Post # 1
Has anyone else had major problems with this? Half of my fiance’s family has not sent them back and the deadline has passed! Seriously, can someone explain to me why they haven’t? Or explain what is so hard about dropping the stinking card in the mail? I just don’t understand how they don’t know that they should send their response back, and I am starting to get really bitter about this because it is just so rude to me, like they totally don’t care about our wedding because they can’t even take the 2 minutes required to send the card back!
Post # 3
People are lazy.
We eventually got all of our responses but many came via phone once we were past the deadline and had to start calling people.
Post # 4
I honestly think a lot of people misplace them or put them in a drawer and never think about them again. In their head they think, “Oh, yeah, I’m going,” and then forget that you can’t possibly know that without the card.
Post # 5
People are lazy, some just forget, others don’t really understand they REALLY NEED TO DO THIS!
Have FI start calling them immediately if he hasn’t already.
Post # 6
I’m in the same boat. My family has ALL sent their’s back…his family not so much. Our deadline was last week and we are still missing almost ALL of his family’s rsvps. I started calling people, and asking, a lot of them had misplaced theirs. FH said his family just doesn’t know they are suposed to send them back, they come from a small town where they dont’ do response cards, everyone in the town is invited and people just show up, they don’t do seating arrangements and they all use the same venue and caterer and the caterer just makes a big batch of chicken. Grrr….I told him there’s no excuse, if they “don’t know what a rsvp is, they’re stupid” I sent them pre-addressed and stamped with a checkbox that say’s can’t make it….how much clearer can you get??
Post # 7
The reason it mystifies me is because almost all of these people are married themselves! They know what it’s like to wait for RSVP’s for things. I don’t think I’m ever going to put off RSVPing for anything again, because I’ve experienced how much of a pain it is.
Post # 8
Thanks for making me feel better that I am not the only one!
@jenroh1984 I am totally with you! We have kind of the same thing going on, where a lot of his family is from a small town, and they don’t really do the same kinds of weddings we do but…what is there to not understand about a response card with a stamped envelope TO SEND IT BACK IN? We can’t possibly get any clearer 🙂
@kala_way I know, I always send mine back before the deadline, but from now on, I will send them back immediately once I know I can go or not.
Post # 9
If I could say this to people and not have any raised eyebrows then I would say this ……. “What is so complicated about sending it back?!? It even has a stamp on it so what is the problem?!? The total time to write it out is approx. 30 seconds?! No response card = no place cards!” ha …… if only I could say this 🙂
Post # 10
Im still waiting for my sorority sisters to send mine back….Also pissed because most of them were super excited about it during the school year and now most of them are saying no….but thats a whole different story