Why does no one tell you about the post wedding blues?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Did you get the post wedding blues?
    Yes : (110 votes)
    47 %
    No : (122 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not there yet and I hope I don’t. I think I’ll miss some of the DIY parts but it will just transfer onto other things.

    Like I’ve been told and really believe, a wedding is a day, a marriage is a life time, so I hope to be more focused on that than I ever would on just one day.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

    I think it’s normal and not unexpected at all. I remember my 22nd birthday- I’d planned it for a while (not 18 months though haha!!), I got lots of friends to visit from across the country, we had an amazing dress up, we were all laughing so hard we were crying; I really had the best day ever. It was gutting when everyone left the next day. Why wouldn’t anyone be gutted after all the wedding stuff is over especially with all the money spent and time planning? I’m sorry it took you by surprise though.

    Post # 5
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    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Aalia:  Thank you for your post because I feellikethe engagement flew by ad I am worried that the day is gonna come and go so fast (which it will) and im going tobe a little sad. it sucks that you put all this work into one day and its gone in a flash lol it kinda makes me wish we had more hours in a day. I joke around with my fiance and say “What am I gonna do after the wedding is over?! No more planning! We are no longer the center of attention! We are gonna be an old married couple!”  He just laughs and says I’m crazy

     

     

     

    Post # 6
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    1226 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Aalia:  A little bit. The day after was still exciting because we stayed in a hotel. A couple of days after, though, I was back at work, all our gifts were opened, the dress was off to the cleaners, and life was back to normal with DH being pissed off about his job and me being stressed about uni. I did feel a bit flat then. However, I did expect that I’d feel like this (I always feel a bit blah after big events) so I tried to just do fun things with DH this week and think of things to look forward to!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    I really dont think I will get it . 

    Simply because after the wedding there is stilll so much change. Im immigrating to the states and having a DW in SC before moving down to OK where I then need to move into our new house, find a job etc etc 

    Wedding blues?? I dont think ill have time. 

    Post # 8
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    1305 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I had heard of the post wedding blues and that’s part of the reason we decided not to take our honeymoon straight after the wedding so I had that to plan afterwards. It really helped take the edge off.

    Post # 9
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    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    In reading the boards, you’ll find that many others have experienced this. However, there are others of us who experienced something similar, but for a far different reason. We had the “post-wedding blues” not because we had just experienced the best day of our lives and everything was perfect, but, rather, because we had planned and hoped to have a perfect day, and, for various reasons, we didn’t. We struggled with wanting to do it all again so we could have had the perfect day that we envisioned but which didn’t unfold as we had expected.

    I’m posting from my phone and cannot search for or post links while in the middle of writing a comment, but, if you do a search for “biggest regrets,” you may be able to find some of those threads, where some of us shared our stories of what happened — or didn’t end up happening — at our weddings and why, for many of us, we had to work through a lot of disappointment and heartbreak. Maybe you will find comfort that everything went so perfectly for your own wedding, and that will help you to put your experience into a more positive light for you. I think those of us who posted on those other threads gained and offered comfort and encouragement from and to others, so those threads may also help you.

    Post # 10
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    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Double post.

    Post # 11
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Aalia:  I was blue afterwards like if I had no longer a purpose. My husband made sooo much fun of me. We were also exhausted!!!!

    Post # 12
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Brielle:  a little bit of that here… But I am over it now. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No one has mentioned it, but honestly I’m looking forward to getting all done and over with. I have been with my FI for a long time through 4 years of the Marine Corps and we have never been able to live together so that is what I’m looking forward to the most. I just want to get the wedding over with, go on our honeymoon (which will be the first vacation we take that is JUST US) and then FINALLY move in together. We’ve been looking forward to this for years!

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    30313 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    This totally happened to me after our wedding 2 years ago!  My solution?  Channeling it into hanging out with everyone on WB, and helping out brides where I can! 😉

    Post # 15
    Member
    316 posts
    Helper bee

    I sobbed the morning after the wedding, just that it was over and I would never get to do it again, or be with so many people I loved again. Luckily I had a lot to do that day, and left on the honeymoon the next day and it all sorted itself out in a day or two. I’ve experienced that before though, the down after a big up.

    Post # 16
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    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I found that I just had nothing to do during the day, as I’d done a lot of DIY projects. So I found myself looking at the craft table with a little pang of sadness. It took maybe a week or two to get back into the swing of my “normal” life with work and school, and then the blues seemed to go away.

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