Why don't I miss my fiance?

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
356 posts
Helper bee


laciekate:  When my SO leaves for hunting trips, but the end of the trip I dont really miss him anymore. I think its because I’m use to being alone and I’m fine not being with him. I love him more than anything, but sometimes I enjoy my me time. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, you’re just okay with being alone.

Post # 3
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

laciekate:  I don’t think you are weird at all. My DH and I have always been varying degrees of long distance and, while it’s not ideal, it’s not soul crushing or anything. When you are in the honeymoon period it’s harder of course, so I think what you’ve experienced there makes sense.  

Over the years my DH and I have been different distances apart.  For the first year we only saw each other once every several months.  Then for years we were driving distance and got to spend every weekend together.  For the past year we’ve been flying to see each other every other weekend.  I thought it would be hard getting used to the every other weekend cadance, but it hasn’t been so bad.

A lof of people ask how we do it, but I think that we are just both really independent people at heart.  While we love being together we can also look on the bright side and enjoy our space and freedom, then make the most of our time together.  

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Post # 4
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think as time goes on you feel more secure in your relationship and it doesn’t feel so gut wrenching being gone from them as it may have in the beggining. I actually kind of love that I can go on a week long trip now and not feel sad or empty because I miss my FI so much. When I used to travel or he did a few years ago we used to text the whole day, talk all night long on the phone and just want to be home. I now regret that we couldn’t just let each other enjoy some alone time and really absorb the trip you are on. I think you should be proud of yourself that you can be happy and secure without him…some women flip out when alone and that is just sad to me.

Post # 5
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

In the beginning of our LDR, we had horrible bouts of sadness when we parted. After some time, it became less and less tramautic. It was actually easier for him to leave once we became engaged because I knew there was an end in sight. I’d miss him, sure. But after the first week I settled into a routine and it didn’t ache like it used to. I thought I was a bit odd for it too!

But I think it just comes with time. You’re secure in your relationship (I assume), and you know it’s not forever. I think that makes it much easier. So definitely know you’re not a weirdo and alone in this!

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