Why don't/didn't you want a diamond?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What's your reasoning for not wanting a diamond?
    I don't want something expensive : (138 votes)
    20 %
    We couldn't afford it - plan to upgrade : (30 votes)
    4 %
    I love other stones more than diamonds : (101 votes)
    14 %
    I wanted colour : (84 votes)
    12 %
    I wanted to be unique : (90 votes)
    13 %
    For moral reasons (have you seen Blood Diamond?) : (113 votes)
    16 %
    Not me! I want(ed) one, diamonds are a girls best friend! : (119 votes)
    17 %
    Other (explain) : (25 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I had a lot of reasons, but the biggest ones are just that I think diamonds are too expensive, everybody seems to have one, & I don’t want to own something just because somebody says that that’s the way it “should be.”

    I wasn’t trying to be unique, I just wanted a large clear stone & I didn’t want to pay an arm & a leg for it when it’s simply not worth it. Diamond prices are highly inflated & I would feel like a sucker for owning one, to be honest. Plus, after I had actually already decided on moissanite, I saw the movie blood diamond & while I’m sure I buy other products that are probably inhumanely sourced, that movie only further solidified that diamond was not for me.

    My ring is the epitome of perfection for me & I know a diamond wouldn’t make me any happier (actually, if I wore a 3ct diamond around instead of my 3ct moissy, I’d probably be nervous constantly).


    Post # 4
    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Lab created blue diamonds are pricey! Lol. Though I’m still undecided, torn between a blue sapphire and lab made blue diamond.

    Post # 5
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I go back and forth on this.  I think diamonds are fabulous, but part of me feels like they are a bit over-done.  Additionally, I don’t really feel comfortable with SO making such an expensive purchase.  But my Love is a bit traditional and I know he wants really wants to go the diamond route, and honestly I’d love anything he gets.

    Post # 6
    1931 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think diamonds are beautiful but I feel as though the price for a center stone is just massively overinflated. If you have the money for it and you want a diamond, that’s fantastic, but I personally will be happy with a moissanite simply because I love the way they sparkle and they’re much more affordable than diamonds. 

    Post # 7
    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    FI and I have always wanted to get a green center stone for my engagement ring. Once I found out that emeralds are prone to shattering I started looking around for more durable options which basically came down to diamond and sapphire. Turns out green diamonds tend to be radioactive…so yeah not going to wear that everyday. We ended up going with a green sapphire which is the exact shade of green I wanted. I’m not sure we could have found a diamond that color of green.

    Post # 8
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    For as long as I have known him FI has been really anti-diamond. He dislikes them for moral reasons and does not feel comfortable spending his money on them despite the existence of the Kimberly process. He is also strongly distrustful of Canadian diamonds because of the effects of mining on indigenous people. When we started taking about getting engaged he brought up the idea of getting a lab created diamond and since I had no strong opinions on jewelry in general I did some research on the subject and agreed to go the lab created route. In the end though we ended up with a moissanite because I was very displeased with the colors available in lab created diamonds, at the time they were only available in a very deep yellow or a very anemic pink or blue and I was not a fan of any of those options. I saw moissanite on Etsy and YouTube and I liked that it was clear and I thought that the sparkle blew everything else I had ever seen completely out of the water. 

    Post # 9
    2731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    I chose the middle 4 answers. I think the engagement ring should be a symbol of the couple and their relationship together. I prefer colored center stones. I’m obsessed with sapphires and stones that are not diamonds. My husband and I are both rather unique symbolizing our relationship we felt should symbolize us thus we both wanted it to be something unique.I also have a huge issue with the bad gem trade. I believe in supporting small business, artists, craftsmen, and family mines/farms. My ring was ethical.


    We had no issue with price it was “other factors” that led us this route. I feel the white diamond like the red rose has gotten to a point of being cliche due to being so over done. My husband knew that. He was shocked on our first date when I told him that if a man brought me a diamond unless an heirloom I’d flat out say HELL NO! The reason being is it would be a complete disreguard for who I am. When I explained it that way he understood. I had a lot of relationships in the past were I let who I am slide under the rug, I refused to do that again.

    Post # 10
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    To save money. That’s it. I couldn’t vote because there will be no upgrading later. I wanted something much cheaper than a diamond but durable, so moissanite it was.


    Post # 11
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I wanted a big Moissanite! 🙂  I like diamonds, too, but I LOVE the sparkle of Moissy!   

    Post # 12
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @missamysmiles:  Basically all of the above. Mostly too expensive and too common/uninteresting (not a huge fan of clear stones overall and like to be different :P). The ethical side is there, but less so, as ethically mined diamonds are available anyway. I dislike the marketing of diamonds, though, I think it’s done in a manipulative way, so I also don’t feel like rewarding that either.

    Post # 13
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    I love jewelry and sparklies but I think the price of diamonds it’s ridiculous.I just wanted something cute!

    Post # 14
    771 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My first ring was a yellow sapphire surrounded by 2 halos of diamonds. It was goooorgeous! I have always thought any bling ring could be an ering. We had a ton of trouble trying to get someone to size it for us and were told not to by many or we would have the 48 small diamonds in the halo keep falling out. Even though this was a gorgeous ring and my fiancé proposed with it we had to return it. The one thing I didn’t like is that when I showed people the pics they said “oh how lovely a canary diamond” ugh! One of my worries had we gone sapphire/mossianite route ( not that moissanite was ever an option because i didnt even know about it until i came upon this site-could of saved him some moola-darn it!)that i would slways have to explain ” oh no its not a duamond…blah blah” etc…I honestly thought that I never wanted/needed a diamond per se but I am head over heels with the diamond ring he bought me. I think I tend to lean towards the gemstone look because they are unique-I am loving that I see so many different kinds of Erings. 

    Post # 15
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I didn’t really care, so it didn’t make sense to spend the extra money on the diamond when it didn’t have any added value for me.  I always tell my friends who want diamonds that they should absolutely get them–you only get one engagement ring, after all!  For us though, it didn’t make sense to spend our whole budget on something that I was ambivalent about.

    Post # 16
    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I chose the 2nd to last option. I do think about Blood Diamond and I feel bad but I got a diamond anyway. I can’t rectify the issues in the world by not having a diamond. I’ve dreamed my whole life about getting married, the ring, dress etc., as I’m sure a lot of us on here did. I studied human rights in college and there seriously so many child soilders and situations like that it’s disgusting. A lot of jewelers have conflict free diamonds any way… who knows how true that is though.


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