Post # 1
I’m SO tired of hearing this phrase come from people when they ask me how my dog is doing with training! He is still the same– we’ve cycled through 3 trainers right now, YouTube videos, dog parks, special leashes, leashing in the house, crate training, changing food, treats,clickers, toys, changing routines… You name it and we’ve tried it!
So you’d think I would be more understanding when someone says , ” why don’t y’all just get rid of him?” . I get mad, defensive and it aggravates the poo out of me! Maybe it’s because people say it so flippantly , like it’s some ” duh” decision that we haven’t thought of before. Like every other week we aren’t having the ” is this dog really working well for us” conversation!
This is just an irrational vent on my part– being a pet owner is fulfilling some days and absolutely draining on others. Today was NOT a good day in our household , and when a co-worker says , ” well if it would have been me, that dog would have already been gone or house trained by now”. Oh REALLLLLYYYYY, please enlighten me on how you’ve all of a sudden landed a show on Animal Planet titled ” The Dog Whisperer” without me knowing?!
Thats it, really. Just aggravated that someone’s silly comment, that probably wasn’t even meant to offend, gave me the red ass.
Post # 3
I am with you, I would be extremely hurt and offended if someone suggested that we get rid of our dogs! I get upset when Mum even jokingly suggests it, they are my babies (well my parents are on their registration, but my sister and I love them the most) I couldn’t bear to give them up!
It will be tough but it will be worth it!
Post # 4
There aren’t many people who would put the time and committment into training a dog, like you are, and I commend that. I believe a lot of people would just get rid of the dog if it’s not responding to training immediately or behaving perfectly. Thank you for committing to an animal and I’m sure in years to come you’ll look back at his/her bad behavior and crazyness and laugh.
Post # 5
I’m really glad you posted this because I cannot stand when people just get rid of dogs because they are a lot of work. My dream is to open a shelter for homeless dogs, and it breaks my heart to see these dogs just discarded like they are an old piece of clothing. I have a lot of respect for you for feeling this way, and I wish you the best of luck with your pup.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I will remember that when I see somebody struggling with training their pet. I think people tend to be judgmental at times when other people just need support.
Hang in there. My dog was a bad teether/biter around 8-9 months and we almost got rid of him. I am so glad we hung in there and kept working with him because he is a fantastic adult dog! Everyone is jealous of how well behaved and sweet he is. Our parents and friends all volunteer to watch him when we go out of town and they even get disappointed when it’s not their turn to watch him.
What turned it around for my ex and I was having weekly meetings to discuss the dog’s problem behaviors and then agreeing to use the same training techniques to respond to the problem behaviors. Once we both consistently used the same responses to problem behaviors, the bad behaviors finally went away.
Post # 7
@OtterHalf: I worked with an organization here that provides shelter for animals whose owners are domestic violence victims (since many DV shelters don’t allow pets and victims will delay leaving their partner due to their pets safety) and just recently I got to visit a jail dogs program. All the dogs in the program were “orange carded” at a shelter, meaning they were going to be euthanized due to behavior or lack of space. The inmates at a local jail adopt these dogs while they’re there (it’s an incentive program if they’re behaving) and they train them daily and if you’re interested in adopting you go to the jail and get to meet their care giver and see if the dogs for you. It was so neat- but it goes to show that these dogs that have just been thrown away are getting another chance.
Sorry for thread jacking!!!!
Post # 8
@Mrs_Amanda: I am so with you on this! We adopted an adorable dane mix about 8 months ago and she can be a holy terror. She is wonderful and obedient when we’re they’re, but she goes psycho when we leave. She’s been pretty good for about 3 months, but every once in awhile psycho dog comes out to play when we’re gone. One particular time, my family happened to be in town. We got back from the movies and she had gotten into the trash (which we normally keep in the garage), had an accident, and generally had just made a mess. My dad said “It’s about time you decide what you’re going to do w/ that dog.” Uhhhh….seriously??? We decided…8 months ago when we got her. She’s not going anywhere.
Post # 9
I think some people really don’t understand that having a pet is a commitment. That’s why so many pets end up in shelters/the pound. They expect that they will behave perfectly without much work from them.. if they are expected to actually train the animal then that’s way too much work & they get rid of it.
You sound like a very responsible & dedicated pet owner 🙂 We had a lot of issues with one of our dogs, and we heard the “I wouldn’t stand for that line.. he’d be outta my house, blah blah blah”. It used to drive me CRAZY. After we worked with him for awhile, he is now one of the most behaved & gentle dogs that I know.
Post # 10
I admire you so much for sticking with this! I’ve known people to “get rid” of their dog for no better reason than they were simply tired of taking care of him. 🙁 It breaks my heart when people abandon their pets even when they’re facing challenges. Having a pet is a commitment.
You’re doing an awesome thing and I wish you all the best of luck.
Post # 11
To me that’s like asking someone one to get rid of their baby because it’s keeping them up at night… Ummm they’re part of the family!!!
Post # 12
@Pinkmoon: +1 exactly what she said
Post # 13
There’s an agreement between people and their dogs, and that agreement is, Until the end. I know if it came down to it, my boys would ride out some nasty circumstances with me and I make it a point to pay up front for that devotion, it’s a kind of grace no human ever really earns….your doing the right thing and if someone asked me why I didn’t just get rid of my dog for failing to behave like Lassy, and we all know that whiny little dachsund they have pisses under their bed so let’s not fool each other here, I would wait until they start complaining about their kids, their husband, their anything and smartly ask why they don’t just get rid of them? It’s on the same level of insanity to suggest it to a person like me…
Post # 15
It’s a dog, not a house plant! You can’t “just get rid of it”. Gosssh!! Some people!!!!
Random side note…we have a dog, and it ticks me off when people ask “so are you getting rid of him when you have kids? No??…yea you say that now” W-T-F I can not fathom the idea of parting with my dog. No matter what!
Post # 16
people are a-holes sometimes… that is ridiculous! i think that says a lot about the character of those people that they would find a devoted pet so expendable…