Post # 1
I am curious about all the dress regret posts on here.
I recently purchased my dress, 13 months until the wedding and I love it. I tried on like 100 dresses, not exaggerating, and none of them did anything for me emotionally and I put my dress on and it just clicked.
I am just wondering what changes between that moment to the regretting moment?
Is it that brides keep looking after they purchased?
Purchased without truly loving the dress?
I am just wandering what happens…
Post # 3
I think I’ve had just a little dress regret because…
-I purchased quickly. It was a sample sale dress and it would have been gone the next day if I didn’t buy it
-I worry there is a dress that would make me look skinnier (lame, I know)
I really do love my dress though and often remind myself I got quite the deal on it and look good in it.
Post # 4
The main reason for me is because I am in love with another dress (Maggie Sottero Sabelle)… The only reason I didnt get the Sabelle is because of our venue. Outside, middle of June, vineyard in the Central Valley of California. I got the Maggie Sottero Carissa because it was way more lightweight and I feel I won’t die of overheating haha. It was my runner up, so I am good with it. It just sucks that I can’t have my dream dress. But I am slowly getting over it 🙂
Post # 5
I haven’t posted about it here but I have had twinges of dress regret, though I didn’t know the name until I came on here. The reason was I was pining after a dress for literally a year but was unable to try it on so I went for a different dress. I kept wondering at first if I should have purchased the first dress that I loved for so long without trying it on but I know in my heart that I made the right decision. Thats my reason I had a few twinges, but I have made peace with my dress and I am so excited to see it in a couple of weeks for my first fitting!!
Post # 6
I personally have dress regret because I’ve looked back on pictures of my shopping trips, and realized that other dresses looked better on me, making me look more slim. I still like my dress (it’s gorgeous, it really is!), but I wish I had went with something more form-fitting.
Post # 7
If you want a nerdy explanation for it, read Barry Schwartz’ The Paradox of Choice. He doesn’t talk about wedding gowns per se, but he does talk about how when people are faced with overwhelming numbers of options, even though in theory that should increase consumer satisfaction (because with so many options, there’s got to be one that’s “just perfect” for everyone), in reality it actually decreases consumer satisfaction because people don’t feel confident that they did, in fact, make the best choice and they are worried that they settled too soon, missed out on a better option somewhere out there, etc.
I think that totally captures the phenomenon of dress regret.
Post # 8
I always dreamed of a princess dress. Instead, I bought a strapless mermaid. I rushed into my decision, and wish I had shopped more.
Post # 9
I had dress regret because i bought my dress for the price, I had a really low budget and all the dresses i loved i didnt even want to try on because i knew i couldnt afford them. And also because my dress was champagne, I wanted white.
Which all of this doesnt matter because I never had a wedding, we eloped
Post # 10
i’ve had dress regret on and off for ages and yesterday i finally cracked & went trying on more dresses.
from how i see it. there is a lot of hype and pressure to get it just right – and, of course, it’s such a momentuous occasion that of course you want to look your best! also, you don’t get the same gratification that you do with a regular purchase (if you buy your dress to order – not talking couture!) as you have to wait so long until you get to wear it… maybe the initial excitement wears off?? all of that coupled with the sheer amount of choice available, well, it’s not surprising there’s so much regret! i think you must be one of the lucky ones!!!
my reason for getting it is that i think i was a swayed a little too much by the opinions of the people i brought with me. there were aspects of my dress i loved and because of that i overlooked the niggling doubts at the back of my mind. i ordered the dress the day i found it and in hindsight that was probably my biggest mistake – i think it’s wiser to take a cooling off period & come back again at a later date and see if you still feel the same way.
Post # 11
@KCKnd2: Hell yes. That is it.
Post # 13
I didnt shop enough. I tried on 10 dresses. I want to try on more because its wont ever happen again. Its not the dress I regret. Its that the experience was over so quickly.
Post # 14
I don’t have dress regret and I’m hoping I don’t encounter it. I did purchase quickly at a sample sale, the dress made me cry. I’m still going to try on more dresses for the fun of it. And now I won’t feel pressured to buy anything. LOL.
Post # 15
I’m trying really hard to not have dress regret, but at times I do think about other dresses. I loved it the minute I put it on, and seeing my Mom and Maid/Matron of Honor cry only solidified the fact that it was the perfect dress for me. It’s very simple though. But so am I. I see all these ladies with such beautiful, elaborate and intricate dresses, and it makes me feel at times that I didn’t make the right choice. I have to keep reminding myself that I will look beautiful, and that the dress spoke to me in a way that made me feel like myself but beautiful too.
Post # 16
For me I fell in love with my dress as soon as I tried it on. I had only tried on less than 10 dresses total in a span of 2 bridal shops. Weeks later I was still in love with my dress showing everyone pics. I showed my fiance’s friends wife, (who I’ve gotten to be friends with too,) a pic of the dress and she said, ‘That’s the dress I wore last year for our wedding!’ At first I didn’t care. And then a month passed by…I’m consumed by it. Yes everyone has a dress twin out there but it’s usually not someone you know! I’d like to think I can be mature and get past it but I haven’t been able to. I just think you do all this planning for your wedding day you want to feel like everything about it is original. I can’t help but feel that the dress has lost a lot of it’s luster…Not to mention 3 couples from her wedding will be attending ours! Of coarse they won’t remember what bride wore what, but I will know!
For this reason I’m going to look around. My original dress comes at the end of this September. If I’ve found something that I love more I will get it and sell the original. I have to do it for my piece of mind. Why not?? It’s my frickin wedding!!!