Post # 1
I’d love to hear if anyone else experienced this……..
My wedding day really was the best day of my life – like my dream becoming reality.
But when everyone left the next day and we still had 3 days until we left for our honeymoon, I felt such a low which contrasted the unbelievable high from the day before. Packing up all of the boxes of things at the ceremony room (bows, candles etc), putting my dress away and collecting the dinner table flowers was heartbreaking as I just wanted to do it all again!!!!
No one told me about this feeling but then weren’t surprised when I mentioned it. One of my husband’s friend’s wives even said “oh yeah I was wondering if you’d get the wedding blues!”…
After 18 months of planning and getting everything perfect, packing it all away is really sad. Despite all of my Bridezilla moments and the stress, I would do it all a million times over exactly the same.
Thankfully, the honeymoon and 10 hours a night sleeps sorted me out!!
So, for all the Mrs out there, please take my poll! For all the brides to be, has anyone told you they experienced this?
Post # 3
Not there yet and I hope I don’t. I think I’ll miss some of the DIY parts but it will just transfer onto other things.
Like I’ve been told and really believe, a wedding is a day, a marriage is a life time, so I hope to be more focused on that than I ever would on just one day.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2
I think it’s normal and not unexpected at all. I remember my 22nd birthday- I’d planned it for a while (not 18 months though haha!!), I got lots of friends to visit from across the country, we had an amazing dress up, we were all laughing so hard we were crying; I really had the best day ever. It was gutting when everyone left the next day. Why wouldn’t anyone be gutted after all the wedding stuff is over especially with all the money spent and time planning? I’m sorry it took you by surprise though.
Post # 5
@Aalia: Thank you for your post because I feellikethe engagement flew by ad I am worried that the day is gonna come and go so fast (which it will) and im going tobe a little sad. it sucks that you put all this work into one day and its gone in a flash lol it kinda makes me wish we had more hours in a day. I joke around with my fiance and say “What am I gonna do after the wedding is over?! No more planning! We are no longer the center of attention! We are gonna be an old married couple!” He just laughs and says I’m crazy
Post # 6
@Aalia: A little bit. The day after was still exciting because we stayed in a hotel. A couple of days after, though, I was back at work, all our gifts were opened, the dress was off to the cleaners, and life was back to normal with DH being pissed off about his job and me being stressed about uni. I did feel a bit flat then. However, I did expect that I’d feel like this (I always feel a bit blah after big events) so I tried to just do fun things with DH this week and think of things to look forward to!
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I really dont think I will get it .
Simply because after the wedding there is stilll so much change. Im immigrating to the states and having a DW in SC before moving down to OK where I then need to move into our new house, find a job etc etc
Wedding blues?? I dont think ill have time.
Post # 8
I had heard of the post wedding blues and that’s part of the reason we decided not to take our honeymoon straight after the wedding so I had that to plan afterwards. It really helped take the edge off.
Post # 9
In reading the boards, you’ll find that many others have experienced this. However, there are others of us who experienced something similar, but for a far different reason. We had the “post-wedding blues” not because we had just experienced the best day of our lives and everything was perfect, but, rather, because we had planned and hoped to have a perfect day, and, for various reasons, we didn’t. We struggled with wanting to do it all again so we could have had the perfect day that we envisioned but which didn’t unfold as we had expected.
I’m posting from my phone and cannot search for or post links while in the middle of writing a comment, but, if you do a search for “biggest regrets,” you may be able to find some of those threads, where some of us shared our stories of what happened — or didn’t end up happening — at our weddings and why, for many of us, we had to work through a lot of disappointment and heartbreak. Maybe you will find comfort that everything went so perfectly for your own wedding, and that will help you to put your experience into a more positive light for you. I think those of us who posted on those other threads gained and offered comfort and encouragement from and to others, so those threads may also help you.
Post # 11
@Aalia: I was blue afterwards like if I had no longer a purpose. My husband made sooo much fun of me. We were also exhausted!!!!
Post # 12
@Brielle: a little bit of that here… But I am over it now.
Post # 13
No one has mentioned it, but honestly I’m looking forward to getting all done and over with. I have been with my FI for a long time through 4 years of the Marine Corps and we have never been able to live together so that is what I’m looking forward to the most. I just want to get the wedding over with, go on our honeymoon (which will be the first vacation we take that is JUST US) and then FINALLY move in together. We’ve been looking forward to this for years!
Post # 14
This totally happened to me after our wedding 2 years ago! My solution? Channeling it into hanging out with everyone on WB, and helping out brides where I can! 😉
Post # 15
I sobbed the morning after the wedding, just that it was over and I would never get to do it again, or be with so many people I loved again. Luckily I had a lot to do that day, and left on the honeymoon the next day and it all sorted itself out in a day or two. I’ve experienced that before though, the down after a big up.
Post # 16
I found that I just had nothing to do during the day, as I’d done a lot of DIY projects. So I found myself looking at the craft table with a little pang of sadness. It took maybe a week or two to get back into the swing of my “normal” life with work and school, and then the blues seemed to go away.