(Closed) Why don’t you just say it to my face?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My mother is the most passive-aggressive person on the planet. It drives me up the wall. And if you call her out on it she plays it all up as an innocent remark and makes you out to be the one who’s overreacting. The day I moved out was a very, very good day, lol.

Me, I’m passive-aggressive only when I want to piss someone off. If I genuinely want to tell someone something constructive, I won’t beat around the bush. But if I’m dealing with someone who…

a) can’t take criticism without getting defensive and playing the victim

b) is determined not to follow anyone’s advice because they’re so sure they know best, or

c) is just an overall twatwaffle

…then I bust out the PA with a big smile on my face.

Post # 4
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe that’s not what you want… I have a verbally abusive boss – I pray he just doesn’t do this to us anymore. I understand where you are coming from and it’s annoying to have that done to you. But the flipside isn’t always a good one.  A lot of people lack “tact”.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a boss just like yours with those mass emails. I was the one who was showing up and clocking on when the schedule said I was supposed to. I got tired of it and said that if wanted to pay me for those 30 minutes I would happily change it on my schedule and clock on 30 minutes early. He let it go at the prospect of having to pay me.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@west.coast.blonde: LMAO, yes, because everyone loves to show up to work early and not get paid for it. Start charging him overtime 😉

Post # 8
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@west.coast.blonde: What an annoying email, yes he should have just dealt with you directly.  But you know, some bosses always want to throw their weight around and looking like they are doing their job.  It’s never in a productive way though.

Post # 10
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@west.coast.blonde: yikes, in VA you can NOT work off the clock, no matter if it’s a private business or not!  Unless you’re self-employeed, you gotta pay your workers the time they work!  I think I’d be looking into the labor laws and seeing what they say!  (aka working off the clock = grounds for being sued 😉 yes, I’m THAT bad, lol)

 

Post # 13
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@west.coast.blonde: This is starting to remind me of Atlas Shrugged…

Post # 14
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@west.coast.blonde:

Damn you being on salary kills my next suggestion of clocking on thirty minutes early without saying anything then when he asks just innocently say “you told us to come in early from now on so I am”. I’ve done that before too. It’s a normal occurrence it seems for bosses to want you to work off the clock.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ha, I’ll one up that. A family friend offered me a job at his dental office.

1. I don’t get time off. Period. Not even for my college graduation.

*which I was promised upon hire*.

2. We don’t get sick days. You have to come in. Then, after you have worked for four hours, the “dr (dentis” will evaluate whether or not you are sick enough to go home.

3. Have I mentioned that he has taken a month’s worth of vacation already this year?

4. The other owner of the office comes in and belittles us on a weekly basis. Upon hire, he handed me a 1/2 inch stack of different dental procedures, and told me that I was to spend my weekends, week nights, and time at home to study and memorize this information – off the clock.

I’m THRILLED I took the job. Thrilled.

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