Why don't I remember my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Recaps
Post # 2
6560 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

renwoman:  maybe you were so excited and your nerves were shot from all the planning and stress that you can’t remember? 

Post # 3
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Our wedding was just this saturday. A few friends posted some pictures and i honestly do not even remember the conversation. i think it is very normal.  The whole day goes by so incredibly fast.  

Post # 4
11870 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

renwoman:  There’s so much stuff that I don’t remember at all either.  It’s a blur! A great blur, but a blur all the same!

Post # 5
5596 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

renwoman:  That’s why you hire a photographer! :-p

Post # 6
763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

renwoman:  Probably because most brides describe that their wedding day goes by in a flash.  Not only are you basically hosting a huge party for all of your closest friends and family, you’re also committing yourself to your significant other, which carries a lot of gravity and emotion.  Don’t worry – The details were blurry for me too, but things started coming back after a little time had passed.

Also, not sure if you are, but I’m an anxious person and had anxiety on my wedding day.  I found that the anxiety and stress of the wedding planning stayed with me for a few days after the wedding.  You may be going through something similar. 

Congratulations on getting married!

Post # 7
9172 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I think it’s just so overwhelming that it’s difficult for your brain to form memories because there are no calm moments to process what’s happening.  I remember particular flashes, but all in all it’s kind of a blur for sure.  The photos will definitely help : )

Post # 8
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

renwoman:  I don’t remember a lot of my wedding. Like, I started crying and didn’t want to so halfway through the ceremoney I started looking out the window instead of at my DH. Then there are parts of the reception that I see pictures of but don’t really remember. I don’t even remember getting our couple’s pictures done, and that was just us and the photographer. I mean, I remember generally, but I don’t remember what we talked about or the order we did them in or anything. I think it’s because the whole day is so emotional and you’re worrying about details and everything being perfect and your brain gets overloaded. At least that’s what happened to me.

Post # 9
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

renwoman:  My grandma doesn’t remember any of her wedding and she never did (its not an age related loss of memory lol). She says she remembers leaving for the church and bits of the reception. My mom also said she doesn’t remember a lot of her wedding, just bits of it. 

Personally I think it can be such an exciting and overwhelming moment that you just black out from the intensity! I’m sure the photos will help jog your memory a little bit, view it as a good thing – you were so overcome with emotion your brain couldn’t process how happy you were 🙂 

Post # 10
5587 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t remember a lot.  Of course, in my case, it could have been the champagne while I was getting ready.

I suspect it’s quite normal.  It is just a big jumble.  I think we go into overwhelm mode.

Post # 11
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think this happens to a lot of people. I don’t remember much of my wedding day either and I thought it was down to the anti-anxiety meds I was on, but since then loads of people have remarked about how everything just goes by in a blur, even my mom. I was complaining that I should have taken charge and done this or that, and she said something about how everything just goes by so fast that you don’t really have time to think rationally. It’s true. Think about it–you’re making a huge commitment and then everyone expects you to be sociable and and play the wonderful hostess…you just don’t have the luxury of reflecting on everything at leisure and committing it to memory. I felt like a robot–say vows, take pictures, do dance, cut cake, say “Thankyousomuchforcoming” forty million times. Thank goodness for pictures; otherwise I’d be wondering what the heck just happened!

Post # 12
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

renwoman :  I know this post is two years old, but the same thing happened to me.  I got married about 3 weeks ago and remember almost nothing from my reception and very little from the day.  I’m actaully feeling really sad that  I don’t remember more since I made it a point NOT to drink too much. 

Now that it’s 2 years later  are you “over” the dissapointment of not remembering more?

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