house for them and they just pay the basic bills. Well they all are chain smokers (Im not kidding, at least 2 packs a day each) And they believe in spending about $400 dollars a week on groceries and I would say abou $150 of that goes to Little debbies, frozen french frys, hot dogs…etc. Honestly the way they live is just disgusting. But believe it or not my aunt is one of the sweetest people you will ever meet but is a little selfish and expects everyone to pretty much raise and help pay for her kids.
Well they hit up everyone in the family for money all the time and me and my FI have never really been asked because we are both still in school, working and parents to a baby boy. So we are kinda the “broke newlyweds” although right now we are the ones in the family WITH the money….(Which is super odd :/) Well my aunt is throwing me a bridal shower this saturday which I am SO thankful for.
Now heres what happend. Yesterday my mom calls me and says that my aunt called her and said they have no food what so ever. My mom lives 2 hours away and she told me she would mail me money if I could just go get them some groceries that day. I told her dont worry about the money me and my FI have some to spare this week. (Which we kinda dont but I couldnt let those kids go without food) So I call my aunt up and say “Hey I’m at the store right now and you dont worry about food because I’m bringing over groceries for you guys” Then she tells me “Oh thanks and pick up some toilet paper too”. Ummmm ok……I guess. So I get them about $100 dollars worth of groceries and take them on over. I get over there and my aunt tells me “We are going to have to get you more pop for the shower because we drank it all.” And kinda laughed about it. But I was thinking “You guys got 11 (YES ELEVEN) 2 liters and drank them ALL????” But I just kinda laughed it off. I couldnt be mad because seeing the relief on their faces when I brought the food in made it SO worth it to me. And it just felt good.
Well today I get a call from my aunt again and she says “You got a card today from Mary. She said she cant make it to your shower and I think there might be money inside. (Note Mary is a VERY well off woman. Shes over top of one of the biggest banks in our area, so I knew the card would probably be good) And so then my aunt goes on to say “Hey if theres money inside can I borrow it???” I ran out of pull ups last night. (Her 3 almost 4 year old still wears pull ups like diapers) I was like “Ummm sure i guess” Then she goes “Thanks, I wanted to ask you first”. So she opens up the card and its a gift card to Target the store I registered at. And she sounded dissapointed and I said “Well how much is it for?” And she didnt really say….Im not sure why she didnt tell me. So I said “well you can take it and go to target to get the pull ups” But she didnt think that they had the brand she uses. But she told me she would pay me back at my shower. But I’m afraid she wont give me what the card was worth. I didnt offer to give her any money but I’m wondering should I of??? Probably not. But what do I do???? Me and my FI can affored to me getting hit up for money all the time….