Why gender reveals/scans and not sex?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee

As a medical student, I’ve only ever heard people (i.e. patients and healthcare professionals) talk about the baby’s “sex”. The only time I see “gender” used is here on the bee when people talk about “gender reveal parties”.

ETA: I’m in New Zealand.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think a lot of people don’t like to say the word sex.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sex is the correct term.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

AB Bride:  I use ‘sex’ when speaking about the sex of an unborn Child. I agree with you, that sex is the biological distinction and gender is implied by society. I know some people don’t like tjey way it sounds, but its the correct term.

I don’t work in the medical field, nor have I been pregnant, so I wondered also if they used the term ‘gender’. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The English language is continually evolving. I don’t think we can speak of an incorrect and correct use of the word “gender”. Correct according to who? (Or is it “whom”?)

(About) 50 years ago, “gender” and “sex” meant pretty well the same thing (except “sex” also had the additional meaning of sexual intercourse). Many people have argued that “gender” should be redefined to mean something else, but in a sense that was unfair. There used to be a word for biological sex which could be used in contexts where “sex” was inappropriate (like “sex reveal”), and now (some argue) that other word can’t be used.

I guess what I’m saying is that while “sex” is more correct when speaking of babies, we shouldn’t get upset at people using “gender” in a context where “sex” sounds funny.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Gender is still, technically, a synonym for sex. It’s only as understanding of both societal influence and transgender, genderqueer, etc. developed that we really began to differentiate. I think gender and sex are slowly becoming (and will continue to become) differentiated, but the term “gender reveal” is very common.

  I think it’s partly because most people assume that if their baby has male genitalia, it’ll have a male gender (and likewise for females). It’s just language reflecting the influence of heteronormativity on society.

This is all to say – yeah, it should be “sex,” but I don’t think it’ll change anytime soon.

I personally plan to be Team Green when I conceive, but either way, I wouldn’t do a gender reveal – I don’t want to colorcode my baby or create gender expections for them before they’re even born. It’ll happen soon enough post-birth anyway.

(I apologize if this offended anyone; I’m still figuring out the linguistics of gender, sex, and all their variations, so I hope none of the terms I used are offensive.)

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  LadyBear. Reason: broke into paragraphs
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think of it as the exact same thing, so it’s interchangeable to me. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

They are used interchangeable, though ‘sex’ would be the correct term.  Sex is between the legs, gender is between the ears.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

AB Bride:  I think they (medical personel) may use it when speaking to patients because it’s a common misaprehension among the public at large.

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Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it’s mostly because the differentiation between gender and sex is a pretty recent one, coming with Feminism and Gender Studies and the (slowly) growing acceptance of non-binary bodies.

I knew a girl who was writing her dissertation on historical intersex individuals and who, when her baby was born, specifically asked all the medical staff not to declare the sex so that she could find out on her own. It was very interesting.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I don’t think they’re the same thing at all, personally.  Sex is biological, without surgical aid you don’t have much control over it.  Gender is fully in your personal control and choice.  Unfortunately this is still a murky area with the general population.  It can be a difficult concept to wrap your head around the first time you hear it.  (Widely accepted North American culture only has 2 genders so it gets confused with sex as they seem the same.  There are different cultures with many more genders.  When you see and understand those cultures then it becomes clear that biological sex and gender are 2 different things.)  

And I also don’t think the medical community is afraid to use proper terms for things or to say the word sex.  I’ve yet to meet a doctor, nurse, specialist, paramedic who’s afraid to call anything by its proper term.  And I’ve always heard it asked if you want to know the sex of your baby, not the gender. 

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